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Liked my Nose More Before - Sarasota, FL

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In retrospect, I am regretting my decision and...

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In retrospect, I am regretting my decision and fear there is a long road ahead for me to accept my new nose. For years since I was a teenager, I disliked my nose. In the past few years, I had debated back and forth if i should do it but was scared of the surgery and if it was the right time-1st warning sign!. Honestly, 90% of people said I did not need a nose job-2nd warning sign! If only my mom, whose opinion I trusted did not say...well you could straighten it a little. Sorry Mom, but did you really think this through???? Is it worth risking your life and sanity for "the possibility" of looking prettier?? First of all, in life, there are no guarantees. On another note, over many failed relationships, I would blame my looks: my nose was too big, I was not skinny enough, my boobs were not big enough-3rd warning sign (psychological and anxiety issues). Of course, I degraded myself in other ways too. I am not outgoing enough, fun enough, bitchy enough ("too nice" was a reason from one ex -boyfriend), confident enough. Somehow, I believed that "one day" I would not have all this issues and possibly being prettier. A small part of me, believed the nose job would make me feel more confident or attract more men! Big Fat Lie! Do you ever realize how much you truly lie to yourself??? What I really needed to do was work on my self esteem and love myself and be more gentle and not critical of myself. Self talk is really powerful

When I told my Dad about my impending decision, he is the only one who questioned my desire to change myself---4th warning sign! Why are you doing this? I do not think you need to. I said ultimately, I would like to meet someone to get married one day..being 32 and all. I knew I was somewhat superficial in judging the people I dated and assumed that i could not be a hypocrite and not think they judged my looks too. Then he asked, but do you want someone who likes you for your looks? The obvious answer was no-5th warning sign. Why does everything seem so clear in hindsight!???? so frustrating.

I did not feel depressed or sad about my future upcoming plans but now I do! I am trying so hard not to obsess about my appearance, but this experience made me realize how much importance I put and society in general puts on a persons appearance!!!!! It made me so angry to think about how I risked my life and my health for this reason. I was generally attractive before, maybe a 6or 7 on a scale of 10. Now I look at myself in the mirror and I do not recognize myself and all I see is the uneven nostril and the slightly upturned tip(that I did not ask for, thank you very much! :( ) I really wanted the change to be subtle and I did not want the tip changed more than 1 mm on both sides of the tip. This is the exact words I gave him..I never asked for him to upturn the tip.

Anyways, in conclusion, I would say unless you have a deformed nose (severely) , do not do it. Also a prerequisite: you must have no self-esteem issues, or anxiety issues, because this will make them worse!!! WARNING.....I can say I felt stable before this procedure and since my life has felt unstable rollercoaster ride. I am learning to love myself and accept myself and treat myself better day by day and have faith in the life lessons I have. Just want to help anyone out there, who are on the fence about this.

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May 14, 2014
I'm sorry you are so unhappy with your results and experience! It does sound like you're being awfully hard on yourself for having gone through this. I hope you're able to find peace with the situation eventually, but I do appreciate you sharing your feedback about your rhinoplasty on RealSelf.
May 21, 2014
Hello Want2HelpOthers! Your desire to help others is commendable, but may I ask more about you? How much time has passed since your surgery? You may not believe it now, but eventually you are going to see improvements in your nose. Also, it is my belief that you did the right thing in having the rhinoplasty. Your nose has been the focus of a great deal of negative energy for a long time. It's time now to let that go. Take a good look at yourself and see all the beauty. There is a lot there and it comes through in your post even without photos! My best to you!!!
May 21, 2014
Thanks for the comment. I guess my issue is my dr did more than I agreed to. I was surprised because I did not want the change to be too drastic. I am working on acceptance of it, now and it is still healing (mostly on the inside). I just think plastic surgery is a risky thing and people should consider the negatives before doing it. Hopefully I will eventually like it more than my old nose
May 21, 2014
oh its been 2.5 weeks now
May 21, 2014
I agree that surgery is risky, but did you see the recent news article about the healthy, young fitness instructor who had a little bit of filler work and subsequently suffered 8 strokes and a heart attack as a result? She has now sworn off fillers, of course, and regrets that she ever had them. She is also quick to point out that the practitioner who gave her the filler injections was a registered nurse with very good credentials. So, yes, there are risks in everything. But I have to wonder if Joan Rivers, Dolly Parton, and others would have had the long, successful careers they have had if they had stayed away from cosmetic procedures.
May 21, 2014
By the way, if you choose to post photos, I think you will find the RealSelf community to be both helpful and supportive. I wish you the VERY BEST!
May 21, 2014
joan Rivers and dolly parton are not good examples of plastic surgery lol
May 21, 2014
Thanks...i think naturally looking plastic surgery is the best and there are a ton of actresses and actors that were successful in doing it ..but not everyone needs it to be successful
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June 3, 2014
Can I see pics? Of before and after?
November 14, 2014
I find your review very helpful and insightful so thank you very much for that. From what i read on here 2.5 weeks is no where near enough time to tell what the final outcome will be and i only mention this as something to keep in mind in the moments you are feeling really down about your decision. Try not to be so hard on yourself
November 14, 2014
Hi its unbelievable how identical your story is to mine. I look ridiculous my new nose is too short and narrow for my face, and the tip more bulbouse than before which was what I thougt I disliked the most primarily. Even my surgeon said he didn't think I needed rhinoplasty and just before the surgery I thought I probably don't really need this. However somehow I thouht that a subtle change would make me look amazing WRONG! I'm so mad at the surgeon for allowing me to go ahead. it's the most horrible feeling knowing that I made the biggest mistake of my life. I am seeing a psychologist to try and get through this disaster so I can move on. If you have doubts don't do it please, because you can't ever go back. this feeling of regret and helplessness is not worth the the slight chance you may look a little better.
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9 years post

9 yr update

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acceptance of not having a perfect nose. Although I like my nose better now. I do not think it is perfect, but the doctor did a very good job of making it natural. I originally did not think the tip would be chanegd but it made the previous asymmetry of my nose more obvious. I have accepted not that I will not have a perfect nose and I am ok with it and will not do surgery again. I had unrealistic expectations and my previous post made sense in the sense of psychological treatment before surgery or after being required but I have accepted my face more now. It is a lifelong journey of trying my best to love myself

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