Gray Hair - No longer something to hide?

NancyM on 14 Mar 2007 at 12:00am
Gray Hair - No longer needs to be hid

The vast majority of women let out an audible scream and then rush to find the nearest utensil, be it Roseanne Barra fork or an eyebrow plucker, or a pair of scissors to cut out first signs of a gray hair.

Who could forget the catchy hair color commercial jingle, "I'm gonna wash that gray right outta my hair?"

I think I even sang that in the shower as a child while lathering up my shampoo.

When did gray hair become the enemy?

On some women, this natural sign of age looks downright fabulous. Take Meryl Streep in the movie, "The Devil Wears Prada..." Her 'do was chic and fantastic, and was no doubt meant to be trendsetting as she was in the role of the most highly esteemed fashion magazine editor in the business.

Meryl StreepIn real life, Roseanne Barr has decided to live in the gray. After undergoing multiple plastic surgery procedures, including a facelift and eyelid lifts  to keep the signs of age at bay, the comedienne is letting her hair go gray.

Barr, 54, was a guest on gab fest, The View, where she told the hosts, “I’m gonna stop dying my hair, and go all the way gray, ‘cause I want to look old, because I am old, and I think it’s damn good to be old too.”  Fifty-four is hardly what I would consider “old.” 100 is the new “old” to me, but I like where Barr is going with her sentiment.

What do you think of going gray?

Is it the worst imaginable beauty faux pas, or an attribute to flaunt? Share your thoughts! 

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guest (unregistered guest) 14 Mar 2007
Nothing is more sophisticated than a lady in gray.
Victoria Solinger (unregistered guest) 15 Mar 2007
Re: Going Gray - It all depends on the person but I love my gray highlights and have no intention of coloring my hair -ever! In addition to going gray with grace, most women need to update their 'do' and makeup. Gray hair can wash out your skin tone and long, straggly hair is not flattering to anyone over the age of 20! Another very important ingredient in the ageing process is how you feel inside and how you project those feelings. Some of us are 'old' at 25 and others seem young at 90. Attitude and thinking of others can be a big plus in the 'battle' to maintain our youth. ongoing battle of ageing. I love your blog!!!
DANIEL OPPENHEIMER (unregistered guest) 22 Mar 2008
Vicky did you go to judson high school in the 60's Dan
99mustang (1 post) 4 Jan 2010
well now,my hair is gray and very long and beautiful.I am 51 years young and every time I go to the store, someone tells me how beautiful my hair is.So much for your thoughts about not flattering after the age of 20!I also ride a Harley Davidson.Eat that honey!!!
Giselle (unregistered guest) 29 Mar 2007
I have seen the beautiful older models in the Eileen Fisher clothing ads. The message is to stay strong and keep healthy. It seems strange that what passes in men as "distinguished" is considered "sloppy" in women. I am very happy that some personalities like Rosanne have quit coloring.
penny lee haynee (unregistered guest) 21 Sep 2007
Thank you for this article! I would like to see more photos,of everyday ladies and how they wear their beautiful gray hair I,m 56 and have decided no more dye for me. thanks Lee
peter frost (unregistered guest) 21 Dec 2007
I've been gray for years, exceptional purple streak. 56 is a great time to give up on trying to be 20-30 forever. But just because you go gray, doesn't mean you need to be traditionally all gray, maybe to could pull ca couple black streaks from behind you ears?
Ma (unregistered guest) 23 Sep 2007

Thank goodness for sensible and intelligent woman embracing growing old gracefully. I am having a hard time understanding why in a world where increasing numbers of us were flower children and believe in the environment and eating locally, organically, etc., we are buying into coloring our hair. When we were girls there were many more role models for older women--and whatever happened to Adolfo, Shrader sports and Castleberry Knits? How come my grandmothers were such elegant old lladies and we are all running like scaredy-cats for Garnier & Clairol?

Julirose (unregistered guest) 24 Sep 2007
Anyone out there letting the grey come in under 50? I'm only 42 but am tired of the maintenance of coloring the grey I started getting at 19. It's amazing how many people have said "Don't do it! Keep coloring it!" I would love to hear the experiences of anyone else who has let it grow in and still looks/feels fabulous.
jet3rry (1 post) 17 Oct 2007
Well, I'm 50 now, but my hair began turning grey in my mid-twenties. At times I've colored it, other times I grew out the grey. A couple of months ago, I became bored, and so colored my hair after being grey for several years. Mistake! The brown is o.k., but I really miss my grey hair, so I'm growing it out again. Over the years, some women have told me to color my hair to "look younger," but the men who've commented on my hair have unanimously preferred the grey - regardless of my age at the time. Whatever you decide, just remember: it's only hair. It's your heart that makes you fabulous!
demarie (2 posts) 9 Nov 2007
I am so glad I found this site! I let my gray hair come in a few years ago and remained that way for about a year. I received compliments from complete strangers saying how pretty it was. Then, I caved in and colored it! What a mistake! My hair grows so fast and all I do is try to keep touching it up and finding the "right" color! So, just a couple days ago, I decided to stop coloring it again. I am going to be 40 in January. I know I can do it, but need encouragement. My Husband loved when it was gray! My Mom thinks I'm crazy to quit coloring it! I will try to find a good picture to show you what it looked like.
Kerry (unregistered guest) 21 Jan 2008
You are not alone. I am 32 and 60% gray .I wear my gray with pride! I havn't colored in almost 3 years.People tell me all the time to color it i would look younger , but i don't think i look old now just different then them. I feel better about being the real me.You can do this enjoy your hair love it, i love mine!
Summer (unregistered guest) 28 Jan 2008
I'm 33 and have a considerable amount of gray. Exactly how much I can't be certain because I've colored it since I was 24. I started going gray when I was 20. I never liked coloring because either the color was alway wrong (old stylists) or I just feel like I'm fighting a losing battle (current colorist is fantastic.) I want to feel comfortable with myself for the way I am naturally so I stopped coloring 3 months ago and I am determined to grow my gray out. Maybe I'm naive, but I think it will look good. I'll just have to get used it at first. All my friends and husband are telling me to keep coloring but I've finally decided that regardless of what other people say, I want to let my gray grow out.
Tena, 38 (unregistered guest) 5 Feb 2008
Hey girls, I am 38 and have been gray for the past 3 years and I have never loved my hair better than I do today... I started getting gray when I was 16 years old. Three years ago I decided to let it grow out, everyone said "you want like it" little did they know. Let all those people keep coloring their hair. They will get tired of it in time to come. My husband and I went to my 20 year reunion about 6 months ago and all of my classmates thought I had colored my hair. I also recieved the award for the most gray. It was unbelievable of how many remarks were made to me about how great I looked. That makes you feel really good. Especially, being 38, gray and having a 4 year old. So, all of you foxes out there why not be "silver foxes" and let it shine.
kme (unregistered guest) 9 Apr 2008
I stopped coloring my hair at 41. I started going gray in college. By my early 40's, the rootline was so pronounced that it was am embarrassment between hair appointments. My stylist was resistant, but I pushed. I have never regretted it.....I get many compliments on it. People tell me if their hair could look like mine, they'd stop coloring, too. I don't miss the upkeep. You do have to keep it in a decent cut, wear makeup, and look feminine, or you could end up looking like an "earth mother".
tpitts (unregistered guest) 22 Apr 2008
Read your email about going gray - I know that you are glad to not be coloring your hair anymore!!!! I am 49 and going gray - I too am letting my hair grow out. Frustrating at times but trying to persevere. Let me know if you are continuing with the gray/long hair. Have a great day!!
jenifire (1 post) 16 May 2008
I am just 34....and on my first young children- on eis one one is three....i feel very very unhappy with teh silver streaks ruining my dark brown/med brown hair. it is not pretty it makes me look old and tired which is not very good for a "youngish" single mom. I am thinking of trying henna- but i tried dye an dthat only lasts aabout a month or two an deven that washes out- i think henna even washes out quicker i am environmentally conscious so i don't want to use any more dye(just tried this twice) any advice? how often do you hav eto henna hair? do i have to buy stock in it no i don't want to be gray before 50 is how i feel especially this nasty stringy look i will let it all be gray once i find my true love...or reach a certain age- i love long rgay/silver hair but if you are married sister- do it- you aren't out looking for a mate and you can just be yourself :)
R (1 post) 20 May 2008
I started going gray at 26 and dyed it brown until 41, at 41 I let my hair grow out and love my salt and pepper hair! I wear it long, my husband loves it. I get a lot of complements on my hair, especially from men. They always comment that it looks great and to not color it.
Dixie (1 post) 25 Jun 2008
Julirose, I have tried many times to let my grey hair grow out, but everybody at work keeps telling me how much older it makes me look, I love it and I'm not going to listen anymore!! Dixie
wendy l (1 post) 5 Jul 2008
hi read your blog. i am only 41, and have finally decided i really am sick of colring my hair, how are you holding up??. like you everyone says are you crazy you are going to look soooooooo old,. the only ones that support me are my children. they say mommmy you will look so pretty. my husband hates the idea too.
Giselle (1 post) 11 Jul 2008
I am 47 years old, so I am under 50. I have done as I said above. I totally love the way It looks. You can't get this from a box. It is like combined bronze and silver, very streaky. I love it. Since I had to cut the ends off I have been keeping it in a "choppy" cut. Since I colored since my late 20s, I really didn't know how my hair would turn out. It was Very Dark at first, but walking in the sun has lightened it up a lot.
Sara-Jane (1 post) 30 Sep 2008
I have decided to go with my gray hair after battling it for years - I am 45. My husband and good friends are supportive - it's just hairdressers and some younger neighbourgood people that find it odd. I think if more women had the courage to be natural and who they really are the world would be a far better place. I am with you - silver foxes let it shine
GinaE (2 posts) 1 Oct 2008
I started going grey when I was 18 and after a short bout with henna dyes in my 30s, I ditched it. I am 53 and I regularly get compliments about my salt-and-pepper (more salt than pepper lately) from men and women alike. Women want to know who my hair dresser is; men just want to compliment. I would never dye!
Anna Hope (1 post) 1 Jan 2009
Have always received compliments on my hair - had my only child when I was 40 - never stopped coloring my hair - now am 65 and am going through the same thing as demarie - the touching it up and finding the "right" color. Would like to see what is beneath. Maybe my hair will be my crowning glory once again. Looking for anything to make the transition easier - will swimming in ocean water help?
Spitman (unregistered guest) 16 Mar 2009
I'm turning 41 and I agree. I have the "Stacey" grey streak in the front, and a few streaks at the top and temples and i want to leave it. I am a nature dark brunette. I think a woman at 50 with dark dyed hair usually looks straw like and hard. I have luxurious dark hair and I hope it stays as attractive when the silver blends throughout. I also agree, make up is key. I don't even mind my wrinkles, there never was a better line than, " I want MORE laugh lines". Keep it real

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