Hello Petitemama86 and thank you for your question. I have a 21 month old at home and can relate to your situation. In reality, during the initial days after surgery, you will be sore and will probably not feel comfortable having your toddler bumping into your chest. As you recover and feel better after your surgery, you will increase your activities including letting your toddler sleep in the same bed. It is important during the initial post-op recovery period to have help from family, your significant other, etc. The main limitation for someone in your situation after breast augmentation is going to be the lifting and activity restrictions as recommended by your surgeon.As for my post-op routine for breast augmentation patients, my personal goal is to try and 1) get my patients back to their work or usual activities and 2) off of pain medications, as soon as possible. Regarding activities, I forbid any heavy lifting >10 lbs for minimum 2 weeks. At week 3, I allow for an increase in activities as tolerated. However, I still do not allow exercises that activate the pectoralis major muscle for 1 month because I want the pocket that I have formed for the breast implant to be stable and I want the scar tissue that forms to preserve this pocket to be more reliable and prevent activity that can cause the muscle to stretch/rip or move the implant in a less than ideal position. I also don't allow submerging the incisions in a bathtub, pool, ocean, etc for 1 month. Underwire bras are typically discouraged for 6 months, but other than that, almost all of my patients are back to whatever they were doing before surgery, within a month after surgery. Again, what I mentioned above for my patients are a generalization and the regimen I prescribe for each patient is customized to their particular surgery and expected needs. Also remember that the breast implants need some time to "drop and fluff:" in most people they ride high for 1-3 months before they fall into their ideal position. I hope this helps answer your question(s) and make sure to seek consultation with a board certified plastic surgeon with expertise in cosmetic breast surgery if a second opinion is desired. Sincerely, Dr. Sean Kelishadi