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Rhinoplasty: Mentally and Physically Draining Experience
UPDATED FROM MissIllinois2009
SUPER DEPRESSED
$4,000
Hey guys, Thought I would give you an update. I am now 27. I have had to go through my entire 20s with a bad nose job. Don't get me wrong, it doesn't look deformed or necessarily botched like some nightmare cases. Nevertheless, its very crooked, my nostrils are pointed, and my tip is underprojected. Also, looks different on two sides. I have an all around look of asymmetry to my face. To top it off, last month, I got into an argument with my mother and she called my face ugly and said I have a crooked nose. I'm crying a lot now as I type. I've always been so insecure, but being called ugly by my mother was really painful. I've dealt with a lot the past few years. A very painful breakup, disappointing adventures in dating after breakups, falling outs with many family members, and professional failures... My mother apologized for what she said, but I believe there is a hint of truth to the things people say when they are angry. Anyhow, I'm sorry to all the people who commented and messaged me that I didn't respond to immediately. I've just been super down. Please inbox me and I hope we can chat more. I could use some friends and support now. I have none at the moment. If you are in Chicago, all the better. Maybe we can even actually meet IRL or start some sort of support group for people with rhinoplasty. BTW, I'm seriously considering a revision now. I want to do it before I'm 30, so I can at least live out the last years of my 20s with some happiness and confidence.
UPDATED FROM MissIllinois2009
Only people who have been through rhinoplasty understand
For 3 years, I put rhinoplasty thoughts on the back burner. Its not the end of a relationship that made me question my looks, but I want to look my best to start a new life. Sometimes I question if the bad nose job was the reason I got involved with this loser ex 3 years ago and suckered into his world. Whatever the case, this surgery left me with awful results and deformities which include a hard piece of cartilage (not a graft, but my actual nose cartilage) in a hard ball on the side of my nose, near my eye. Thankfully, my thick skin is able to cover it, but I still feel awful. People who haven't had surgery never know the right stuff to say, especially women! I've always been somebody who loves to give people positive compliments and compliments that are actually flattering. Telling somebody else they are gorgeous and looking at their positives makes me feel great. I'm far from the catty type, but many women out there are the catty types. They will say negative things about you to make you feel worse and some people give bad compliments, which leads me to wonder if they are actually compliments. They will compare me to a celebrity who I find unattractive and who looks nothing like me or they will say something stupid like my nose could be worse.
I feel awful and selfish, sitting here complaining everyday about a bad nose job. I know mine isn't the worse, but it still was a hack job by a doctor who had no business doing rhinoplasty. The bottom line is, my appearance has always been very important to me and this was devastating. While there are people who do not think about their appearance and don't worry about being the hottest woman they can be, I'm not one of those women. I'm also sick and tired of being told by people who haven't been through a bad rhinoplasty that I'm obsessing about my appearance or that I'm acting crazy or like I have body dysmorphia. I'm the last person to have unrealistic expectations. As a matter of fact, I look at some celebrities and I can't stand their fake obviously surgical looks and over-injected faces. When it comes to rhino, I do have realistic expectations and my dream was never to have a tiny nose. I realize my skin and bone structure will not support a tiny nose and it will not look good on me. I just want MY nose, but one that is a little more feminine while still being ethnic. At the end of the day, my dream is to go back to my old nose and consider a primary with an experienced rhinoplasty surgeon. Unfortunately, I can't go back and even the best surgeons jobs sometimes require revisions.
I feel awful and selfish, sitting here complaining everyday about a bad nose job. I know mine isn't the worse, but it still was a hack job by a doctor who had no business doing rhinoplasty. The bottom line is, my appearance has always been very important to me and this was devastating. While there are people who do not think about their appearance and don't worry about being the hottest woman they can be, I'm not one of those women. I'm also sick and tired of being told by people who haven't been through a bad rhinoplasty that I'm obsessing about my appearance or that I'm acting crazy or like I have body dysmorphia. I'm the last person to have unrealistic expectations. As a matter of fact, I look at some celebrities and I can't stand their fake obviously surgical looks and over-injected faces. When it comes to rhino, I do have realistic expectations and my dream was never to have a tiny nose. I realize my skin and bone structure will not support a tiny nose and it will not look good on me. I just want MY nose, but one that is a little more feminine while still being ethnic. At the end of the day, my dream is to go back to my old nose and consider a primary with an experienced rhinoplasty surgeon. Unfortunately, I can't go back and even the best surgeons jobs sometimes require revisions.
Replies (3)
S
April 11, 2014
Have any of you heard good reviews about Thomas? He seems to be a great surgeon but I don't see many pictures of reviews on him!
E
September 23, 2015
I am going through the same stress that you went through. I sit and cry all day long and my family does not know what to do to make me feel better. I wish I was more secure and confident and didn't touch my nose. I can't seem to enjoy anything that I once enjoyed :( life has changed and not for good.
M
January 23, 2016
I am going through the same thing. All I do is cry all day and I'm taking a whole year off school because I can't stand going outside and can't focus on anything. I am only waiting 10 months to have a revision and only consulting with top surgeons in Beverly Hills. I am Italian and Middle Eastern and felt pretty before my surgery from the front profile, but disliked a small dorsal hump on the side. My surgeon messed up the tip completely and made my nose way too small for my face. I can't STAND to look in the mirror and feel so much regret. He left me with a wide, flat, short pug nose and a open roof deformity. I also have a chin implant that is WAY too large for my face that I'm getting removed. I honestly want to die. I am so much uglier than before. I fear that I will never get my old face back. My family get mad at me and say "it's just a nose"- they don't understand. I agree that only those who experience a bad surgery understand how it feels. Everything I loved about my old face feels like it is gone. My eyes and smile have changed for the worst and I have a ugly short nose that looks too small for my face. I also lost my ethic look. My family just tell me to "shut up" and "grow up" and accuse me of having BDD, yet they admit it looks worse than before. It's not BDD if my nose is uglier than before! I feel like I have ruined my entire life. I never go outside anymore and cut off all contact with my friends I am so depressed because of this. I WISH I had done more research and went to a better surgeon who understand what I wanted and didn't destroy my face. I actually wish I had NEVER done this. I am only 21 and this is supposed to be a good year of my life but I honestly feel like I will never be happy ever again. This whole year of my life is gone until I get a revision, and even then things could be even worse. It is so difficult because no one else understands this pain and the pain of not being able to recognize yourself in the mirror and even being afraid to go to the bathroom because I can't stand to see a reflection of my new ugly face. My family call me "selfish" as well because I am crying every day over my nose when there are people in the world who don't even have enough food to eat. This only makes me feel even guiltier and more depressed. I feel terrible that I am being so vain, but I seriously have tried to accept this nose and I just can't do it. It also makes things worse when my parents say they have "no sympathy" because I "did this to myself", as if I WANTED my surgeon to mess up my face. My life is a mess right now and I was so much happier just 3 short months ago. I know that I will live to regret this for the remainder of my life. My only solution is to have revision surgery, which will result in a fake nose made out of ear and rib grafts needed to lengthen my nose and resected columella. I just want to die because of this and the thought my nose will be rock hard and have swelling problems in the morning forever. I just want my natural face back more than ANYTHING. Nature really does know best. Sorry this was so long, but I just needed to vent. I seriously have no life no ever since this nosejob all I do is sit on my laptop all day and cry or research revision surgeons.
N
March 18, 2016
so sorry that happened to you! And especially hard when you are not getting support. I had a nose job when I was 14 and now I am 43 and I still regret it every day!! Luckily mine looks okay- I think I am decently pretty and married a handsome and kind man who tells me I am beautiful every day, But I do have some breathing issues that I think happened because of the nose job. and just the general trauma of having had it done so young- without being able to make a good choice on my own, I resent my parents for that still! I have since had many other traumas in my life- such as bad periodontal disease followed by two butchered gum surgeries- which was like repeating the trauma of the nose job. Now my teeth are permanently less than normal and weak. Anyway- life is hard and trauma is real! I wish you the best and hope you find support and healing.
UPDATED FROM MissIllinois2009
Hard piece of cartilage
Btw, I forgot to mention, I've had a hard piece of excess cartilage by the side of my nose close to my eye since I have had surgery. I'm noticing it more and more. You can't see it at all because I have thick skin, but if I put my finger there I can feel it and it feels so hard and tender when I push down on it.
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D
February 1, 2014
Btw Regan is very picky about which revision he will take. He is at that age that he won't take difficult cases. So if he was going to take you that means your nose is not as difficult to fix. He was going to take me too but turned my friend away and referred her to Toriumi.
M
February 1, 2014
Eeek! That's scary to know mine might be hard to fix and I left his office appreciating his honesty, but feeling disillusioned and like I'm totally disfigured. He kept telling me I have thick skin. My thick skin hides some of the irregularities. Otherwise, I probably wouldn't leave the house. I have a million problems. Lack of projection and everything.
D
February 1, 2014
He is very nice and very honest. I liked him but felt that it was strange that he wouldn't show me pics of his patients. I have to see the style of his noses and his work yet he gave me 101 reasons why he won't show me pictures. I just couldn't go with him. Although I hear he is very good.
S
February 1, 2014
That's correct. I was referred to Dr. Thomas by my friend's husband who is an anestesiologist and often works together with dr. Thomas. He swers by him, he said he's the best. However, even though he came to say "hi" and said that I am his friend, dr. Thomas said that I need complex revision with cartilage and forwarded me to dr. Touriumi. But dr. Shah, whom I went to see next, said that I have enough of septum cartilage and the chance that he'll use my rib is less than 5%.
M
February 1, 2014
Who did you end up going with or are you still waiting for a revision? At this point, all I can do is realize mine could be way worse. There are some celebrities who really have hack jobs, but take pictures and everything. I see that money doesn't always matter. There are millionaires with bad jobs.
S
February 1, 2014
I'm still doing my research. I don't think I'll go to Shah even though he's in Chicago and my friend did her primary with him and it turned out very nice. I want to go with dr.Grigoryants, since has a lot of before/afters of the noses simular to mine with very nice results ( I have a wide nose with thick, oily skin and fat nostrils).But if is strange that he has no bad reviews, who knows maybe he filters them somehow...
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February 1, 2014
Dr G is great for primary but he also turns down difficult revision patients. I saw him in person and he was going to take me on but I felt he doesn't have enough experience with revision and ear cartilage. I didn't have any septum left to use so I was worried it's too much for him.
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Thank you for coming back to update your review -- I hope that you find lots of support and comfort from the community.