Nearly incisionless Otoplasty is possible but may not be practical
Incision-less Otoplasty vs Conventional Methods:
My best advice is to pick the surgeon and not the technique. Few surgeons use the incision-less technique as it is a "blind" technique though this may be effective in the right...
The actual size of the ears can be reduced. Their prominence may also be reduced. However, it is important to determine what exactly the issue is, since “large” can refer to the length/width of the ears and/or how much they protrude from the head.
Yes, you can move the ears away from the head but it's a much more complicated procedure... as for the normal otoplasty surgery, this places the ear closer to your head and yes, you should be able to put your hair behind your ear after this surgery.