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I just turned 40 and I felt it really was about...
bwoer8439April 16, 2012
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I just turned 40 and I felt it really was about time! Ever since I was in my mid-teens and finally saw what I looked like with contacts, I was never really happy with my nose. I just dealt with it, thinking that "someday...." Each day that I looked in the mirror I really wished for a change! Well, life escaped me and now I felt the time was right, and I couldn't believe how affordable the cost was. I saw the doctor previously for fat injections in my cheeks, and now that I feel comfortable with the doc (also giving me a discount for being a current patient) I felt it was about time. And when I came back for the consult for a rhinoplasty after seeing him for injections his reaction was, "i'm so glad you came back--I didn't want to say anything before!" I told him this was absolutely ok, that this was something ongoing for 20 years! And he concurred with all of my concerns, which made me entrust him even more: bulbus tip, wide and bumpy bridge, fleshy nostrils, and a short septum. Believe it or not I'm getting a septum implant to lengthen my nose! I don't see that issue a lot!
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April 19, 2012
I cannot believe you're 40.. I would have thought you were in your late 20s! You are absolutely gorgeous! Likewise to Angie, I would never think you would dislike your nose. Can't wait to see your after pictures though :)
April 22, 2012
Aw, thank you! I can't wait to just have this all be over to be honest! There are so many things I'm worried about - the anethesia, having to see my self for the first time with bandages, not being able to breath through my nose for a while, people noticing.... I think most of all I'm so torn on what to tell people, especially my daughter. She was so upset when I told her several months ago, and it hasn't been brought up again. I'm willing to bet she was hoping I forgot, which of course I didn't!
I see that your surgery is tomorrow! I'm very excited for you, and it sounds like you'll get what you're hoping for. It's so reassuring to see that everyone else has the same feelings before the surgery, and then to see that there are so many people that are happy with the results is so encouraging! Good luck!
I see that your surgery is tomorrow! I'm very excited for you, and it sounds like you'll get what you're hoping for. It's so reassuring to see that everyone else has the same feelings before the surgery, and then to see that there are so many people that are happy with the results is so encouraging! Good luck!
April 23, 2012
I know exactly what you mean ... I've never had any sort of surgery before, and I cringe at the sight of blood even. Seeing myself the first couple of days after the surgery is definitely going to be a real mental challenge. Thanks so much for the positive thoughts for my surgery tomorrow, as nervous as I am, I am also so excited. It seems weird to know that the nose I go to sleep with tonight will be gone tomorrow.
I was really worried about people noticing as well and that was one of the biggest things I stressed during my consult. I was really surprised to hear from both the doctors that I consulted with that the majority of time, people don't notice at all, unless they're really analyzing you. I thought they were crazy, but I've talked to real patients who have said the exact same thing. Based on your current nose, I'm assuming you're not going to be doing anything major... I am absolutely positive in your case that people won't notice. I guess it's different with your daughter though especially since she will see you while you're recovering. I am sure everything will work out!
I was really worried about people noticing as well and that was one of the biggest things I stressed during my consult. I was really surprised to hear from both the doctors that I consulted with that the majority of time, people don't notice at all, unless they're really analyzing you. I thought they were crazy, but I've talked to real patients who have said the exact same thing. Based on your current nose, I'm assuming you're not going to be doing anything major... I am absolutely positive in your case that people won't notice. I guess it's different with your daughter though especially since she will see you while you're recovering. I am sure everything will work out!
April 24, 2012
Thank you - how did everything go today? I agree - it's so strange that you went to bed last night with one nose and as of today you have a new nose! I like to think it's more of a refinement - we've really had this nose all along, but just need some tweaking!
I'm hoping for the same result next month. Honestly I will be glad when things move along weeks after the surgery....I'm hoping for the most fantastic summer yet!
I'm hoping for the same result next month. Honestly I will be glad when things move along weeks after the surgery....I'm hoping for the most fantastic summer yet!
April 22, 2012
Cheers to 40! Me too...16 days after my surgery which was my 40th B'day present to myself :))) You are just adorable and I love your nose! but I understand being unhappy with your own nose for years and years.That is how I felt...good luck! I hope you love your results xoxo
Keep us posted
Keep us posted
April 22, 2012
Thanks Star! I have been following your blog (it's difficult to respond to anything during the week due to work, etc.) I'm so happy for you - things are just going to get better and better for you! I'm thinking the hard part is over - post surgery discomfort, bruising, and so on...? Are you back to work yet, and are your employees noticing anything?
Oh, I did see you have a daughter? How old is she and how did you tell her about your surgery? This is the most difficult part of the whole thing for me. My daughter is almost 13 - she is very astute with a lot of wit but when it comes to the well-being of her mother she is a bundle of nerves. When I told her of my fat injections last year she cried for days and she didn't speak to me for a week. Then I told her of my rhinoplasty several months ago and she of course cried again, saying that I'm addicted to surgery (believe me I'm not - you know where I'm coming from!) So my surgery is May 24th, and I have yet to tell her.....
Oh, I did see you have a daughter? How old is she and how did you tell her about your surgery? This is the most difficult part of the whole thing for me. My daughter is almost 13 - she is very astute with a lot of wit but when it comes to the well-being of her mother she is a bundle of nerves. When I told her of my fat injections last year she cried for days and she didn't speak to me for a week. Then I told her of my rhinoplasty several months ago and she of course cried again, saying that I'm addicted to surgery (believe me I'm not - you know where I'm coming from!) So my surgery is May 24th, and I have yet to tell her.....
April 22, 2012
Well lets see...I have 2 daughters 13 & 14. The older one was completely against it when I brought it up months ago and my little one just said she would love me no matter what. I explained to my older one how I had felt all my life and what I wanted to change and asked for her help on a virtual site to come up with something that would fit my face...she helped me and it brought her around...honestly now my nose looks more like hers which makes her very proud :)) I also assure her that I wasn't going to go PS crazy and start trying to look 20...she said what if I want a nose job? And my response was well I dont think you need one but its your decision and might wait until you can afford it yourself :)))))
I go back to work tomorrow and honestly I am a little nervous as they will all be looking at my nose!!! It will be fine but I am so use to feeling shy about my nose...and not wanting to draw attention to it. I haven't gotten use to the fact I don't need to hide it anymore.
xoxo
I go back to work tomorrow and honestly I am a little nervous as they will all be looking at my nose!!! It will be fine but I am so use to feeling shy about my nose...and not wanting to draw attention to it. I haven't gotten use to the fact I don't need to hide it anymore.
xoxo
April 24, 2012
How was your first day back, Star? Thank you for the feedback regarding your daughters. I think that will help with the virtual site. I'm thinking that as long as I include her and be as informative as possible that could help.
April 24, 2012
:) thanks for asking...work was pretty good. I posted an update on my page.
I played around on a virtual site Facetouchup and sent the simulations I created to my PS via email...He gave me feed back and it was helpful.
One month is going to fly by! I am excited for you :)
I played around on a virtual site Facetouchup and sent the simulations I created to my PS via email...He gave me feed back and it was helpful.
One month is going to fly by! I am excited for you :)
April 22, 2012
I just read your post and your last entry is just what's going on here!! My son, 11 literally has spent the last 4 years (since I turned 40 and declared I'm getting a nose job now) crying every time it comes up!! He now just say's NO!!! So, I have decided to approach it from a different standpoint. I told him that he may not always agree with someone's decision, but as long as it is not reckless, he needs to learn to be accepting and even supportive.These are traits that are necessary in all relationships! By the way, I haven't even had my first real consult yet! I hope your daughter is willing to just listen to that perspective. Good luck there!
(I am a Life Coach, mostly relationships, so I am taking my own advise! :)
(I am a Life Coach, mostly relationships, so I am taking my own advise! :)
April 24, 2012
Thank you! Definitely I will let her know that this was a long term decision, and not something that is reckless. I hope your son is coming around - it seems apparent he is very attached to you and he loves you just as you are.
Good luck on your consult - I thought maybe if I brought my daughter to meet that doc that could help? I wonder if the more I expose her the better.... and then she can be supportive. Keep me posted on your journey!
Good luck on your consult - I thought maybe if I brought my daughter to meet that doc that could help? I wonder if the more I expose her the better.... and then she can be supportive. Keep me posted on your journey!
April 22, 2012
Mimmers did you set a date for surgery yet?
April 24, 2012
Yes - May 24th - a month from tomorrow! I cannot believe it's finally going to happen!
If I recall correctly - yours is also the same day?? 9 am for me! I received the paper work last week - no aspirin, the types of clothes to wear, limited wear on glasses after the surgery.... The time will fly by. These days I'm thinking "only a month left with this nose...." I have to say, it's been so many years it's hard to believe it's happening. Are you getting excited?
If I recall correctly - yours is also the same day?? 9 am for me! I received the paper work last week - no aspirin, the types of clothes to wear, limited wear on glasses after the surgery.... The time will fly by. These days I'm thinking "only a month left with this nose...." I have to say, it's been so many years it's hard to believe it's happening. Are you getting excited?
UPDATED FROM bwoer8439
Almost a month to go to my May 24th procedure! Due...
bwoer8439April 23, 2012
Almost a month to go to my May 24th procedure! Due to so many life things, work, school, etc. the next few weeks will fly by. Luckily I can take a week off of work with very little notice and very little explanation. It will be difficult to take the week off, without taking a trip anywhere, lol! I think a big thing will be actually venturing out to the grocery, etc. for necessities. Luckily I have family/friends to help out - I'm also worried about boredom!
One thing that I really wish I could explore is a virtual program with my PS. Even though it seems we're really in line with each other as far as what needs to be done, I really wish I could see what the end result could be like. Especially with, what I don't see very often here, is an implant to lengthen my septum. I do trust the PS, he is so reputable here, and the office staff is absolutely wonderful. I guess I'm getting pretty anxious!
One thing that I really wish I could explore is a virtual program with my PS. Even though it seems we're really in line with each other as far as what needs to be done, I really wish I could see what the end result could be like. Especially with, what I don't see very often here, is an implant to lengthen my septum. I do trust the PS, he is so reputable here, and the office staff is absolutely wonderful. I guess I'm getting pretty anxious!
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April 25, 2012
Omg I'm so excited mine is the same day as yours but at 6am Chicago time =) We'll have to keep each other company lol. I'm so excited to get rid of this big nose lol. Now I'm shopping for cute hats since the PS said no sunglasses =( Thanks BTW for telling me about Coastal Scents I LOVE it works great on dark circles. So if you didn't have children yet would you ever tell them you had your nose done? My husband and I want to start trying after this surgery is over just wondering what you think.
April 26, 2012
Oh I'm so glad on the coastal scents!! I wish I could use all the colors though, lol! I can't believe your surgery is so early in the am. Did you decide to go with or without treatment of dark circles along with your rhinoplasty (fat injections)? I have a 13-year old and I have yet to tell her about my surgery again. I told her several months ago and she was very upset with me. Good luck on starting a family after the surgery! I'm not sure about telling any future kids about my surgery..... Hmmm, I guess I haven't really thought about it!
Hats are a good idea! I was thinking of changing my hair a little, although I do like my current hairstyle!!
Hats are a good idea! I was thinking of changing my hair a little, although I do like my current hairstyle!!
April 27, 2012
When my husband saw the concealer box he asked me if I knew that only my face was getting redone lol, it's a lot of make-up they need to do it in light and dark colored packs. I decided to not do the injections I got nervous with all the bad review on here and I couldn't find many pictures. Maybe latter on though. One of the girls suggested doing a different color like the wash out kind just to draw attention away for the first week. I may do that cause I'm not too excited about cutting my hair lol. Growing up with a big nose I think we hide behind hair and make-up a little I wonder if we will have a sense of freedom once our noses match the rest of us =)
April 29, 2012
Yes, I remember when I was a teenager i wore a lot of make up and my mother complained about that - I told her at the time the reason why....It was to take the attention away from my nose!! I would like to cut down on make up too, and I saw when I tried the virtual site for reshaping the nose, (of course I don't expect my nose to look like a computer image), I noticed that I could see my mouth more and my eyes as well! We both have great features that will pop even more after we have our surgery! I just know the big thing my PS was talking about was "balance" with the rest of the face - that's all I could hope for! Our surgery is on the same day - I just counted 25 more days!!!
May 2, 2012
YAY 23 days =) It feels good now that it's finally May! Are you still nervous? I'm not I'm so excited I can barely contain myself lol. When you saw your PS did he show you in a mirror how the tip would look? When mine did that it opened up my eyes and I was in shock. Maybe now we can both save a little money on make-up =)
April 25, 2012
Good luck with your surgery! I don't see anything "wrong" with your nose but i know the uncomfortable feeling. I wanted to write you because I just had surgery 3 weeks ago and my surgeon didn't provide me pictures either. But I've been to other consultations where I saw pictures . At the end I choosed the surgeon I felt more comfortable with. It also turned out that one surgeon in particular provided me a pic that realistically speaking was impossible to achieve. Ask to see lots of patient's pictures, some with your same shape , ask about the implant and to see pics of patients with the implant. This is what matters the most, the real deal, after all there is a big difference between knowing how to use photoshop and how to perform a surgery. Trust your instinct and make sure your docs has lots of experience in rhinoplasty. And good luck ! :)
April 26, 2012
Thank you NaturalMe! I saw your post yesterday and so I was inspired to call my PS to see some photos of other patients. So I did and the nurse said "Sure! That's no problem." So I go in on May 1st for another consult. I just want to make sure he and I are on the same page. I'm going to grab him, look him in the eye, and say, "Look--I just want to make sure this is right! I've been waiting 20+ years for this!!" I had good results by the same PS for fat injections in my cheeks and I think it looks very natural, and people who know have studied my face and said that I look younger and that they can't tell I had anything done. That is what I'm going for - natural, and still look like myself. It's hard to know what to expect, especially since it's not a bridge bump but a tip refinement plus septum lengthening. It's hard to find photos on the internet that have this.
Thank you again for writing - it helps to have the support!
Thank you again for writing - it helps to have the support!
UPDATED FROM bwoer8439
So I had dinner with some friends tonight and I...
bwoer8439April 28, 2012
So I had dinner with some friends tonight and I was so relieved to hear that one of them will be out of town for a month visiting during the same time as my surgery! I'm not telling her- I'm going to see if she will notice when she comes back this summer!
I did tell my sister in law, whom I've known for umpteen years. She was not supportive. She lives out of town and really I only see her about once per year, and the phone call was rushed, with many other topics, but her reaction was, "well I'm going to spend time digesting this rhinoplasty business." She has no clue. Why would I have to justify anything to her anyway? I was pretty upset. I couldn't believe her of all people I thought, maybe it was the way I told her. I feel like dragging her to a mirror, and pointing out every little thing I see everyday, just to show her. Definitely it's not the worst nose in the world but it definitely needs some tweaking. But then, I would still feel that she would not understand. With that kind of reaction I've decided to tell absolutely nobody (except for my daughter's grandparents, who are helping me after the surgery. They are very supportive!). There is no significant other in the picture, at least I wouldn't have to worry weather or not he would be supportive. I'm still trying to figure out when to tell my daughter!!! Very difficult.
I did tell my sister in law, whom I've known for umpteen years. She was not supportive. She lives out of town and really I only see her about once per year, and the phone call was rushed, with many other topics, but her reaction was, "well I'm going to spend time digesting this rhinoplasty business." She has no clue. Why would I have to justify anything to her anyway? I was pretty upset. I couldn't believe her of all people I thought, maybe it was the way I told her. I feel like dragging her to a mirror, and pointing out every little thing I see everyday, just to show her. Definitely it's not the worst nose in the world but it definitely needs some tweaking. But then, I would still feel that she would not understand. With that kind of reaction I've decided to tell absolutely nobody (except for my daughter's grandparents, who are helping me after the surgery. They are very supportive!). There is no significant other in the picture, at least I wouldn't have to worry weather or not he would be supportive. I'm still trying to figure out when to tell my daughter!!! Very difficult.
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April 28, 2012
I am so glad you called and asked for the pictures . It's our right and if the doctor is acting in good faith it shouldn't be a problem or a secret to provide you with pictures: he should only be proud of it. I choosed a doctor based on his experience and so far he didnt let me down: even called me the day before my surgery to make sure I was ok and if I had last questions ( and it was a Sunday) he then kept callin me personally from his cell the week of surgery . This is what you need : somebody that cares about his patients and is
Faithful to them. A professional that is honest on what he can provide. Remember you are getting a nose job not a boob job that youncan always cover up with a shirt :) so you have to make your choice carefully. Also my doc educated me on being realistic: he honestly and straight talked to me , letting me know that plastic surgery cant make miracles and to have realistic expectations : so as long as you are bein realistic with the outcome you can achieve and you trust your ps professionalism your story will have an happy ending ! You are already gorgeous, this is going to be a success ! Good luck!
Faithful to them. A professional that is honest on what he can provide. Remember you are getting a nose job not a boob job that youncan always cover up with a shirt :) so you have to make your choice carefully. Also my doc educated me on being realistic: he honestly and straight talked to me , letting me know that plastic surgery cant make miracles and to have realistic expectations : so as long as you are bein realistic with the outcome you can achieve and you trust your ps professionalism your story will have an happy ending ! You are already gorgeous, this is going to be a success ! Good luck!
April 29, 2012
You are very pretty already! Im looking forward to reading more as you progress and seeing your results :)
April 29, 2012
Oh, thank you so much! Just 25 more days to go! I just read your profile and yes, we are so brave to go through with this! How liberating it is to tell everyone the truth, and I'm glad you were able to get a lot of support! I think a lot of the stress (most of it actually) is the reaction from people, and bending the truth (I'm a terrible liar). But I don't want to make anyone uncomfortable with what I'm going to go through, as if i'm telling them only to fish for complements, which I'm not.
You are looking very beautiful with your new nose, and so natural! Seeing your post, as well as the others, is very encouraging!
You are looking very beautiful with your new nose, and so natural! Seeing your post, as well as the others, is very encouraging!
April 29, 2012
Hey I left you a message on my page too...but remember this is for you! No one else! I can really relate to having a couple of women close to me not being all excited for me, and having more judgement than anticipated. There are still a lot of people I haven't seen or told and I am sure there will be more bridges to cross...xoxo
May 1, 2012
Thank you - I can hope (and I know this will happen) that as time goes things will get better and better. I think we can only make it as much of a big deal as we want it to be. Really, any unhappiness that comes from others isn't about us, but about themselves!
I have to say that if I saw you on the street, I would never in a million years think a single thing was wrong with your nose! What sort of septum implant are you getting? Gortex? Cartilage graft? Good luck! Truly! I hope you get the exact nose you want and are thrilled with your results. Keep us posted.