Lower face still hard, swollen, earlobes stuck on and pulling forward. Why is this occurring and what can I do?

Did revision over 2yrs ago with expert to correct numerous damages from 2 prior lifts. Now my lower face is still hard, swollen and swells up every morning or in cold or hot weather. My ears went from pixie ears with scars to elongated, ugly lobes too large for my face when I was expecting round and detached. He said not enough tissue and that it would take 10 years to relax and not enough laxity to improve. I feel like a clown and this is torture. Why is this occuring and what can I do?