Is there anyway I could get a facelift and hide it from my spouse?

It would be very difficult to hide a facelift from a spouse if you are living in the same place.  I feel it is always best to bring a spouse in on your plans to have the support for post op.
Good luck,
Dr. T

lol, great question and this one should win the  'best title to a question!'I have encountered this before- normally I suggest you 'take a vacation' for about 10 days/2 weeks or wait till your spouse is on vacation and you tell him that you are either having some dental work done or having a skin treatment done that your dermatologist suggests- then about 10 -14 days later, if you are still visibly swollen or bruised (should be minimally by then), you can just say that you are healing a little slower than expected- usually the results are so natural that you will just look rested- I also suggest you do something different with your hair, either styled or color, before you see your spouse again, and that will further throw them for a loop.   Just dont leave my business cards lying around ;-) 

I, also, have had patients that have been away on vacation and kept their surgery a secret from their spouse. It is always best, however, to have your husband on board with whatever you are doing and this would prevent any possible backlash in the future. Remember, a natural look does not mean that you can keep things completely Secret.

Far more important than the technique is the skill and experience of your plastic surgeon. Choose your surgeon rather than the technique and let them explain why one technique may be better than another.  See the below link on some suggestions on finding the most qualified Plastic Surgeon for you.  Always insist on a board certified plastic surgeon.

There are two separate issues here - first, only you can decide whether it's appropriate on the interpersonal level; second, whether it can be done on "physical evidence" level.  In my practice, most patients in a younger age group such as you, can go out in public in 10-14 days without any obvious tell tale signs of undergoing a facelift. Proper preparation prior to surgery, meticulous surgical skills as well as proper after care allow for rather rapid recovery in most patients.  Seek out an expert facelift expert for an in person evaluation. 

This is really an interesting question. Even though I always recommend people are upfront with their significant others, I have had a few patients that do not tell anyone and obviously pay for it with their own funds.This is a personal decision and will be up to you.   For most patients, facial cosmetic surgeries can be done in the office under local anesthesia - mini facelift, mid face lift, neck lift, blepharoplasties etc. For example, bilateral upper & lower blepharoplasty, mid face lift, Short Scar facelift and neck lift usually takes me about 90 minutes in the office under local anesthesia. The goal is to have patients looking natural. If people do not go looking for incisions especially in the facelift, they're usually easier to cover. The difficult ones to keep from friends and family that know you and look at your face will be anything involving the lower eyes and mid facelift liftsurgery.I routinely tell people to take a few days to a week off work and to hide out but some people are very nervous especially celebrities and I usually tell them to hide out for two weeks. As with any scar on the human body, initially scars are red, hard and raised and it typically takes six months to a year for them to become a soft thin white line. Additionally with recovery, there're many things we do to expedite healing such as nerve blocks during surgery, oral supplements, skin care and scar therapy recommendations, lymphatic massage sessions that are included in our pricing.I strongly feel that it's very important to have an honest conversation with your surgeon about your particular situation, lifestyle, work environment and specifically which procedures you're having done so that you both have the most honest answer about your recovery and are realistic with expectations and results.I hope this helps and wish you all the best in your surgery and event. If it does, please take a moment to up vote this answer on the “respond” button on the top right.  

You have posed a very interesting question of which I have two thoughts.  My first thought is that most if not all quick recovery facelift procedures are indicated for early aging of the face, neck, and jowls.  More advanced aging generally requires more involved surgery and although the recovery is not in days, you will look relatively normal in under two weeks.  A consult with an experienced facelift surgeon will help you with this decision.  My second thought is that you probably should be sharing these decisions with your spouse.  In my experience, the patients who have consulted with me who have requested anything more than filler and Botox without their spouse being aware of the situation, not necessarily consenting to it,  are not as happy as if they have shared their journey with their spouse.  

I suppose the answer to that question depends on how much of a change you are going for, and how perceptive your spouse is in terms of your looks and your expenses ;) Generally speaking, I would advise patients to DO tell your spouse, since it is a surgery, and while rare, complications can occur and you don't want your spouse to be in the dark should something arise. Ultimately it is your decision to make, and sometimes patients truly do not want to tell a spouse, and will time the surgery for when the spouse is out of town, and have a friend or other family member be their emergency contact and stay with them immediately after surgery. Also, I recommend patients go to aftercare for the first night after surgery. Some patients decide to stay longer at the facility, to avoid asking friends and family for assistance. Typically the early swelling, and bruising if you have it, will last 7-10 days, sometimes a little longer. If you want a more subtle change that is easy to hide, then you could get a liquid facelift, or nonsurgical facelift. Many patients do hide these quite well, since you can do this in a gradual fashion. 

I have had 4 patients in my career keep their surgery secret from their husbands and hundreds at least who have kept their surgery secret from close family members.  In somebody in your age group you need to stay away for 10 days to allow swelling and minor bruising to fully resolve. In my experience people will not look for incisions which are well hidden if there is no tip off.  I strongly believe that a totally natural and long lasting result is best achieved by a deep plane facelift without a sub mental incision which I have written about.In all 4 instances the woman said she was visiting friends and obviously paid for with her own funds.

Hello and thank you for your question.  The
best advice you can receive is from an in-person consultation.  A facelift can be designed to have a very natural looking result. This decision should
be based on a detailed discussion with equal input from both you
and your surgeon.   Make sure you specifically look
at before and after pictures of real patients who have had this surgery
performed by your surgeon and evaluate their results.   The most
important aspect is to find a surgeon you are comfortable with. I recommend
that you seek consultation with a qualified board-certified plastic surgeon who
can evaluate you in person.
Best wishes and good luck.
Richard G. Reish, M.D.  FACS
Harvard-trained plastic surgeon