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28 Years Old, Getting Ready to Transform - Vancouver, BC
UPDATED FROM berrybear
Not sure if i want Rhinoplasty anymore....
$8,000
The last few months I've been feeling less and less into the idea of getting rhinoplasty. The two biggest issues for me are the fact that I can't control the outcome of the surgery/I cannot see what it will actually look like in the end. The other reason is functionality. I dont want my breathing to be messed up. I have complex ptsd and anxiety and while my nose function is perfect, I tend to breathe shallow.
I also truly LOVE certain aspects of my nose. How it looks from the front and other certain angles.
I'm continuing to work on loving and accepting myself just the way I am. Even if others reject me or don't understand me. My job is to accept me and like me. It doesn't matter what they think... it's my opinion that matters most.
I am still conflicted however, because I have an image in my mind of my beauty that is close to how I look now, just slightly different. I wouldn't want a drastic change in the appearance of my nose. But all rhinoplasty is major, right? It's the most difficult and delicate type of cosmetic surgery. I wish I could gaurantee a positive outcome... aesthetically and health wise. I dont want to mess with my face when I know I AM beautiful already.... yet i want to make changes. I keep going over this.....
I know the answer for now is to continue focusing improving other parts of my life. Even if I did have the surgical outcome... how much would my life actually change? I have too many other important goals. I want to be a better person on the inside. I want to love myself and take excellent care of myself.
Rhinoplasty is on the back burner in my mind... it's definitely something I am still considering... but I'm focusing on other areas of healing in my life at the moment.
I also truly LOVE certain aspects of my nose. How it looks from the front and other certain angles.
I'm continuing to work on loving and accepting myself just the way I am. Even if others reject me or don't understand me. My job is to accept me and like me. It doesn't matter what they think... it's my opinion that matters most.
I am still conflicted however, because I have an image in my mind of my beauty that is close to how I look now, just slightly different. I wouldn't want a drastic change in the appearance of my nose. But all rhinoplasty is major, right? It's the most difficult and delicate type of cosmetic surgery. I wish I could gaurantee a positive outcome... aesthetically and health wise. I dont want to mess with my face when I know I AM beautiful already.... yet i want to make changes. I keep going over this.....
I know the answer for now is to continue focusing improving other parts of my life. Even if I did have the surgical outcome... how much would my life actually change? I have too many other important goals. I want to be a better person on the inside. I want to love myself and take excellent care of myself.
Rhinoplasty is on the back burner in my mind... it's definitely something I am still considering... but I'm focusing on other areas of healing in my life at the moment.
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Replies (4)
N
April 9, 2016
Your concerns are valid. I personally lost some features of my nose that I liked and hated it for a long time because of that. You can see people on my review saying how they like it while I complained lol. Ideally you will find a doctor that can preserve your features, but if not, are you willing to give up some uniqueness to look better? I think the answer should be yes before you move forward.
J
October 20, 2016
You can definitely get the nose of ur dreams but it might be an emotional roller-coaster if u r a perfectionist like me. I had 2 nose jobs before I was happy. The first one was done so horribly and I had to live with it for a year before getting revision. The second one was done well but looked really bad for 3 months after surgery (it looked over-done). Apparently, the surgeon 'overdid' things because as the nose heals, it changes and settles in. During this time I experienced an identify crisis because while the surgery was a success, it completely changed my face (I did a tip lift as well, it's a very dramatic change). I consider myself a very strong and confident person but at this point, i had suicide thoughts. Now 1 yr post op, am I happy with my nose? Yes! Would I do it again? Yes, knowing that I would eventually get my ideal nose. Would I recommend surgery to anybody? Yes but with a caution. It can be emotional.. really emotional. There's a chance that u may need a revision so be prepare emotionally and financially if u do decide to move fourth. And finally, make sure u surround urself with ppl who support u and stay positive. Good luck darling!
R
June 30, 2017
I hope you didn't go through with it. You sound like you've come to accept your unique nose, that's yours alone. You are beautiful and confident. Don't do it.
UPDATED FROM berrybear
Reflection....
My face looks so different all the time--to me anyway. I'm a Gemini Sun sign with a Gemini Moon and Libra rising. Geminis are known as the twins--they're two-faced. Well I feel like my face is a chameleon.
P.S. I have mild-moderate alopecia. This is why I have a lot of photos with wigs and others my natural short hair. (Also wearing weaves in certain photos, and in a couple of older photos I have natural long hair). I started developing alopecia when I was 13. I struggled with dealing with this, felt so incredibly insecure about it for my teens through to my middle 20s. Now at 28, I'm embracing my hair and actually liking it and not feeling completely horrible about it. I took out the weave and and have been embracing the short hair even with its thinness. I think I definitely had BDD issues with that, in addition to my nose. Even though I have lost a lot of hair, I think I have mistakenly seen it a thousand times "worse" than it really was or is. And now as I've been going down my healing path, as my mind and heart have been rebuilding, good changes are happening. I feel like I'm actually getting younger because I've begun to learn how to accept and care about myself the way I deserve. My hair has been getting thicker slowly in the last couple of years. It really has. For the first time instead of losing more hair it seems to be getting thicker...and softer, shinier, and buoyant!?! The changes are very subtle but there is definite improvement. It’s going back to a richer colour like I had when I was a teen. The most important thing is that I am actually SEEING this improvement when I look in the mirror. I can actually find appreciation for physical traits I used to feel mortified and ashamed for.
And in the last couple years especially I don't care about letting people see the "bad side" of my face. Well I do care a lot but, the difference is that I don’t see myself as a “monster” anymore from the bad angles (most of the time). I don't let it stop me from living my life as much anymore. I’m dealing with it and actually liking what I see even if it’s not conventional beauty. If my nose hooks down when I smile and it creates a more pronounced hump…I’m not going to hide in the corner anymore and refuse to let people make me laugh or show my face in pictures. I've posted some of my "worst" photos to this public website. Would NEVER have done that before. I take more selfies now of my "bad side" than my "good side" (from only certain angles though) just to force myself to LOOK and SEE the beauty in my imperfections. I see other people as beautiful so why don’t I deserve that same kindness and appreciation? I now participate in a very public activist group and I'm photographed and video recorded in truly unflattering positions at times. I've gained like 20 pounds since this picture which was taken a year and a half ago, and yet I allow people to take photographs of me when I have the most awkward expressions on my face (like with my mouth half open in mid-sentence and squinting one eye and most unflattering nose angle.. lol). I'm honestly amazed that I'm beginning to be at this place in my life where I am looking at myself in the mirror and allowing others to see me. I used to feel so ashamed. I am still at the beginning of my healing journey but I am very thankful to have made this progress so far. You might think that I’m about to say I don’t know if rhinoplasty is right for me, but no. I do want rhinoplasty one day. Because I want to believe that I can create the body I want. I want to realize and materialize the beautiful person I feel in my heart. I am beautiful now! And so YOU, whoever is reading this. No path is better than the other depending on what you personally desire. Cosmetic surgery or not, beauty can be found and made in any thing. I haven’t found myself yet, still waiting…and I’m actually enjoying the waiting process where I face my flaws and come to appreciate them. I'm in a really good mood tonight and feeling loving towards myself and creative. I hope I'm not weirding anyone out or that I'm coming across as preachy with this sort of post. Ah, well, [RS bleep] it! :)
P.S. I have mild-moderate alopecia. This is why I have a lot of photos with wigs and others my natural short hair. (Also wearing weaves in certain photos, and in a couple of older photos I have natural long hair). I started developing alopecia when I was 13. I struggled with dealing with this, felt so incredibly insecure about it for my teens through to my middle 20s. Now at 28, I'm embracing my hair and actually liking it and not feeling completely horrible about it. I took out the weave and and have been embracing the short hair even with its thinness. I think I definitely had BDD issues with that, in addition to my nose. Even though I have lost a lot of hair, I think I have mistakenly seen it a thousand times "worse" than it really was or is. And now as I've been going down my healing path, as my mind and heart have been rebuilding, good changes are happening. I feel like I'm actually getting younger because I've begun to learn how to accept and care about myself the way I deserve. My hair has been getting thicker slowly in the last couple of years. It really has. For the first time instead of losing more hair it seems to be getting thicker...and softer, shinier, and buoyant!?! The changes are very subtle but there is definite improvement. It’s going back to a richer colour like I had when I was a teen. The most important thing is that I am actually SEEING this improvement when I look in the mirror. I can actually find appreciation for physical traits I used to feel mortified and ashamed for.
And in the last couple years especially I don't care about letting people see the "bad side" of my face. Well I do care a lot but, the difference is that I don’t see myself as a “monster” anymore from the bad angles (most of the time). I don't let it stop me from living my life as much anymore. I’m dealing with it and actually liking what I see even if it’s not conventional beauty. If my nose hooks down when I smile and it creates a more pronounced hump…I’m not going to hide in the corner anymore and refuse to let people make me laugh or show my face in pictures. I've posted some of my "worst" photos to this public website. Would NEVER have done that before. I take more selfies now of my "bad side" than my "good side" (from only certain angles though) just to force myself to LOOK and SEE the beauty in my imperfections. I see other people as beautiful so why don’t I deserve that same kindness and appreciation? I now participate in a very public activist group and I'm photographed and video recorded in truly unflattering positions at times. I've gained like 20 pounds since this picture which was taken a year and a half ago, and yet I allow people to take photographs of me when I have the most awkward expressions on my face (like with my mouth half open in mid-sentence and squinting one eye and most unflattering nose angle.. lol). I'm honestly amazed that I'm beginning to be at this place in my life where I am looking at myself in the mirror and allowing others to see me. I used to feel so ashamed. I am still at the beginning of my healing journey but I am very thankful to have made this progress so far. You might think that I’m about to say I don’t know if rhinoplasty is right for me, but no. I do want rhinoplasty one day. Because I want to believe that I can create the body I want. I want to realize and materialize the beautiful person I feel in my heart. I am beautiful now! And so YOU, whoever is reading this. No path is better than the other depending on what you personally desire. Cosmetic surgery or not, beauty can be found and made in any thing. I haven’t found myself yet, still waiting…and I’m actually enjoying the waiting process where I face my flaws and come to appreciate them. I'm in a really good mood tonight and feeling loving towards myself and creative. I hope I'm not weirding anyone out or that I'm coming across as preachy with this sort of post. Ah, well, [RS bleep] it! :)
Replies (3)
B
December 10, 2015
I used to NEVER let people take photos of me as I could not control the angles from which they were taking the photographs or video (or I would literally avoid being around people because I felt so horrible about my appearance) ... I am amazed that I'm being as socially active as I am now. I continue to have debilitating anxiety but it is getting less and less severe somehow. I mentioned the having gained *20 lbs. thing* because I'm proud of the fact that I'm accepting my body head to toe despite it not being the slimmest shape. Now I feel like I could be offending someone and feeling insecure about the fact that I can't delete this post. I don't want to trigger body anxiety in anyone else. Hope this isn't coming across badly! Goodnight all
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G
December 10, 2015
So not weirding anyone out!!
It's good to get out how you feel!!! It's very important to remember that we are all beautiful, and that you do need to be at a stage in your life where you can deal with such a big change, especially when it comes to your face!!!!
Good luck with everything you seem like a really nice person with a big heart, as long as you don't change that, then that's all that matters !!! :)
That's my exact attitude to life oh well f$&@ it..... You only live once!! :) I got to the point where I wouldn't care and pull faces for the camera, but something I've always wanted to do still, so here goes the cast comes off tomorrow wish me luck!!! :)
It's good to get out how you feel!!! It's very important to remember that we are all beautiful, and that you do need to be at a stage in your life where you can deal with such a big change, especially when it comes to your face!!!!
Good luck with everything you seem like a really nice person with a big heart, as long as you don't change that, then that's all that matters !!! :)
That's my exact attitude to life oh well f$&@ it..... You only live once!! :) I got to the point where I wouldn't care and pull faces for the camera, but something I've always wanted to do still, so here goes the cast comes off tomorrow wish me luck!!! :)
B
December 10, 2015
yes exactly!!!
Ahhh I'm really excited to see your cast off too!! GOOD LUCK!!! :D
Ahhh I'm really excited to see your cast off too!! GOOD LUCK!!! :D
D
February 3, 2016
I love your nose . I also have a hump and have a love/hate relationship with it. I'm still not sure what I want to do. I'm afraid if I take it down it will take away from my unique look, but it makes me feel insecure at the same time. Sometimes, when people take a bump down their eyes change and lips , and it's not always for the good. They look more plain . That's what I'm afraid of
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S
December 6, 2015
Hey, I was speaking to a nurse friend who used to work with Dr Dymtrysyn years ago. That is who Denton studied under. She said he is the "nose guy" in town. I had my work done by Warren, as you know, who I think is skilled, but extremely conservative and he certainly didn't do what we had planned nor enough to give me the result I sought and an asymmetry issue to boot. (But the asymmetry is due to him not doing osteotomies and spreader grafts, not because he botched anything. He just didn't do what was necessary and what he said he would do). So, I don't know if I would recommend him, but I think if you are really specific and tell him what you want, he is skilled enough to do almost any procedure.
I would suggest you need bridge reduction (dorsal hump) a little tip rotation and maybe bit of tip refinement. I think your nostrils are great and can be left alone. Remember to talk about projection and degree of angle. Man, I wish I had it to over again, (Not the revision but the first time, I would have been soon much more specific).
Good luck with your pursuit!!
I would suggest you need bridge reduction (dorsal hump) a little tip rotation and maybe bit of tip refinement. I think your nostrils are great and can be left alone. Remember to talk about projection and degree of angle. Man, I wish I had it to over again, (Not the revision but the first time, I would have been soon much more specific).
Good luck with your pursuit!!
B
December 6, 2015
Hey Squirrelly! Thank you for commenting and giving your suggestions :)
I like Denton, I went for a consultation with him. The photo imaging he did for me looked pretty good. However, I also had a consultation with Dr. Buonassisi and I think I liked his imaging more, plus Dr. Buonassisi spent more time talking with me and answered my questions in detail. So I felt way more comfortable with that and I like the photos of his rhinoplasties on his website more than anyone else in Vancouver. Do you have any thoughts on Dr. Buonassisi? Did you have a consultation with him? I have only gone to Denton and Buonassisi so far. I was thinking of going to Dr. Kibblewhite too. I hadn't really thought of going to Warren because he doesn't have any photos on his website and then I didn't like how Dr. Warren wasn't there for your cast removal!!
Thanks again for your comments. There definitely is SO MUCH to consider and so many more questions for the doctors and questions to ask myself. I feel like I need to bring a pen and paper with me and making notes during the consultations and I want to research the terminology.
Yes, I want to reduce the slight hump on my bridge and do a slight tip rotation. I'm not sure if I want to do tip refinement yet. Dr. Buonassisi said that I have thick skill, and Dr. Denton said I have medium skin. Maybe I'm in between medium and thick skin? Dr. Denton didn't touch my nose at all, though, and Dr. B did.
Ahhhh so much to consider!!
Thank you, good luck with your healing right now. Even though Dr. Warren didn't get it right this time, I bet you will be able to find someone to successfully give you the aesthetics you desire :)
I like Denton, I went for a consultation with him. The photo imaging he did for me looked pretty good. However, I also had a consultation with Dr. Buonassisi and I think I liked his imaging more, plus Dr. Buonassisi spent more time talking with me and answered my questions in detail. So I felt way more comfortable with that and I like the photos of his rhinoplasties on his website more than anyone else in Vancouver. Do you have any thoughts on Dr. Buonassisi? Did you have a consultation with him? I have only gone to Denton and Buonassisi so far. I was thinking of going to Dr. Kibblewhite too. I hadn't really thought of going to Warren because he doesn't have any photos on his website and then I didn't like how Dr. Warren wasn't there for your cast removal!!
Thanks again for your comments. There definitely is SO MUCH to consider and so many more questions for the doctors and questions to ask myself. I feel like I need to bring a pen and paper with me and making notes during the consultations and I want to research the terminology.
Yes, I want to reduce the slight hump on my bridge and do a slight tip rotation. I'm not sure if I want to do tip refinement yet. Dr. Buonassisi said that I have thick skill, and Dr. Denton said I have medium skin. Maybe I'm in between medium and thick skin? Dr. Denton didn't touch my nose at all, though, and Dr. B did.
Ahhhh so much to consider!!
Thank you, good luck with your healing right now. Even though Dr. Warren didn't get it right this time, I bet you will be able to find someone to successfully give you the aesthetics you desire :)
L
December 6, 2015
Hello Squirrelly, did your nurse friend say Denton is the best for noses? Did she say anything Bartlett? I read you wanted to see another doctor locally - do you want to see Denton? I read something that spreader grafts make the nose wider and most people do not like that. Do you think your nose is narrow and you need them? Also, can you please explain what you mean you would have been much more specific - what would you have asked? Any advice would be highly appreciated.
L
December 6, 2015
Hi BerryBear,
Sorry I posted a comment for Squirelly on your page! I still haven't figured how this website works! I am surprised you want to go to Kibblewhite. His reviews are not good and his pictures are not great either. Do you know someone who did their nose with him? As for Warren, it is not easy to get an initial consultation with him. I booked for my son in August and they told me the current wait is 18 months. We are not in a rush so it is fine with us. As my son's problems are functional and Warren does not work with MSP, I am still considering other doctors. Have you thought about Bartlett?
Sorry I posted a comment for Squirelly on your page! I still haven't figured how this website works! I am surprised you want to go to Kibblewhite. His reviews are not good and his pictures are not great either. Do you know someone who did their nose with him? As for Warren, it is not easy to get an initial consultation with him. I booked for my son in August and they told me the current wait is 18 months. We are not in a rush so it is fine with us. As my son's problems are functional and Warren does not work with MSP, I am still considering other doctors. Have you thought about Bartlett?
B
December 8, 2015
Hey Lar0007, no worries! I know, this site is a bit confusing to navigate. And then you can't delete comments *grrr* !
Kibblewhite isn't a doctor I'm seriously considering, but I am interested to hear his opinion, and who knows how I would feel after that! I'm planning to go to as many doctors as I can to get a feel for who might be right. Checking out Bartlett's site now, yeah his photos look quite nice. Oh gosh that is a long wait list at Warren's office! Have you and your son been to a consultation yet with another doctor? It's good you and your son are taking your time with this process :) I feel like I have so much more to learn about rhinoplasty constantly! Thanks for commenting, have a good night
Kibblewhite isn't a doctor I'm seriously considering, but I am interested to hear his opinion, and who knows how I would feel after that! I'm planning to go to as many doctors as I can to get a feel for who might be right. Checking out Bartlett's site now, yeah his photos look quite nice. Oh gosh that is a long wait list at Warren's office! Have you and your son been to a consultation yet with another doctor? It's good you and your son are taking your time with this process :) I feel like I have so much more to learn about rhinoplasty constantly! Thanks for commenting, have a good night
L
December 8, 2015
No, we haven't been to any consults yet. He will be having a jaw surgery sometime in summer 2016 (once his teeth are ready for the new position) and then we will be looking into the nose surgery. His oral surgeon offered to do rhinoplasty and this is when I started researching it. And gosh I am glad I did. I read reviews on the oral surgeon and they said he is good for the jaws but not for the nose. He is an oral and facial surgeon but I don't think he is highly qualified for rhinoplasty. I am a bit in shock that he actually offered rhinoplasty. Now I am even having second thoughts about having him as a jaw surgeon. However, all 3 orthodonists we consulted with, recommended the same surgeon. As for rhinoplasty, I read all the reviews on ratemd on local plastic and facial surgeons and on this website, and basically every surgeon has negative reviews but Dr Warren's reviews were best of all. I am considering Bartlett and Denton as well but our focus now is on jaw surgery and genioplasty.
I'm happy that someone relates to this feeling.
I think you are super pretty too!
Yeah, Dr. Buonassisi's work is quite natural and feminine in my opinion.
So much to consider... so many pros and cons, certainties and uncertainties..
Regardless of anything It feels good to focus on loving and appreciating my nose just as it is... :)
Thanks and have a good night