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Whether it was an early childhood incident that...
Theloniousmec24March 23, 2014
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Whether it was an early childhood incident that left me with a bloody nose or my full blooded Italian descent, by the time I reached high school, my nose was disproportionately too big for my face. I had perfect Audrey-like bone structure and a graceful dancer's body to match, but there was something getting in the way of men being attracted to me and it was the crater in the middle of my face. My friend told me that if I broke it, insurance would cover the cost, so I used to take my field hockey stick and self-inflict until I couldn't take anymore. Right before leaving for college, hoping to start a new leaf, I went to Dr. D'Amico for my first rhinoplasty. The nose came out immaculately small and I was finally able to feel comfortable in my own skin. However, after being elbowed by someone at a frat party, the nose became droopy and it eventually collapsed. I was devastated and became increasingly obsessed with it so I consulted another surgeon who ended up adding cartilage, making it too big. Tortured and distraught, I returned to Dr. D'Amico's office only 3 months prior to being operated on. Instead of recognizing that it needed to heal, he agreed to operate on it, assuring me he'd do the best he could. Well the best he could left me with too much cartilage, a huge upturned tip and a nose that is totally off balance with delicate features. No men stare at me anymore or ask me out and when I did a photo shoot with a famous photographer I was almost in tears when I saw the nose up close. Richard D'Amico is a very inconsistent surgeon who ultimately did not give me the results I am looking for and I'm devastated that after waiting a life time for a flawless face, I am still unhappy with my nose.
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Theloniousmec24March 26, 2014
This is the face I want. I feel as if people would stop acting like I didn't exist if I had this face, especially men. I'm virtually treated like a cab driver by the average, run-of-the-mill guy who I meet at a bar, so I'm forced to date exclusively Ivy League men who can actually appreciate my humor and intelligence and can see beyond what meets the eye. After the first nose job with Dr. D'Amico, every guy I hung out with wanted to date me, even if I treated them horrendously. Now virtually no one appreciates my beauty unless they actually know me on a personal level. As a woman, it's so dehumanizing to be constantly ignored and treated like a second class citizen. There has to be someone out there who can make me beautiful so I don't have to try as hard.
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March 26, 2014
I'm trying to feel compassion for you but it's hard. Do you realize how you sound to other people? Maybe you should start hanging out with people other than "impossibly thin models" to snap yourself back into the reality. Now you're exclusively forced to date ivy league men" ???? This can't be real
March 26, 2014
I do have some models in my social circle and I can relate-it makes you feel bad about yourself, especially when men talk about how they "only date runway models." If there are men out there who are less shallow, somebody tell me where they are hiding
March 26, 2014
And be glad you are meeting ivy league men! I only ever meet idiots and jerks! You're better off with a man who appreciates personality--men who only care about looks are more likely to cheat on you when you get old
March 26, 2014
of course there are men that are less shallow otherwise the only girls who would ever been in relationships are runway models. If you are referring to men out there who are less shallow AND who are also tall, rich, handsome men well then...can't help you there.
March 26, 2014
I find that even the most authentic, genuine guys value beauty above all else. The third nose job literally ruined my relationship with someone I had been dating for 4 years. He stopped putting as much effort into the relationship after my looks disintegrated. It were as if everything we worked towards was a total waste. Highly traumatic experience being that I met this guy in elementary school and thought he was my soulmate.
December 17, 2014
Where else have you actually looked? Davis--who else?
For what it's worth, you are still incredibly beautiful. I won't berate you for the [RS bleep] you hang out with but they sound inhumanly stupid, including the piece of trash that let you go even after a bad nose job. Genuine guys value beauty highly, but someone that dumps you for still having your face with a bulbous nose added is not "authentic". It means he didn't actually value his history with you.
I have recommendations in NY, including doctors that go to Korea to get the tricks, but I may already have given them to you.
December 17, 2014
@Starrynight316: by the way--that "human Barbie" might not talk about the surgeons she uses, but it's pretty clear her nose looks like a long, skinny bone because that is a piece of silicone in there, stretching the skin taught.
I wouldn't be surprised if she couldn't breath; it matters because you should want your nose narrowed but if your surgeon isn't careful or something goes wrong you'll suffer internal valve collapse, as I have. My nose is now deviated a year after bad rhino.
March 26, 2014
This is the most outrageous post I've read on RealSelf.
March 6, 2015
No its not theres one worse : ( but yes this is bad. I can sympathize with the poster even though I think She is " STUNNING AND GORGEOUS ". She feels the men arent interested because of her nose but it may not be the reason. Im in NY I knew woman with bad noses , bad acne , bad teeth , flat chest and they were men magnets. The secret I realize now at the sad age of 40 is when I look back they were " attractive " not pretty . The difference attractive meaning they had good hair long thick , had nice coloring always tan with nice light eyes, dressed sexy . You can have a perfect face but men especially in bars and clubs just look at a quick glance notice what I call " bells and whistles" i.e. hair, the way your dressed , coloring basically the overall picture
March 8, 2015
Nothing is ridiculous when you're at a bar with your friend, and every single guy at the bar is obsessively courting your friend and ignoring you and then when you decide not to be a wing women you get reprimanded by a guy who screams on the top of his lungs "YOU ARE NOT BEAUTIFUL, YOU ARE NOT CUTE, YOU ARE NOT PRETTY!" Those words and being ignored like a unwanted lepore put me over the edge and made me realize just how unattractive I am, because I continually get treated similarly by men in the same manner time and time again. Not because I'm not funny, or not interesting. When I had my first nose job, I was at all time worst, coping with severe depression, and could hardly hold a conversation. Literally every guy was in love with me. Now it's impossible for me to keep a man interested for more than two seconds. Seriously, I give up.
March 26, 2014
This is simultaneously the most pitiful and exasperating post I've ever read on this forum. You sound insufferably vain, self interested, and fixated solely on cosmetic surface appearances. We're all seeking to enhance our beauty or we wouldn't be here, and yes, we've all fallen victim to the superficial, phallocentric world we live in that brainwashes us to subscribe to some elusive, narrow standard of beauty that's almost impossible to achieve (hence the plastic surgery). I admit that sometimes I feel like a craven fraud for letting myself be controlled by the shallow dictates of society, so I understand your point about it being easier to be pretty. HOWEVER, you are f**king pretty! Like seriously, you are very good looking. But beyond that, step outside your swelled, inflamed ego for a sec (can you?it takes up a whole room, it seems). think about your position in the world. There are people who are hideously disfigured or fatally diseased or starving or raped or brutally suppressed by fascist governments and unable to exert the most basic rights you enjoy (and they're certainly not enjoying the free drinks at ritzy bars made by 'mixologists' with curled moustaches and paid for by your 'ivy leaguers' who you inexplicably refer to in a condescending manner). Jesus. You're so privileged, this might as well be a Gossip Girl plot (but an excessively obnoxious one that got axed cuz it would have made viewers' blood pressures skyrocket with ire).
At the end of the day, the content of your character supersedes all that superficial [RS bleep], so step away from a mirror, stop hanging out with egomaniacal douches who value appearance above all else, and start cultivating other attributes you can be proud of. Because newsflash: even if you attain your perfect nose, your beauty will inevitably fade anyway over the years, so you might as well start becoming a full dimensional, useful human being with something of substance to offer. Otherwise you'll likely be suicidal when you hit 40. Jesus. Get some perspective, woman. You'll be a whole lot prettier if your motivations weren't so vacuous and gross.
March 26, 2014
Also, to clarify, I have sympathy regarding the fact that you say your first survey result was undermined (though quite honestly, you are still very pretty). It's your rationale behind everything makes me want to bash my head against the wall.
March 26, 2014
Starry, these people will never understand :( they don't live in New York and see and experience the kinda of things we do. It's futile trying to explain to them...
March 26, 2014
Thanks Cute. I was thinking of moving to another city where the people are wholesome but the next city I would feasibly move to would be LA which is even worse. Al my friends from camp have always been from LA
March 26, 2014
guys, i'm from orange county--also known as the epicenter of synthetic faces and vapid culture. I get wanting to be prettier--I want to look better, too. But it's not because I want to take the easy route through life and have things handed to me due to my hotness. That attitude is setting yourself up for disappointment when your beauty does fade (and look at every actress over 50--even the most beautiful women in the world invariably end up losing their once coveted looks). It's the motives I'm highlighting here. There's nothing wrong with wanting to be more attractive, and there's nothing wrong with wanting more male attention--but couple it with a true desire to develop other traits and skills, too. And you should want to work hard for the things you get in life; it's more satisfying and a testiment to your mettle.
March 26, 2014
Peanut, I agree having a balanced persona is key. As I said earlier, it's a combination of talent, intelligence and beauty that will get you to where you want to be in life. I don't think I'm unattractive, I just don't think my face is all that and it's something I have to live with my entire life. I lived my formative years being belittled because of my appearance. I was always pretty but I was never pretty enough to really stand out. I still get told I'm unattractive when I go to bars. In fact, I am still really scared by an experience of a guy coming up to me and saying "you are not cute, you are not pretty, you are not beautiful". That would never happen to someone who is actually attractive
March 26, 2014
Sometimes guys say those things when they don't mean it just to hurt you and make you feel bad as retaliation for not wanting to **** them
March 26, 2014
wow, that guy is blind and most likely just projecting onto you his own personal insecurities. ugh, guys who behave like that often harbor deep, dark feelings of inadequacy and should be [RS bleep] stopped from passing on their genetic material. anyway, i know where you're coming from, starrynight. i too would like a stunning face to match the bounty of awesomeness that i have to offer on the inside. i know i'm not ugly, but it would be super sweet to be considered universally attractive, and it definitely hurts to be overlooked at bars when you're standing next to someone super hot. it's all about balancing the external and internal, but yeah man. i'd like to be hotter for sure.
February 13, 2015
@peanut7:
Even as a ranter, you're a great writer.
I totally sympathize with this woman.
It's not merely about "beauty" as an abstract concept, but self-image and comfort in one's own skin.
I'm in New York and while I don't expect a perfect nose...but it makes a face. And the loss of my own "perfect" nose after serious injury following a complex rhinoplasty feels like the worst thing that's ever happened to me, because I no longer really control how I feel in my own skin. I have to fake my emotions. (I have bad skin, this has messed with vascular issues, etc. It made those issues worse, too.)
It's a medical procedure too, y'know? You can't remove a bad nose job like make-up. It's permanent.
I think there's a fine line between fixation on the perfect nose--or eve one with flaws, but that otherwise feels like it belongs on your face and functions well-- and coming into the sense that you paid someone to irreparably alter your body so much that you are no longer comfortable in your own skin or recognize yourself.
There are certain things a young woman wants from life that "mettle" and even a prestigious career will not bring her that have to be pursued and cultivated now. My f*cked up skin and the quasi-cleft nose I developed after someone injected an alloderm filler made me who I am in the worst way, no matter how hard I pushed and tried to "fake it till I make it". It makes things that are supposed to feel easy exhausting.
"And you should want to work hard for the things you get in life; it's more satisfying and a testament to your mettle."
Nope.
There's a fine line between taking a challenge with a good sense of yourself, and experiencing life at a deficit because you can't bear your own face.
May 9, 2015
Totally agree. If a guy tells you you are a seven its bcs he's insecure! And why is he insecure around you? Bcs you're beautiful! Sheesh men aren't that hard to figure out.
March 26, 2014
No, both images are the same nose. Sorry if I came off overly conceited and priveleged. I love your comment about how this could be a Gossip Girl plot. I just grew up around very self involved people and got overly caught up in Manhattan's social scene among very judgemental, appearence-centric types. And most of these posts are seriously exaggerated and dramatized for comedic purposes. Afterall, this is a plastic surgery forum, someone has to contribute some form of entertainment to lively things up. Plastic surgery completely changed my outlook. I was always beauty obsessed but it never really occurred to me how much other people were until I got my first nose job
March 26, 2014
I am have an extensive cultural palette in film, art and music. I can differentiate a Kandinsky from a Miro. I've read every Russian novel known to man. I'm a highly skilled strings and tennis player. I volunteer with autistic children. I can assure that I'm not as vapid as I presented myself and my world is not exclusive to superficiality. Just, going under the knife shifted my whole perspective of other people and my perception of myself because people were reacting to me so differently.
March 26, 2014
ok, that's fair. i think you were doing yourself an injustice and misrepresnting your true values and persona by hyperbolizing your situation. i see now that you are clued into meaningful cultural matters and you value scholarly pursuits. you've just been lured into the vortex of pursuing perfection, and i totally empathize with that, because i have found myself obsessed at times too. i just hope that you (and all of us!) can recognize how crippling that compulsion to attain beauty can become if you let it go unchecked. again, nothing wrong with wanting to be prettier, and it IS easier to be beautiful, of course. but it's important to not let it take over and eclipse all the other beautiful [RS bleep] life has to offer. (btw, i'm not sitting high on a horse of self-righteousness..i have to remind myself of these things, too. all the time.)
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April 29, 2014
Wait omg @Cutelittlenose, thanks for introducing me to the Chainsmokers selfie song. I just found out I know the girl who is the voice of that song. She came to my 20th birthday party. Wow so random. It's such a small world. Crazyyy
July 6, 2014
I'm literally hideous now thanks to this doctor! I guess I will have to venture to Korea. Literally I have to work so hard to get a guy, no guys ever work to get me unless they've seen pictures of me on FB where I edit out my nose in every picture. I guess I'm going to Davis for my next nose job. I just want the face of a model. I have perfect cheek bone and Doe eyes, why can't my nose compliment my face? My life would be so much easier
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