The girl at the office said I should use steps 1-3 of the starter kit but leave out 4-5 for a week or 2. I noticed that step 3 was a skin lightener. Is this o.k. to use right now? Should I just use the cleanser and toner. Is obagi a gentle cleanser? Is it to harsh to use right now? I would like to get started on the starter kit but don't want to aggravate the new skin.