37yo, Body is JACKED After Having 2 Sweet Kids (Tummy Tuck, Breast Aug, Lipo)

I just booked my surgery for what I call a "mommy makeover".
The plan:
1. New boobs (no, you won't see me ever post my boob pics here. Just trust that I'm barely an A-cup, it's just a small mushy lump of skin).
2. Tummy tuck
3. Lipo of the flank (aka back fat. This seems to be standard procedure, to help really create the hourglass shape).
4. Lipo of the outer thighs. Wasn't originally part of the plan but if you're already paying for the operating room and the doctor, for a bit more to take off a chunk off your thighs wouldn't you do it?

I haven't picked a boob size yet. I work in tech and don't need anything that screams "big boobs!". I would actually be fine with just perky B-cup boobs again but that seems pretty stupid to drop a few grand and go that small. So we'll see.

Right now I look like I'm 4-5 months pregnant. Everything is loose and baggy on me except on my stomach. I just want 'ish to fit properly. I want to stop feeling like the only things that would look good on me are maternity pants and tops.

Another reason I don't want to go too big with the boobs is that I don't want the reverse problem: right now I have to wear baggy stuff because nothing fits my stomach. I don't want to end up having to wear a size bigger to accommodate boobs but have everything be baggy elsewhere.

It's almost midnight, it's Friday, so I'm rambling.

I research 3 doctors (more on that later), I ended up going with the middle of the range. I had hesitations with the 2 other ones but today when I went for my annual obyn appointment (I felt like a douche confessing to her that I was planning on getting this done), she said she's heard good things about Dr. Smith and that she believes a coworker of hers with breast cancer opted for him as well. If another doctor pics him, he must be good right?

RIGHT?!!

Two pics for today. One of my stretchy excess skin on my stomach. The other is a bad attempt at showing how the gap between my ab muscles is so bad, the excess skin sinks into it (however with the flash on my phone, it doesn't look THAT bad...but trust me, it sinks in pretty deep into the crevice of my stomach. It's gnarly).

So this has been a good kick in the pants to update my life insurance. I'm notorious for being super insured, but I just discovered that I got supplemental life insurance too long ago; my policy expires in NINE years! That's not going to do jack when you've got two small kids. So now I'm scrambling to increase my life insurance before this surgery, because I don't want to be the a-hole to who dies during elective surgery...let alone one who dies during elective surgery with barely any life insurance.

I'm an incredibly morbid person, I could watch surgery shows for days on end. It would be a dream of mine to have my surgery be filmed. My husband filmed most of my c-section the second time around because I was so annoyed that he barely filmed any of the surgery the first time. In a perfect world, i would take my excess cut off skin home with me.

I have a few people that have asked me why I'm getting a tummy tuck, "you don't need it". Here's the list:
1. My back kills when I carry my kids or lift anything, I have zero abs to support my back. When your inner abs (TVA) are jacked, you can't do anything to build up the other muscles (and there'd be no point).
2. I'm tired of lifting my loose skin when it gets stuck or caught on something. It pinches and it hurts.
3. Obviously there's a vanity aspect to it...I want to feel better about myself.
4. I'd like to not have people get excited when they see me because they think I'm pregnant again.
5. The logistics of clothes. I'm not talking just how I look. If a size bigger could solve this, I'd be fine with it. I'm the same size as when I was 4 months pregnant. That means i'm small everywhere except my belly...and only maternity clothes fit well. If i buy up, it's baggy in all the wrong spots. Right now I pretty much just live in baggy jeans and baggy tshirts.