Mom of 2...droopy and Saggy! - Melbourne, FL

Everything is going great! My wedding is this week, honeymoon is this week. I have a flat stomach...something I didn't think I'd see again after giving birth to my girls. I have a slew of bikinis and ridiculous monokinis packed for my honeymoon. My nipples are still very sensitive, I have to wear pads in my bras and do not like them touched. Which is sad, really. I loved having my nipples played with before. I'm hoping in time the sensitivity will decrease. Besides that everything is back to normal. I get worn out earlier and more easily than I did before, but I just make plan my day accordingly. I'm back to pole dancing, surprisingly I didn't lose much strength.

If you are planning on getting this surgery, I'd recommend it. I'd tell you to be prepared for the worse pain in your life. Then double that and quadruple it then you may be ready for the surgery. I wasn't prepared for it and I had the extra shot to relax my muscles. Be prepared to take some time off and most importantly, don't compare your recovery to others. It can be frustrating.

I have a long way to go. I'm a size 14 now and I was between a 10-12 before surgery. My waist is still 3 inches larger than pre surgery. Crazy because I have a flat stomach, I look smaller, but I'm larger. I know in time the swelling will go down and I'll look the way I want and have the energy I want. For now I'm happy I can't wear tight dresses and bikinis!!!

I'm 6W3D post op. When people say 6 weeks is a turning point, it truly is. I just woke up and felt better. I can get in and out of the car without a problem, I can shower completely on my own, I can get in and out of bed by myself. My body is finally catching up with my mind. I did some cleaning today and that felt phenomenal. I went for my first brazilian wax since surgery and I feel like a woman and not a wolf. I had to leave some hair behind because of the drain scars, but surprisingly I'm ok with it.

My Fiance and I went on a date yesterday. I wore make up. I am finally feeling better. I definitely have a long way to go, but at least I can cough, sneeze and laugh again without being scared. Most importantly I can have sex in every position.

I go back for a follow up on Monday, hopefully I'll be cleared for the gym.

I'm 5 weeks and 1 day. Today was my first time changing my bandage on my open incision by myself. I was forced to look in the mirror for a bit of time to make sure everything was covered. I found my old belly button (gag) My Dr. said he'd remove it if there was enough skin and I didn't think to ask if he was able to or not. I found it above my incision...it looks so gross! I can even see the old piercing scar. I am so grossed out. I don't know if I should laugh or cry...

I have decided not to postpone the wedding. My fiance said why would I make a long term decision based on something that's short term. He's right. I just feel sad because I wanted to look fabulous and expected to back to normal with my energy and fun. I also wanted to be wearing tiny, white bikinis and tight dresses. He said we can have more than 1 honeymoon, so what's the problem. I'm so glad he's so sweet. I don't know why I'm so hard on myself.

I'm going to try to be more kind to myself. I don't know why I expect perfection...I'm 39.5, have given birth twice, nursed my fabulous girls. I have to stop expecting my 21 year old body back. I may not be perfect, but the surgery helped make things better. My breasts are more even. Yes, I wish they were perkier and more full but that's the best they can be. My stomach pouch is gone, and that was my biggest annoyance. I'm going to try to enjoy my time on the sofa resting and healing.