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Rhinoplasty and Chin Implant Ruined My Life
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Sorry this is so long and for the over-excessive...
m0katJanuary 23, 2016
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Sorry this is so long and for the over-excessive pictures. Most of the "before" photos are at the top and "after" are at the end so you don't have to look through all of them. I have fallen into a deep depression since my primary rhinoplasty and chin implant. The hugest devastation is the loss of identity. I am Italian and Lebanese and used to have a more 'bulbous nose' with a slight hanging columella that the doctor resected without my permission. Now when I look in the mirror all I see is a wider flatter nose with more nostril show. I wake up every morning to this never-ending nightmare and am petrified to look in the mirror. I was happy and felt confident from the front before surgery and only disliked a small bump on my side profile. I liked my nose from the front, and I told my surgeon this. I told him I did not want it to change. He told me that "refining my bulbous tip" would make my nose look better, and I STUPIDLY agreed to this. Why would he even suggest this after I said I liked my nose from the front? Clearly to make more money off a 'full rhinoplasty'. I never agreed to have the tip raised or columella raised. "Refining the bulbous tip" also showed NO change to my 3D images from the front profile, so I believe I was mislead. I feel betrayed, stupid, and guilty for being so vain and trusting. I never went in with the intent to get a chin implant, but the surgeon pointed out that I had a receded chin and told me that a chin implant would better balance my face. I asked him "Will it change my face from the front?", to which he replied "No, only the side profile". So I agreed to it, stupidly. He also never told me what type of implant he was using, just that it was "removable". The chin looks HORRIBLE and WAY too large for my face. It has also distorted my smile completely and lengthened and widened my face so much from the front (See Photos below). My surgeon lied to me about this. The 3D morphs also showed no change to my front profile. I went to go get the chin implant removed and was told that he used a GORETEX implant, which is much more difficult to remove than sillocone (which can just be popped out). Odds are I will never have my old chin and smile back and there could be permanent nerve damage during removal because the GORTEX implant moulds into the bone or something. This was devastating to hear. My surgeon NEVER warned me about this and I feel he did not adequately obtain my informed consent. He was just trying to get more money from me and permanently messed up my face forever. I am getting the implant removed, but I am very scared that I will have permanent damage resulting from this.
My family and friends don't understand how I'm feeling and say things like "it's just a nose"- but it's NOT "just a nose". It literally changed my whole face- my whole look. Only those who know the pain of looking in the mirror and no longer being able to recognize yourself understand this pain. They also say "you can just get the chin implant removed", not recognizing that this isn't just a simple procedure. I went from a happy person to a depressed, ugly person in an instant. This has destroyed my social life and I am also taking an entire year off university until I am able to get a revision and recover. A bad rhinoplasty is like an achilles heel; it can completely ruin your life. I wish I'd just left the small bump alone because now my entire face has been destroyed, along with my confidence and happiness, and my identity is done. My nose no longer drops down when I smile and looks way too short and flat for my face. Everything I loved about my nose previously has been stolen from me. I wouldn't wish this pain on my worst enemy. I obsess about my nose constantly. It is my life now. I take pictures and then cry at how horrific they look and longingly look at old pictures of myself and cry again about how my old face is gone forever. Then I feel guilty about obsessing about my nose when there are people who don't have enough food to eat in the world- people with "real" problems. But I can't get it out of my head. I am filled with unspeakable regret and sorrow. All I do is research revision surgeons and obsess over my nose. My life has been literally destroyed because an amateur surgeon did what he wanted. We are never as vulnerable as when we are lying on the operating table. The regret I feel is overwhelming and I fear that I will live with this regret for the remainder of my life. I wish I could turn back the clocks and stop myself from having surgery. I would pay 10 times the cost of my original surgery to the person who could prevent me from doing it. I really hope to God that a revision surgery will give me my life back. No one else understands how this feels unless it happens to them- this is the truest statement. Friends and family have grown frustrated and insensitive telling me my nose looks "fine" and to "grow up", but seriously I can barely recognize my face in the mirror. My eyes have changed and so has my smile. This experience has been horrible. Anyone considering cosmetic surgery please do TONS of research and ask SO many questions. I only went to one consult and went with the first surgeon I met. I did NOT do enough research and did not ask enough questions. I thought "I only want a small hump removed- no big deal", but now my nose has SO many issues and problems that only a complex revision surgery will correct. All surgery IS al big deal- even removing a small bump can result in dramatic changes to the nose. I will never get my old face back, and I don't think I will ever accept this. I am heartbroken because of this. Unless you absolutely HATE your nose, don't have rhinoplasty and only get a silicone implant put in so that it is easily removed. I have done so much research and have consults schedueled with all the "top" surgeons. Can anyone recommend a surgeon who can add tip projection, a bulbous tip back, build back a dorsal hump, and rebuild a columella? I feel like rebuilding the columella is a rare request, so perhaps most surgeons don't have experience with this. Thank you all
My family and friends don't understand how I'm feeling and say things like "it's just a nose"- but it's NOT "just a nose". It literally changed my whole face- my whole look. Only those who know the pain of looking in the mirror and no longer being able to recognize yourself understand this pain. They also say "you can just get the chin implant removed", not recognizing that this isn't just a simple procedure. I went from a happy person to a depressed, ugly person in an instant. This has destroyed my social life and I am also taking an entire year off university until I am able to get a revision and recover. A bad rhinoplasty is like an achilles heel; it can completely ruin your life. I wish I'd just left the small bump alone because now my entire face has been destroyed, along with my confidence and happiness, and my identity is done. My nose no longer drops down when I smile and looks way too short and flat for my face. Everything I loved about my nose previously has been stolen from me. I wouldn't wish this pain on my worst enemy. I obsess about my nose constantly. It is my life now. I take pictures and then cry at how horrific they look and longingly look at old pictures of myself and cry again about how my old face is gone forever. Then I feel guilty about obsessing about my nose when there are people who don't have enough food to eat in the world- people with "real" problems. But I can't get it out of my head. I am filled with unspeakable regret and sorrow. All I do is research revision surgeons and obsess over my nose. My life has been literally destroyed because an amateur surgeon did what he wanted. We are never as vulnerable as when we are lying on the operating table. The regret I feel is overwhelming and I fear that I will live with this regret for the remainder of my life. I wish I could turn back the clocks and stop myself from having surgery. I would pay 10 times the cost of my original surgery to the person who could prevent me from doing it. I really hope to God that a revision surgery will give me my life back. No one else understands how this feels unless it happens to them- this is the truest statement. Friends and family have grown frustrated and insensitive telling me my nose looks "fine" and to "grow up", but seriously I can barely recognize my face in the mirror. My eyes have changed and so has my smile. This experience has been horrible. Anyone considering cosmetic surgery please do TONS of research and ask SO many questions. I only went to one consult and went with the first surgeon I met. I did NOT do enough research and did not ask enough questions. I thought "I only want a small hump removed- no big deal", but now my nose has SO many issues and problems that only a complex revision surgery will correct. All surgery IS al big deal- even removing a small bump can result in dramatic changes to the nose. I will never get my old face back, and I don't think I will ever accept this. I am heartbroken because of this. Unless you absolutely HATE your nose, don't have rhinoplasty and only get a silicone implant put in so that it is easily removed. I have done so much research and have consults schedueled with all the "top" surgeons. Can anyone recommend a surgeon who can add tip projection, a bulbous tip back, build back a dorsal hump, and rebuild a columella? I feel like rebuilding the columella is a rare request, so perhaps most surgeons don't have experience with this. Thank you all
Replies (160)
January 25, 2016
You were beautiful before the surgery and now you look stunning. You still have a lot of swelling and need to be patient before scheduling before judging the outcome of the surgeries. I don't even believe most surgeons would touch your face at only three months post-op. Please, listen to your friends and family.
January 27, 2016
Thank you for your kind words. I hope it is swelling, but the bridge looks so flat and wide to me at the moment that I am unsure. I understand that I have to wait a year for a revision, but if my nose does not improve in the next 3 months then I will definitely need another surgery.
January 25, 2016
I can totally relate to how you feel. I'm Hispanic but I had an Italian / Arab type nose people thought I was Arab/Italian/ Persian all the time . It was strong, long. But I didn't like how big it looked from the side. I was completely shocked afterwards and it's been hard but trust me you're very early in the recovery process. Nose jobs actually take a long time to settle up to 1-2 years . I'm close to 4 months post op and I'm starting to feel much better about mine even though there's some things that still I don't like yet. I have the same thing where the bridge was lowered and so my eyes looked really flat and wide and just ugly they lost their almond shape but it's gotten better as the swelling went away, I still have a bit of swelling on the sides of my nose between my eyes.
Just relax, I know we are our biggest critics but in all 100% honesty I don't feel like your nose job was a drastic change, it still looks the same from the front just a little wider but I guarantee you you still have lots of swelling that's making it look wide.
Your chin does look a little big but give it time I actually still have swelling 4 months later or feels right sometimes like when I eat a lot of salt or exercise or just randomly at the end of the day. It's gotten a lot better. For a while I thought I had a huge ugly block jaw but it's gone down a lot and I get a lot of compliments now.. If you don't like luckily it's one of the easiest things to reverse and fix you can always get a smaller implant or just remove it altogether. Honestly your chin wasn't too bad before . You're sill beautiful even after and your profile looks nicer. You still look ethnic , you have your eyes and lips etc going for you. I felt generic and plain and like I lost my ethnicity after but even with the smaller nose some people still think I look middle eastern because of my eyes and skin.
Just take it easy, I know it's hard specially the first few months because you become really obsessed and anxious about everything and you begin to overanalyze but just take this time to focus on other things. Trust me I was depressed realy bad the past few months I shut myself in my house and did not go out and I had lot of regret and depression my family and friends al said it wasn't that huge difference and that my nose actually looks good and not tiny but to me it seem like 100x worst lol but I'm starting to feel better now I've just kept busy with work and hanging with my close friends to kee my mind off of it otherwise I google noses all day and compare my old pics and read botched stories etc.
Just take it easy. You're still beautiful and it's not a huge change, you're still healing . In a year you'll probably love your new look. And if you don't it's ok it can be fixed.
Feel free to pm me if you need support or have questions .
Just relax, I know we are our biggest critics but in all 100% honesty I don't feel like your nose job was a drastic change, it still looks the same from the front just a little wider but I guarantee you you still have lots of swelling that's making it look wide.
Your chin does look a little big but give it time I actually still have swelling 4 months later or feels right sometimes like when I eat a lot of salt or exercise or just randomly at the end of the day. It's gotten a lot better. For a while I thought I had a huge ugly block jaw but it's gone down a lot and I get a lot of compliments now.. If you don't like luckily it's one of the easiest things to reverse and fix you can always get a smaller implant or just remove it altogether. Honestly your chin wasn't too bad before . You're sill beautiful even after and your profile looks nicer. You still look ethnic , you have your eyes and lips etc going for you. I felt generic and plain and like I lost my ethnicity after but even with the smaller nose some people still think I look middle eastern because of my eyes and skin.
Just take it easy, I know it's hard specially the first few months because you become really obsessed and anxious about everything and you begin to overanalyze but just take this time to focus on other things. Trust me I was depressed realy bad the past few months I shut myself in my house and did not go out and I had lot of regret and depression my family and friends al said it wasn't that huge difference and that my nose actually looks good and not tiny but to me it seem like 100x worst lol but I'm starting to feel better now I've just kept busy with work and hanging with my close friends to kee my mind off of it otherwise I google noses all day and compare my old pics and read botched stories etc.
Just take it easy. You're still beautiful and it's not a huge change, you're still healing . In a year you'll probably love your new look. And if you don't it's ok it can be fixed.
Feel free to pm me if you need support or have questions .
January 27, 2016
Sorry this is so long! I also liked my nose from the front, but did not like it from the side. It’s only been 3 months post-op for me, but I miss my old nose SO much. I think I need to have my bridge raised again or narrowed because it looks SO wide and flat between my eyes now. Hopefully it is just swelling, but under certain lighting it looks like I don’t even have a bridge to my nose- just flat space. Pictures flatten everything out, so my nose does look a lot flatter in photos. However, in person ALL I see is my nostrils when I look in the mirror now. Since the columella was raised up and my nose was deprojected my nostrils flare now and are a lot more visible than before. I don’t think I will ever get used to this. I truly hope the change wasn’t that drastic and maybe it won’t be really difficult to get it closer to how it was before. I know I am only 3 months post-op but I am sure that I want a revision- although I know I have to wait a full year to have one. I am definitely going to get the chin removed, I just don’t like how it makes the front of my face look longer and wider. Hopefully it won’t be too difficult to remove it. Thank you so much for your kind words, I feel so hideous at the moment and my eyes look weird and close together because of the wide bridge. I think getting the chin implant out will help me to get closer to my old face back. I agree that my profile looks better, but it was NOT worth it at all. I agree that I really need to focus on other things. I spend WAY too much time googling revision surgeons and obsessing over my nose. I literally only go out when I HAVE to now, never just when I want to. I feel like I am no longer free. I know that strangers aren’t staring at my nose when I walk down the street, but that’s how it feels. I am SO much more conscious of it now than I ever was before. My family and friends told me it looks a lot smaller from the side, but they also say that it looks like a ‘normal’ nose and doesn’t look ‘weird’ or deformed (which is how it feels to me). Also, like you mentioned in your other posting, several of my family members who hadn’t seen me in a while didn’t even notice that I did anything to my nose. People tend to look at a person’s entire face, not just their nose.
Thank you again for being so kind and understanding, I doubt that I will ever like this nose, but I truly hope it improves by the end of the year. I hope a revision surgeon can make it look similar to my old nose again if I am still unhappy with the results. My nose also looks flat, wide and Asian to me in the mirror now. It no longer drops when I smile and just looks so odd and too short. I also think I am experiencing a identity crisis. I agree that I never knew this surgery would be so psychologically difficult- I only considered the physical recovery before surgery. My only concern was “does it hurt to get a nose job?” (meaning physical pain)- I never even considered that there would be any level of emotional pain. I am sorry that you also experienced depression and regret following this surgery. I am glad you are feeling better about your nose! I saw your before and after photos, and I think that you look great both before and after! Your profile was not bad at all to start- I think we overanalyze our faces too much. I think the chin adds good balance to your face and it doesn’t make the front of your face look weirdly long and wide (which mine did). I do think we notice things more than family and friends. In certain photos you posted, I couldn’t tell which ones were the “before” and “after” photos (from the frontal profile) until I ONLY focused closely on your nose. If I just glanced at your whole face I didn’t notice a difference immediately. Also, you still look ethic looking to me. You don’t look Asian at all, and I also don’t think your nose looks like an Asian nose either. You still have an ethic look due to all the other features of your face, and your nose does not look flat to me. I think we over-analyze ourselves. I truly hope you will be happy with your results after a year has passed, and if not, then I hope your revision surgery goes well! Thank you for your kind words and support! ☺
Thank you again for being so kind and understanding, I doubt that I will ever like this nose, but I truly hope it improves by the end of the year. I hope a revision surgeon can make it look similar to my old nose again if I am still unhappy with the results. My nose also looks flat, wide and Asian to me in the mirror now. It no longer drops when I smile and just looks so odd and too short. I also think I am experiencing a identity crisis. I agree that I never knew this surgery would be so psychologically difficult- I only considered the physical recovery before surgery. My only concern was “does it hurt to get a nose job?” (meaning physical pain)- I never even considered that there would be any level of emotional pain. I am sorry that you also experienced depression and regret following this surgery. I am glad you are feeling better about your nose! I saw your before and after photos, and I think that you look great both before and after! Your profile was not bad at all to start- I think we overanalyze our faces too much. I think the chin adds good balance to your face and it doesn’t make the front of your face look weirdly long and wide (which mine did). I do think we notice things more than family and friends. In certain photos you posted, I couldn’t tell which ones were the “before” and “after” photos (from the frontal profile) until I ONLY focused closely on your nose. If I just glanced at your whole face I didn’t notice a difference immediately. Also, you still look ethic looking to me. You don’t look Asian at all, and I also don’t think your nose looks like an Asian nose either. You still have an ethic look due to all the other features of your face, and your nose does not look flat to me. I think we over-analyze ourselves. I truly hope you will be happy with your results after a year has passed, and if not, then I hope your revision surgery goes well! Thank you for your kind words and support! ☺
January 25, 2016
I agree with everyone else. You were pretty before but your after pictures look like you could model! Try to keep in mind that every little detail you see, no one else actually notices. I understand it's a shock to see such a different reflection in the mirror but just know that the rest of us sees a stunning woman. Deep breaths!
January 27, 2016
thank you for your kind words. I wish I felt that way. Truth is, I have never felt more unattractive in my life. Hopefully I am still swollen and things will improve, but my nasal bridge just looks so wide to me now. I agree that I probably over-analyze my face. I had a few family members who didn't even notice I'd had a nose job right away (but they also hadn't seen me for several months). I agree that it is scary to look in the mirror and see a different looking face- that has been the most difficult thing to deal with! Thank you for the support. :)
January 25, 2016
Hi! I am going through the same as u are .I was an extremely beautiful female and infact I never wanted to go fr a surgery.I feel the same. Now I look ugly but u don't trust me .I can't look at myself I the mirror even 4 weeks after rhinoplasty. It will be nice if u keep in touch. BUT AGAIN TELLING U ITZ TOO RORY FR U TO JUDGE .MINE 4 WEEKS STILL UPTURNED NOSRILS WIDE AND M NUMB.
I looked through all of your pics and I can hands down say you look better now. You obviously have a lot of swelling but that's normal. Your face looks a lot more balanced and I would kill to get that nose! I think your doctor did a great job because you turned from pretty to stunning.
Don't rush into more surgery! I read it takes a year until you can see the final result.
Breath, girl! You're gorgeous :)