My Biggest Regret - Bay Area, CA

I was always too afraid of getting a nose job...

I was always too afraid of getting a nose job because I would often see over-projected or turned up noses and I didn’t want to look like someone else. I often found myself liking the before pictures better than the after. I was happy with my looks but did not like my bulbous tip.

One night I came across a website that had amazing before/after pictures and they were located in the bay area. I really appreciated these pictures because only the unattractive part of the nose was changed so these individuals still looked like themselves but better and with great results. I decided to make an appt. and during my first consultation, I spoke of these remarkable pictures and asked the doctor which ones were his and specifically if number 4 was his. He replied that he didn’t know because they paid someone else to create the website. I thought it was odd that he wasn’t familiar with his own website but didn’t think much of it. I told him that I didn’t like the upper section of the tip of my nose and wondered if it could be defined...contoured a little on each side so it didn’t have the ball appearance. He said he could fix that and also suggested he shave off a little of the sides of the dorsal hump area. This part of my nose has never bothered me but I figured he was the expert and knew best. I was still unsure if I wanted this surgery and had many more questions and reservations.

I had been communicating with their patient consultant and asked her which pictures belonged to this doctor as the website did not specify. She told me that she knew that number 4 was his and would ask him which others. She later emailed me and told me that 1, 4, and 6 were his work. I was very happy to hear that. Although I was nervous, I told myself the changes we were doing were very minimal and he and his website both said that he believes in a subtle approach. He made it sound like an easy fix and never mentioned any risks and his patient consultant kept telling me how happy I would be with the results and how great I would look so I decided to have it done after a couple of consultations and phone conversations with him.

He was over 3 hours late for the surgery, so by the time he took my before pictures, I had been crying for over 4 hours because of a terrible migraine. The aftercare instructions they gave me did not mention any packing and let’s just say I was not prepared for what lay ahead. It was a very emotional and depressing experience for me. This was certainly not the quick fix I thought it would be. Luckily a friend who had plastic surgery before told me that my emotions were normal and that her doctor had given her information and prepared her for this ahead of time. Unfortunately, I am unhappy with my new look and was surprised to find out that the doctor reshaped my entire nose, from between my eyes to the tip.

I can see my nostrils which resemble a snout and my profile is dramatically different. I've lost my ethnic look (Hispanic and Native American) which I had told my doctor I wanted to keep. My nose is now shorter and upturned. I looked again at the website’s before & after pictures and this time noticed that one of the patients had stated “My mom had cosmetic surgery with Dr. xxxx so I knew I was in good hands”. This implied that Dr. xxxx did her rhinoplasty, not my surgeon as I was told!! I printed these 3 pictures and during one of my following appts, I asked my doctor if these were his work. He said NO to number 4 and 6 but said number 1 was his. I told him but it references Dr. xxxx, not you. He said “umm….uh..she is a shared patient.” I sent both the doctor and his assistant an email telling them how hurt and disappointed I was to find out they had tricked me into this, and other surgeries. I mentioned my bad results because of their deception and I never got a response back from either one.

Another office assistant called me and asked if I would meet with both Doctors. I agreed but I ended up only meeting with the other doctor, who I believe may be the owner. Although he did say a few times that there were some things they needed to work on, he was very careful not to specifically admit any wrong doings from anyone in his office. He said “how do you know those patients are not his?” I told him that my Dr. told me. He said he had no recollection of what pictures were on the website and couldn’t say whose patients were whose. He said that I should be on “their team” and trust. Frankly, I would have much preferred they been on my team. At 3 months post, I’m still unable to breathe efficiently through my nose. I have an appt with an ENT. This has been a horrible experience for me and I feel like an idiot for trusting them.

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Wow it's scarey how arrogant some doctors can be to think they can tell you what would look good on you. It's soooo frustrating. I know what you mean Faith. I don't care how many people tell you that your new nose looks nice, if it isn't what you asked for then the nose job is terrible. I'm sure, as I did, you probably wanted you same lifelong nose you have become friends with over the years but just very subtly fixed just a touch so that people wouldn't even know you had any work done. This new "prize nose" screams plastic surgery procedure and does not look like the person you are accustomed to seeing in the mirror. Trust me love, I get it! It's a nightmare that you wish you could rewind time to undo, but you can't, so you cry and sulk. I'm right there with you. I'm really so sorry that you had to experience this as well. I hope your nose goes thru changes and ends up being the same old one you had before. Be blessed and thank you so much for your kind words on my review. I'm so new in this recovery process that it seems hopeless, a year out of my life looking like this feels like a death sentence. I'd love to see your pics as I see you had them up previously. Keep your head up ma! And keep me posted.
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NewDo ~~ I’m glad to hear that your tip is beginning to drop. Although it's good to meet someone who is going through the same thing, I wouldn't wish this on anyone and am very, very sorry this happened to you. It is very frustrating because this can't be undone and even with a revision, which I'm pretty sure I need to help me breathe again and fill in the dents on the sides of my nose, it still won’t be what I wanted in the first place because my nose has changed too much. I cried everyday for the first 2 or 3 months so I know exactly how you feel. If you want to message me your email address, I’d be happy to share before and after pictures with you.
You’re right about the screaming plastic surgery....my nose does not look natural. It has lost its uniqueness and soft curves. My old nose harmonized with my face. I used to cover the upper corners of my tip with my index fingers to see how I would look like if my tip was contoured. Now I have to completely cover my nose with 3 extended fingers in order to like my face.
You may have a much better experience than I did and it is way too soon to tell. Be strong pretty lady….time heals…just concentrate on your blessings. I am praying things work out for you.
If you really think it was your doctor's incompetence that caused your problems (and not just the fact that he talked you into more than you wanted), you absolutely should take action.
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At 7 months post, I’m still not happy with my...

At 7 months post, I’m still not happy with my results. Now that my tip is finally softening, I’m hopeful that it will decrease in projection. I’ve become a little self-conscious of my profile. As swelling decreases, the visible valleys/dents on the sides of my nose become more apparent. It’s hard to get a decent picture of this. I need to find out what my options are. It is my understanding that fillers are only temporary so I’m not sure how they go about building back when too much has been taken off. Now that more swelling is leaving the mid area, you can see the asymmetry which explains why the dent is deeper on the right side than on the left. This is so frustrating as I had no idea he would be narrowing my nose. He mentioned shaving a little off the sides of a small section of my dorsal where it was once slightly wider but he really carved a good portion of those areas. I am still unable to breathe properly from both sides of my nose but mainly my right. I had a consultation with another PS (facial) and was told I have to wait a year before he can help me. He was very kind and showed true empathy. He (and another doctor) said that I have collapsed valves and noted the dents where too much was taken off. He prescribed some nose spray to reduce inflammation but it doesn’t seem to help much.

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I'm so sorry you had to go through all this faith. When are you doing your revision? did the tip decrease over time?
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Hi MissMj, Thank you! I have not decided on a surgeon for my revision yet. As soon as things slow down at work some, I'm going to start going on consults...near and far. The tip did decrease some but the new shape of my nose is just wrong for my face. I've lost soft curves that used to blend well with the rest of my face. I hate it so much and would do anything for my old nose back. I would also love to restore breathing and try to get my bridge back to how it originally looked as much as possible. I truly believe that it takes over 2 years to see final results because its been over a year and my nose continues to change and is a little stiff/numb on the tip. For some people, this is a good thing as it becomes more defined...for others it means showing dents and mistakes the surgeon made. Good luck to you!
can you post some of your photos?
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It’s been 14 months since my primary and I wish...

It’s been 14 months since my primary and I wish I knew then what I know now. So many other things I would much rather be doing than searching for a surgeon to perform my revision. It scares me when I read reviews from people who haven’t done enough research and trust the first surgeon they consult with as I know that they could also be making the biggest mistake of their life.

Even worse than hating my new face, is what it’s done to me emotionally. I feel violated and victimized by the unethical plastic surgery office that sold me these surgeries. Makes you lose faith in your fellow man and yourself for falling for their marketing schemes and lies. Being depressed has not only hurt me but my loved ones and I hate that I allowed this to happen to my family because I was too trusting and didn’t spend enough time going on more consults and researching.

I realize that I can never get my original look back but hoping to find an honest and very skilled surgeon who can at least restore breathing. Restoring some of my old confidence back is a dream. I am afraid to hope for more as I don’t want to be let down again.

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so sorry to hear :( I hate that I got my nose done too. Its not fair how they dont prepare you what to expierence after rhino. And my nose is still so sore and feels heavy at tip. I wish I had the comfort of my old nose, and my tip is sooo swollen and my nostrils look ridiculous :(
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don't know if it's going to improove with time. I made so many researches to choose my surgeon that I can't even find out what I did wrong! :( Hope that you find an amazing surgeon and can get all your problems fixed! Luck for us. I'm really sending you positive vibrations, as I know how it hurts.
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Thank you Maria. I'm sorry for what you're going through. Hugs...

18 months post - My Biggest Regret - Bay Area, CA

Everything that I used to like about my face is now gone. My smile, those unique looks and expressions are completely different and unattractive. I mourn all day for my former face. All I wanted was a refined tip…a small change. Dr. C assured me the changes would be subtle and no one would notice. I trusted him and believed the technique/skill of the before/after photos on his website to be his work only to find out later that I was lied to.

I discovered during a recent (revision) consultation that Dr. C had broken my nose during my primary surgery. We NEVER discussed this! Breaking my nose is not “shaving a little off”! No wonder there was so much swelling and bruising. Why would he break my nose when that area of my nose was never discussed? I never disliked or complained to him about any part of my nose, other than my tip.

I feel like my life is on hold and fear that the rest of my life will be like this. I avoid people so they don’t notice the undesirable changes to my face. The more time that passes, the more visible the asymmetry and bumps become. My breathing was destroyed during surgery and has not improved at all.

Since posting my review, the rhinoplasty section of Dr. C’s website has been edited. They removed the rhinoplasty patient numbers and the comment which credited the actual surgeon who performed patient #1’s rhinoplasty. I have saved the images of their original website and all emails in case anyone ever wants proof of anything I’ve written.

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Hello Faith, I got a rhinoplasty done three weeks ago and I'm not sure how things will turn out. It seems go be worth the trouble as my nose isn't as long as it was before, but I've noticed my smile and other things I liked about my facial expressions have changed. Would you perhaps consider sharing photos to show how the nose and facial expressions change over months? I'm sorry you did not have a good experience and I'm sure it's not as bad as you think
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Hi Sofiya, I was unable to smile for about 2-3 months after my rhino.  I had what I refer to as a frozen monkey lip.  Eventually your smile will return but you may look different when smiling if your nose was drastically changed.  I don’t think you’ll have that problem.  I look very different now when I smile because my nose has completely changed. I really don’t feel like publicly sharing photos right now.  I look hideous and am very embarrassed and depressed over it.  I used to like the way I looked and only wanted a small change to the upper portion of my tip but instead my entire nose was redone and redone very poorly.  It looks completely different from every angle, which I find very unnatural.  It has lost all its curves and uniqueness and I no longer look like myself.  You can see some photos here: http://www.realself.com/question/rhinoplasty-revision-advice-fillers-recommendations-appreciated    If you pm me an email address, I will send you some additional photos.
Hi, Sorry for my bad english, i'm french. My situation is really similar (problem aesthetic and functional) and I feel the same feelings. Very difficult period but Miss_k is right : gather strength and regain confidence in solutions (and with an other surgeon). Sorry, i would be more loquacious and explicit but with my poor english vocabulary... Just you have my moral support and solidarity. Bonne journée (night in France)
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Still pining for the former me -- hate this plastic surgery unnatural look

Nearly two years have passed and I am still very depressed and unhappy with these horrid results. I hadn’t used a mirror to look at my profile or other angles in months because it is too depressing but I finally decided to take another look in hopes that there was some improvement or perhaps I was hoping for a miracle but once again, my heart sank as I have to face the fact that these results are permanent and that I will never be that girl again.

I look at my old photos and would do anything to look like that again…it hurts to look at both my before or after photos. Plastic surgery ruined my neck, my face, my smile, and my life. I now have to live with a very unnatural plastic surgery appearance. I had been aging very gracefully and wish so badly that I would have never stepped foot in that PS office who reeled me in with their rehearsed sales gimmicks.

The cost of a revision is very high starting at 15k+. I still have not been able to save that kind of money and not sure when I will. I have a family and other financial obligations and it’s disheartening to know that I will use money that is much needed for other important things.

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I am sorry as well. Nose can change the whole face appearance. Just a little bit volume there and less there make one a different person. I can relate with you for mourning after your old face. I too miss my old smile and other facial expressions. After my rhinoplasty, my upper lip is almost like frozen and can't stretch as much into a wider smile. Also, my left eyelid looks different. I am not sure if this is due to the surgery, but none of my before pics show such assymetry in my eyelids as the ones of post rhinoplasty, which is the only cosmetic surgery I had done. No fillers either. I understand that saving up for a revision as well as finding a surgeon you can trust is a hassle. I never saved up for my primary. I decided it was going to be like a purchase of a house - I get it and make my monthly payments which has been working out for me so far. Have you ever considered getting a credit card with no interest for 18 months and doing the payments that you are comfortable with? If your are so unhappy with the surgery outcome, then for the sake of your sanity and peace in the family (I'm a mother of two and my husband gets to hear every day about my nose, so I understand) a revision would probably be a good investment. I hope you will find your peace and I am sure that people around you don't notice so many things as you do on yourself. Even if they notice that you had a rhinoplasty doesn't mean they still don't consider you beautiful. Don't worry about other people. They only perceive what you radiate. Be good to yourself and evaluate your options. I wish you good luck and look forward to your updates.
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I'm so sorry that this hapenned to you! I hope something can be done to fix it. Thank you for sharing your story. All the best for you!
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Thank you Nimi!
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