I really hate my ears. Is there anything I can do?

Your ears are completely normal. The "goal" photo you show demonstrates an helical fold that is overly pinned back. To be completely honest, if that were a surgical result that I had created I would be very unhappy with it. Your ears are perfectly normal and creating the look that you propose would not be an improvement in any way and might actually be a distraction from the rest of your facial features. We can choose to focus on many things. You should not spend any time worrying about your ears. I know ... this is easier said than done but your ears are completely normal. I hope this information is helpful for you.Stephen Weber MD, FACSDenver Facial Plastic Surgeon

Based on the photos you posted, I think your ears appear fairly normal and would not recommend any surgery for you.  

When patients undergo surgery for normal appearing body which they "hate" the outcome is usually disappointing or a strange appearance results.Please use this information when consulting in person with an experienced Board Certified Plastic Surgeon. 

First, your ear shape is absolutely fine.  There is nothing at all anatomically wrong with your ears.  Do not have surgery on them.  Your mother is right, in this instance.

There is a way to get your ears closer to your head. It takes surgery. However I will not say that you have abnormal ears at this time. If that is what you want just do it. Do not cry. Crying accomplishes nothing.