Can you be too fat for surgery?

Im 200lbs an 5"3 an have been told my bmi which is 35.4 is too much for my mid section lipo ! I thought lipo was for girls my size ! I see the tummy tuck pics! Of some huge girls way bigger than me get it done! Wats up wit the , go home lose weight stuff ? An r there doctors in nyc that do work that measures up the the D.R doctors cause i still want my body done! If i could lose weight on my own i would've done it already!!!