Hello "Lala," I understand the toll vaginal childbirth(s) can take on vaginal width, the scarring over the posterior vaginal wall that occurs that limits vaginal "stretch" and pliability, and the breakdown and aesthetic battering that occurs at the opening, vulvar vestibule, and perineum/perineal body (the area between the vaginal opening and anus.) Husband/partners will say nothing; he cares about YOU and anything that is attached to & part of you is OK with him. He is just happy to BE THERE... But it's not about him of course, I understand. It is about revising the appearance of the perineum, vestibule and vaginal opening closer to your pre-kids "veejayjay..." so you can smile when you cleanse and inspect yourself. It's about removing all the lax scar tissue from the pelvic floor, re-approximating the levator muscles and recto-vaginal fascia to reconstruct the pelvic floor, decompress your rectocoele, bring the pelvic floor muscles together, narrow the vaginal barrel, reconstruct the perineum and perineal body to strengthen the opening and change the angle of the vagina so as to provide so much more friction and "feeling" and push the penis upward to more stimulate the G-spot and internal and external clitoris. It may be about utilizing FemiLift or ThermiVa on the upper vagina to modestly tighten it and more importantly strengthen the skin and fascia to minimize embarrassing incontinence, it may be about adding an "O-Shot (tm)" to enhance orgasmic strength, and it definitely IS ABOUT adding a course of pelvic floor physical therapy to the mix to STRENGTHEN your muscles to support, enhance, and lengthen the success of your surgery. It also may be about a careful remodel of the labia to produce a more “clean”, “streamlined” appearance. While "Kegels" will not work when the muscles are stretched apart, they are important to continue after surgery This can be accomplished by a MINDFUL, AESTHETIC, and strongly layered surgical repair, perhaps enhancing it with Laser and/or PRP technology. Who can and should do this and what do you look for? Look for a gynecologist or urogynecologist who can prove that she or he is also quite savvy in the importance and techniques for re-building not only the pelvic floor but the perineal body and vaginal opening as well. Beware(!!) of non-Gyn surgeons who promise "vaginal rejuvenation" with a "...machine!" This WILL NOT DELIVER what is "...promised..." Look for a surgeon who is an “artist,” proven by dozens of ‘before and after” photos of results from different LP and VP procedures. A surgeon who has performed at least 20 of these specific sexual vaginal tightening procedures (>100 would sure be nice), who has performed > 100 labiaplasties (if that will be part of your surgery, who has alternate tools (laser; RF) at his or her disposal, and who also informs you of the importance of post-operative physical therapy and automatically incorporates this therapy into his or her program. YES, these procedures may be performed, with excellent exposure, under safer, easier-to-recover-from LOCAL anesthesia if your surgeon is super-experienced. Of course, the exact technique and needs can't truly be assessed until personal evaluation, but most experienced surgeons can, via photos and an in-depth discussion which can even be by phone, give you a price approximation. Best wishes for successful surgery. Research carefully, & don't be afraid to travel if you cannot find the ideal surgeon in your community. You only have one body, and one vagina, you know. Research with care anyone you will be trusting that to... RealSelf's Web link below gives you much additional information on the surgery you seek. below, and other areas of the site, especially blogs, can provide you with additional useful information. Michael P Goodman, MD Davis, CA, USA