3 weeks PO. Not bad for a 52 year old. After 5 pregnancies and 4 vertical c sections

Hi everyone! Well I am 13 days from having my full tummy tuck with lipo to flanks and outer thighs. I have wanted this for a very long time. Money was a big consideration. When you are a mom and wife it's hard to justify spending that much money on oneself. I am 52. I have 4 children all delivered through vertical c-section. My incision is about 13 inches long and I have always said "I hope my husband is a butt man because I have one in the front and one in the back" I am also going through menopause in the past I have always carried my weight in hips and thighs. Pear shaped. For the past few years I am now carrying some in the stomach area. Ugh!! Which has made my mounds on each side of my incision larger and noticeable in some tops. I haven't told very many people about the surgery because the ones I have told really judged me. Not in a nice way.
I'm terrified that things will not go well. These feelings just started as I am coming within 2 weeks of the date. I have ibs with bloating and severe constipation. So pain killers are a concern. I also do not do well on them. Itching, nausea, and vomiting. I also have 4 Doberman pinchers big love able dogs. 1 loves to jump on me. Yikes!
One of my sons has autism. He is on the severe end of the spectrum. He doesn't have much language and will never be able to live on his own. He is our sunshine! He loves to cuddle and give BIG hugs. He is 19, 6'3" and 278lbs. I just don't know how much he will understand when we tell him mom has a big booboo. I guess I am also afraid I am being to vain having this because if anything went wrong I worry about my Ben
I already had my pre-op it went well. I will be staying in the hospital for 1 night. My ps did not tell me anything to get for home after surgery. I was so nervous that I forgot to ask. So any help with that would be great. I also live in a colonial style house worried about stairs.
When I found this sight I was obsessed reading all of your stories. They have been so helpful and have made me feel somewhat better. It is nice to be able to communicate with people going thru through the same thing. You all in my thoughts and prayers daily. Wishing all of you the best
PS I am awful with technology. I will see if one of my kids can help me post some pictures. Or if someone could direct me on how this is done it would be appreciated . This will be somewhat of a nightmare for me because my stomach is something that I have always tried to keep hidden even from my husband.