I Want To Make My Ears Smaller, Not Change Their Projection

Otoplasty can target different goals including reduction of the size of a particular part of the ear and it does not always involved changing the position/projection of the ears. That may include reduction the ear lobe , or the top portion of the ear, in the areas anatomically called "helix" and "concha". The latter is often done in cases of reconstructive surgery following trauma or cancer and the results can look impressively natural. You may see some examples on our website for each on of the above. 

You appear to have an enlarged ear due to the scapha portion of the auricle. I happen to specialize in doing this type of ear reduction surgery. I provided a link below for additional information.

While possible to make the ear smaller overall, this is not something that is typically performed for cosmetic purposes. It is sometimes performed as part of reconstruction after a cancer is surgically removed from the ear. Any surgery to reduce the size of the ear will leave scars and has a chance to cause a deformity that would be worse than the initial problem and is not something that I would usually recommend.
While a consultation would be needed to make a formal recommendation, there appears to be a loss of some of the contour of the antihelix (inner fold) of the upper part of the ear.  This is something that could be helped with a suture technique, but would affect projection somewhat as well.  Other views of the ear and an in-person examination would be needed.
All the best,

It’s virtually impossible to make a
recommendation without frontal pictures and a physical examination.  Your lateral pictures suggest a
relatively normal ear with the exception of poor development of the superior
inner ear fold.

This deformity is relatively minor
and as a result, your ear would be considered normal by most people.  With this in mind you should consider
the risk benefit ratio before considering the otoplasty.  Consultation with a board certified
plastic surgeon might be helpful as well.

The anatomic part of your ear that is larger compared to the average is ear is called the scapha.  It is possible to reduce the size of the scapha.  However, the scar for this surgery has to be placed on the front surface of the ear,  just under the shadow of the helical rim.  The scar usually heals very well but will be initially red and noticeable.

Your ears look quite normal to me and I think,you are unnecessarily self-conscious about their appearance. The size of your ear can be reduced and the standard way of doing this is to cut out a pie-shaped wedge from the margin of your ear. Unfortunately this will leave a scar and sometimes a wedge excision can also create a cup-like distortion of the ear. I would leave your ears alone, you are looking for trouble.

you appear to have different problems with each ear 
Your right auricle has an enlarged superior third (scapha) that is from excessive cartilage that requires reduction
Your left ear has an enlarged inferior third from a “ptotic” ear lobe
These problems can be corrected 

Ear reduction surgery is a relatively straightforward operation. ears can be made shorter and narrower. It is usually performed by an incision inside the rim of the ear. A crescent of cartilage is removed form the top. This is tailored to the desired height reduction and degree of narrowing. It can be combined with a setback.

Your ear picture, in compared to the ears pictures that you "like," has a relatively underdeveloped anti-helical fold and a thin helix.  This would be a challenging issue to address, but such a procedure would need tp bend the helix anteriorly, while making the anti-helix sharper.
Yours would not be a typical ear surgery.  You are correct that the typical otoplasty is where prominent ears are positioned more posteriorly.
I would need to evaluate a patient like you in person to give a specific opinion, but I think it would be an interesting procedure for both the surgeon and the patient.
Best of luck and if you do find a provider comfortable with proceeding, please post an after picture as well as a description of the surgical technique.  All the best!

It is not possible to reduce the size of the ears.  This is only done under reconstructive considerations when skin caner is present on the ear.  Large aggressive cuts are made in the ear to reduce the size and shape.  The resulting scars are cosmetically unacceptable to patients.