An exposed suture must be removed because otherwise one risks inflammation of the ears. Unfortunately there is nothing that can be done about the unnatural edges along the antihelical fold as they are due to the excision of cartilage. This is undoubtedly a disadvantage of the traditional methods...
Each patient has their own pain tolerance and may react differently. However, it is concerning that you describe the pain as extreme. It would be a good idea to see your surgeon for an assessment.