How long for my incisions to stop oozing?

Hi Everybody!I'm new to this forum, but have enjoyed reading the comments back to October. I am 57 and in good shape. I decided to get my upper and lower eyelids done. They were so hooded that you couldn't see it if I put on eye shadow. I also had a neck lift. I am now 22 days post-op. I actually thought I would be all recovered in 3 weeks- NOT.Here are my questions:I have a think black line under my eyes that looks kind of like shaky eyeliner, and my eyelids are brown. Does this go away? My eyes are still sort of puffy. One more than the other. Does this go away?The incisions behind my ears are still weeping/oozing. When does this go away?I have some lumpy areas in my cheeks. Other people may not notice them, but I do. Do they go away?My ears are still tender and somewhat numb. Did anybody color their hair before 6 weeks post-op? I'm dying to cover my gray.I'm not sure how I feel about my new look. I don't miss the jowls and I like having eyelids, but I don't feel that I look like "me." I think it's too soon to judge.