Should I feel guilty about getting Tummy Tuck?

I am 23 and is considering getiing a Tummy Tuck after 2 pregnancies. I will be using the money I have saved up but I am feeling guilty and selfish about giving up this chunk of money.

But I have very low self esteem with it. I never let my husband look or touch my stomach because I am so embarassed by it. I am too young to feel this way, but then again I know if I don't do it now it just might be my only chance. Help!

Should I feel guilty about getting this done?

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A: Deciding on Plastic Surgery

Bahram Ghaderi, MD

It is common to feel guilty about doing somethig major for yourself - specially if you have a family. There are many things that cost way more than plastic surgery that make us feel good but don't make us feel guilty - such as that shiny new car, redoing the kitchen, landscaping the backyard. If you are a... more

A: should you feel guilty about getting a tummy tuck? No!

Elizabeth S. Lee, MD

If your body has been stretched out by pregnancy, it can be fixed with a tummy tuck.  Tummy tuck is not usually just about taking out wrinkly skin.  Usually the muscle layer has stretched too, and that muscle separation called rectus diastasis can actually affect the strength of your abdominal wall... more

A: Guilt over plastic surgery

Steven H. Schuster, MD

 Now here's a question I truly can't answer, for only you can.  If you are done having children and are not taking food out of your kids mouths to do the surgery then you shouldn't feel guilty about improving yourself.  I hear this all the time about patient reluctance and plastic surgery.... more

A: No vanity guilt for a mommy makeover

Richard Baxter, MD

The concern you express is a common one, and there are a cuople of reasons behind it. First, I think a lot of people reason that it is either nobler to live with one's imperfections, or misunderstand that no amount of exercise and diet will tighten up the skin after pregnancies. Plastic surgery is always for... more

A: Plastic Surgery Guilt

John P. Stratis, MD

You sound like a very good candidate for the procedure but the decision does not stop there. There are many personal and family considerations that go into deciding to have a cosmetic procedure.  Everyone needs to decide for themselves what is the correct decision for them. When you seek advice from... more

A: Why?

William B. Rosenblatt, MD

Do you feel guilty when y ou buy a nice car or dress? You want to look and feel your best. You must take care of yourself first so you can give y our family your best. Do not feel guilty.

A: Should I feel guilty about getting Tummy Tuck?

Peter A. Aldea, MD

Absolutely, Not! If you are done having your children, there is no reason in the world why you should continue to feel this way : "very low self esteem with it. I never let my husband look or touch my stomach because I am so embarassed by it". http://www.cosmeticsurgeryspecialists... more

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