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Worst Mistake of my Life!
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Worst Mistake of my Life!
magicbirdAugust 9, 2019
Breast implant/tummy tuck surgery 2 years ago with Dr. Lam was one of the worst mistakes I’ve ever made in my life. I not only look bad but I’ve developed serious health problems as a result of it.
First of all, regarding breast implants: I told Dr. Lam upfront that I was not seeking larger breasts--I instead wanted my breasts to be younger-looking and perkier to re-capture my thin youthful figure (figure size D cups). I told him emphatically, “I do NOT like and do NOT WANT the big-busted look.” He assured me “You’ll be happy with the results.” I trusted him. But to my horror, my post-surgery bra size turned out to be 38 G (38 DDDD). G/DDDD bras are HUGE! And UGLY, too!—IF you can find bras that size at all! Now I look fat and top-heavy and have trouble finding clothes that fit. Dr. Lam gave me exactly what I told him I did NOT want—big breasts! How could he do that! Now I have to consider having the implants removed.
But the worst harm resulted from the tummy tuck. It not only looks bad, with a large flab of skin hanging over the incision (visible through a bathing suit) but it left me with constant debilitating back pain, pain under my ribs, and shortness of breath (s. o. b.). I feel as if my diaphragm is restricted. The pain and s. o. b. are so severe that I cannot even walk 40 feet without stopping to rest. I’ve NEVER had endurance problems like this before! Not even when my leg was badly crushed in a car accident)!—my husband has to hold my waist to keep me upright while walking and for the first time in my life I have to use a cane—like a feeble old lady! The tummy tuck left me unable to walk my dogs, unable to pick up my grandchildren, and unable to do even moderate daily activities. I’ve NEVER had health problems as debilitating as this before, and they’ve gone on for 2 years now. I cry at night because I fear I will never again be the healthy, active person I was just a mere 2 years ago prior to the surgery.
Dr. Lam tried to blame my severe pain and shortness of breath on the very-mild scoliosis I had as a young adult (so mild it was never even diagnosed by a doctor), but that’s not true—I never had severe back pain or S.O.B. until following Dr. Lam’s surgery and the pain and S. O. B have been with me every single day since. And to think I paid $13,000 to have this anguish and pain brought into my life!
I would do anything to turn back the clock and un-do the damage from this surgery. It has destroyed the quality of my life. I do not recommend Dr. Lam as a surgeon.
First of all, regarding breast implants: I told Dr. Lam upfront that I was not seeking larger breasts--I instead wanted my breasts to be younger-looking and perkier to re-capture my thin youthful figure (figure size D cups). I told him emphatically, “I do NOT like and do NOT WANT the big-busted look.” He assured me “You’ll be happy with the results.” I trusted him. But to my horror, my post-surgery bra size turned out to be 38 G (38 DDDD). G/DDDD bras are HUGE! And UGLY, too!—IF you can find bras that size at all! Now I look fat and top-heavy and have trouble finding clothes that fit. Dr. Lam gave me exactly what I told him I did NOT want—big breasts! How could he do that! Now I have to consider having the implants removed.
But the worst harm resulted from the tummy tuck. It not only looks bad, with a large flab of skin hanging over the incision (visible through a bathing suit) but it left me with constant debilitating back pain, pain under my ribs, and shortness of breath (s. o. b.). I feel as if my diaphragm is restricted. The pain and s. o. b. are so severe that I cannot even walk 40 feet without stopping to rest. I’ve NEVER had endurance problems like this before! Not even when my leg was badly crushed in a car accident)!—my husband has to hold my waist to keep me upright while walking and for the first time in my life I have to use a cane—like a feeble old lady! The tummy tuck left me unable to walk my dogs, unable to pick up my grandchildren, and unable to do even moderate daily activities. I’ve NEVER had health problems as debilitating as this before, and they’ve gone on for 2 years now. I cry at night because I fear I will never again be the healthy, active person I was just a mere 2 years ago prior to the surgery.
Dr. Lam tried to blame my severe pain and shortness of breath on the very-mild scoliosis I had as a young adult (so mild it was never even diagnosed by a doctor), but that’s not true—I never had severe back pain or S.O.B. until following Dr. Lam’s surgery and the pain and S. O. B have been with me every single day since. And to think I paid $13,000 to have this anguish and pain brought into my life!
I would do anything to turn back the clock and un-do the damage from this surgery. It has destroyed the quality of my life. I do not recommend Dr. Lam as a surgeon.
UPDATED FROM magicbird
Implants were 575 cc bilaterally.
magicbirdAugust 19, 2019
Someone asked me what size implants Dr. Lam gave me. I called his office and found out.
They are 575 cc bilaterally. That sounds big to me compared to the sizes that other women posted here on RealSelf got--and I did tell him that I only wanted modest implants, that my goal was to have younger-looking, lifted breasts--not larger breasts. I've been tall and thin most of my life and wanted to stay that way.
I was 5' 9 1/2" in my younger years, then shrunk to 5' 8 1/2 in. 3 years ago--and now post-surgery my spine is more curved than it used to be (scoliosis) and I last measured 5' 6" tall! I know the tummy tuck surgery caused my back pain and sudden-onset shortening because I have photos and xrays that show my spine was straighter pre-surgery than it is now.
Does 575 cc bilaterally sound large to the rest of you? Dr. Lam never discussed sizes or shapes with me so I'm totally in the dark.
They are 575 cc bilaterally. That sounds big to me compared to the sizes that other women posted here on RealSelf got--and I did tell him that I only wanted modest implants, that my goal was to have younger-looking, lifted breasts--not larger breasts. I've been tall and thin most of my life and wanted to stay that way.
I was 5' 9 1/2" in my younger years, then shrunk to 5' 8 1/2 in. 3 years ago--and now post-surgery my spine is more curved than it used to be (scoliosis) and I last measured 5' 6" tall! I know the tummy tuck surgery caused my back pain and sudden-onset shortening because I have photos and xrays that show my spine was straighter pre-surgery than it is now.
Does 575 cc bilaterally sound large to the rest of you? Dr. Lam never discussed sizes or shapes with me so I'm totally in the dark.
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August 19, 2019
That does sound like a lot of CCs for modest look. I really do hope your new surgeon can give you what you are looking for and your health is restored.
August 20, 2019
Thanks for feedback, Valley. We just got back from a trip to China. Its I'm not kidding when I say this--I'll bet I was the only woman in all of China, population, now 1.3 billion people, who wore a bra size as large as 38 G/DDDD bra. I'm tall, too. I felt like a mammoth giant around all those tiny, shapely Chinese women---and I looked like a giant, too. And my breasts still sag.

August 20, 2019
August 22, 2019
If you search a lot of BA reviews, most tall woman get larger implants. Most of them that get smaller implants swallow them up, look tiny and are unhappy. At least for the last 2 years of reading reviews that what I found the most. It's weird you didn't discuss w/your PS sizing? Maybe request your medical records and see what was written in there from your initial consult? Just a thought?
As for sizing, I have 500. I know many others that have reviews w/larger implants than me on here 500-1400cc.
September 4, 2019
Hi Spunkcow, Thanks again for your input. I now know that you're right--that it's weird that Dr. Lam didn't discuss sizing with me in advance--but I was really naive and trusting when I went to him. He said, "You'll be happy with the results" and I believed him.
As for me being tall--maybe most other tall women prefer big implants but I just think I look too busty--like my grandmother did in her older years. It's just not who I am. I'll try to add another photo or two.
As for me being tall--maybe most other tall women prefer big implants but I just think I look too busty--like my grandmother did in her older years. It's just not who I am. I'll try to add another photo or two.

August 22, 2019
it looks to me like your breasts look like that because of your choice in bras....i heavily relied on my dr in choosing my implants....i was 56 at the time of my surgery and he chose 575 cc overfilled to 650....i also thought that sounded huge but it was based on the width of my shoulders and hips...i had no existing breast tissue after my weight loss so i am all implant. what i can tell you is naked...they don't look big at all...in a sports bra they look normal....and in each bra i own they look different....my out rage would be over your tummy tuck results....i also wonder if he did not do the muscle repair....as far as your $11,000 price....thats bargain basement price....my lift and implants alone were $13,000....extended tummy tuck and high volume lip added another $13,000....this quite possibly could have been a "you get what you pay for situation" i honestly don't mean to sound harsh but your results are not typical if using a board certified plastic surgeon....i would think twice about letting him operate again at another cut rate price
August 31, 2019
Dear Lillied, This was/is not about my choice in bras--my breasts look terrible in ALL bras--sports bras, strapless bras, you name it. I used to wear a B /C and wanted no more than a D size from surgery. Instead I ended up a size 38 G / DDDD! And I have VERY narrow shoulders (actually, my worst cosmetic feature) and narrow hips. He was working at the Bucks County Plastic Surgery Center at the time--a place my GP recommended to me for plastic surgery--and his price is comparable to 2 other surgeons I interviewed in our area of Pennsylvania.
UPDATED FROM magicbird
I didn't used to look top-heavy. Now I do.
magicbirdSeptember 6, 2019
Here's a photo of a tour friend helping me walk around China (notice the panda in the background if you wish). That means that other people on the tour realized I was having problems walking without becoming short of breath even though I was trying to hide my problems from the other tour people.
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December 10, 2019
Setfree, I tried to add more photos but wasn't able to. I asked the office person what size implants Dr. Lam used and she told me 575cc. That's huge! And I had made clear to Dr. Lam that I did NOT like the "big-busted" look. How could he do this to me! When I pinned him down he told me he went by his [skilled] "eye" [rather than by what the woman wanted]. Had I known I couldn't trust his word I would have found another surgeon. He betrayed me! And 3 other women said in their reviews that he did the same thing to them, too.

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Thank you for your sympathy. It's surprising how much kind, sympathetic words matter.
There's a plastic surgeon not far away who has 45 five-star ratings. I left a message on his answering machine and hope I can get an appointment soon. I also just posted 2 photos of my breasts here. Do they appear 'too large' to you, too?
I just recently learned that most surgeons go over sizes and shapes with women to pick out the right size for them. Dr. Lam didn't do that with me, he didn't even tell me that that was an option--and I really would have wanted to do that.
What can you and others tell me about "shape"? I think my breasts flare out too much.