Horribly embarrassed about my vagina. What will help with excessive wetness and looseness?

Many thanks for the question and sorry to hear you are going through with this.

There are several things to potentially consider, from reading your description above.

Firstly, in terms of the pregnancy and delivery - was the baby large? are you quite petit? Was the birth a vaginal delivery or c-section.
Secondly in terms of the area - is this case solely during intercourse, or generally through arousal or stimulation of any kind in the area.

It would be useful to also know your age and how many children you have had.

I would consider a panel of blood tests to assess your baseline hormonal status at around day 14 and 21 of your cycle - have you noticed any difference in the process at different times during the month?

Pelvic physiotherapy and kegel exercise will help to improve the overall function of the pelvic area and help. If there is a degree of 'looseness' then tightening procedures can help - these can be non-surgical treatments (such as Radiofrequency tightening or CO@ laser tightening) or surgical through cutting and stitching the vaginal tissue to create for simplicities sake a 'tighter' vaginal tube.

In terms of the excessive wetness, how long since the birth of your child is this. If it is within the first year, then there is a chance that this will begin to settle down on its own. If you are breast feeding, then this may also have an impact on the area, due to the hormonal levels int he body.

I think in order to completely understand what is going on, it would need a thorough investigation and assessment along with regular physiotherapy with am aim to providing answers to your concerns but also longevity in your results.

I hope this is of sone help to you

Best wishes

Rohit Seth

Sorry to hear about the negative effects of your vaginal delivery. I see women with these symptoms all the time. What is important is finding a reconstructive and cosmetic vaginal surgeon with expertise in vaginal rejuvenation. There are many excellent surgical and non-surgical options available to help with sexual function.
The key, though, is finding the right specialist and for this you may need to travel.
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