So I made the decision to blog about my lip...
So I made the decision to blog about my lip suction 10 months ago in an effort to help someone and I after going back and forth, I have decided to also share my second journey in hopes that it will also help someone.
As mentioned above I had high volume liposuction 10 months ago and post that my surgeon suggested I get a tummy tuck to address future loose skin. I opted not to have it, however over that 10 month time frame I lost 30 pounds. This resulted in more loose skin then I expected, and I was not happy with the my stomach. So since you can not lose skin through diet and exercise, I started my journey towards a tummy tuck. Due partially to genetics and the other half just being the way life is, my skin fell around my entire torso and back similar to a “spare tire.” Due to this I had two options. I could get a regular tummy tuck to address the front area, and then later have a back lift which would address the sides and back or I could have what is called a circumferential abdominoplasty which is mostly called an extended tummy tuck, along with muscle repair The decision point had to do with where I wanted the scar. Did I want a small scar in my bikini line and a scar in my bra line or did I want a scar that went in a complete circle from my bikini line to my butt. After thinking it through I chose the extended tummy tuck (with muscle repair) with the scar from the front to my butt for several reasons. The most important reason included that I did not want to have 2 surgeries to address my stomach and back. In addition I really didn't care about the long scar to be honest. I would take the scar over the loose skin, besides if it gets on my nerves, I can get cool tattoo to cover it up.
After deciding I scheduled my surgery for 3 months later. Fast forward to August 5, 2016 (2 weeks ago) and I have had my surgery. The surgery took 5 hours and I woke up in pain, which felt like a extreme burning sensation. It was like someone lit my insides on fire. The good news is I opted for a pain pump which was the best decision I ever made. I was able to get through the recovery phase with absolutely no pain medicine, yes NONE! This is critical for me because I do not like pain medicine and I also think it added in my quick recovery. The pain pump simply contains numbing medicine similar to Novocain so you can not feel the pain from the muscle repair (picture attached) and is inserted during surgery. You remove it 5 days later and you can remove it yourself. It was super easy and painless.
I stayed in the hospital over night and was discharged the next day. I was happy to be home however I was extremely uncomfortable. You have to sleep in a reclining position and I don’t have a recliner. What I brought instead was one of those old school pillows that have the arms on the side. I propped that up in my bed with a ton of pillows and it worked fine. The uncomfortable part was the tightness of my muscles. It makes it difficult to exist, lol. Sneezing, coughing, and laughing are not options for the first two weeks. It hurt like hell to do them all and truth be told is still uncomfortable. I used tons of cough drops and literally prayed my coughs away because it hurt to do it. I had read previously that women had extreme constipation from pain pills and it was excruciating during their recovery. I did not take pain pills, however I still prepared ahead of time anyway just in case because that was the last thing I needed. So I took stool softeners and drank prune juice everyday, worked like a charm! If this grosses you out, I am sorry, but I am just trying to save you from the hassle.
I could not shower for five days and I was anxious about my first shower. When I peeled of the compression garment and compression belt, I was shocked. I think I expected my waist to look like Frankenstein even though my surgeon did a great job of explaining things to me, but my imagination is vivid. My stitches were on the inside and all that I saw was a scar with a ton of glue on it. No gore, no blood, no Frankenstein! I had to have my mom help me with my first shower because I was walking hunched over and I had drains. I could not hold the drains and shower at the same time. My mom held the drains and I was able to shower rather easily which was surprising.
I am going to be honest the first 8 days were the hardest. I did not sleep much and I had a melt down a week in that included regret, anxiety, and crying. I am sure it was because of the lack of sleep and just being alone in my own thoughts for too long. After a long talk with best friends and my mother, I was all set.
So two weeks post surgery, what is the word……..It was the best decision I made in a long time. The scar is healing nicely and will fade significantly. It will still be visible but not as prominent as it is now and I am so happy with my results, honestly I don’t care. I am still really tight and walk semi hunched over. Everyday I can walk straighter and straighter, but it will be awhile before I can do it all day. By the time night comes I am fully hunched over again. I am still swollen and will be for weeks to come, but again I am ok with that, it will go away eventually. the compression garment and belt are tight but help with sitting and standing. I have retuned back to work after 2 weeks because I have a sedentary job, so that made it easier. I can drive myself and shower myself with no issues and I can wear a string bikini without anyone seeing my scar and just seeing my great results. I am the happiest I have been in a long time and I am thankful for that.
I hope this helps you in your decision or in your journey. I made the decision not to share my surgery decisions with certain friends and family members because everyone is not supportive of this change and thats ok. Surround yourself with family and friends that you can trust and that uplift. You will need it for sure. I also encourage you to make the decision for yourself and you're journey to happiness. Not because someone tells you too or because you want to look like a celebrity on social media. Life is too short to be unhappy, so chose today to be happy! Be blessed and if you have any questions, feel free to ask, I will be happy to answer them.
3 Month update with before and after pics.
31 Oct 2016
2 months post
Here are my pics from my recent doctor's visit. As of this past friday I am officially 3 months out. I am pretty much back to normal with everything but I take it easy when I get tired. I still sleep with a waist trainer not for results but because its comfortable. I still get swollen when I work long days, but its manageable. I am more than pleased with my results!
4 Month Update
27 Nov 2016
3 months post
So I thought I would provide an update because although I don’t plan on having anymore surgeries, I still stalk this site, lol! I am sadden by seeing all of the women that are having surgeries and are so unhappy with the results and in some cases having life threatening complications. Especially because all we want is to look great in or out of clothing. I know they have but I can’t say it enough to please be careful about picking your surgeon. Go to their office and as often as possible, especially if they live in the same state as you. Ask them every question you have. Ask to see a formalized book of their work, not just pics from online. Do your research, are they a cosmetic surgeon or plastic surgeon that is board certified? Do they have any open lawsuits or malpractice clams (all of this stuff is public information). Do they clean your teeth and then ask you if you want a tummy tuck? 9 times out of 10 that is not the doctor for you. Please, Please, Please take your time and listen to your instinct!
So now for the update. I am 4 months out of my circumferential tummy tuck and I could not be happier. I am the smallest I have been in my adult life. I wear the same size I wore in the 9th grade. I currently wear a size small or a 5/6 if your looking at numbers. Prior to losing weight and surgery I wore a XL and 14. My waist is continuing to shrink and I continue to lose weight because I don’t eat large portions anymore. My cravings for certain fatty foods has diminished (except during that time of the month) and I get full quickly. Some of it is a result of the muscle repair and less fat (my surgeon says) but I attribute it to the fact that I went through a lot of pain and I will keep this body :)!!
I still wear a waist trainer to bed and sometimes my post surgery compression garment which I affectionately call “my suit” and my waist trainer together if I am swollen. Yes I still get swollen and it will happen for up to a year. Here is something that I don’t see many women talking about on here so I will because no one told me. Sex post a tummy tuck is way better then before! Many doctor’s say it’s because when during the tuck the tightening of the skin lifts your clitoris a small bit which can lead to better orgasams because your clitoris is more exposed. I don’t know if the science is correct or not but I’m telling you that it is way better and I am a much happier woman because of it! I gave away pretty much my entire closet and only buy items when I need them for an event because I am still losing weight and Im not in to wasting money.
That’s about all for now. If you have questions you can feel free to inbox me or comment, I will be happy to answer them. Good luck on your journey.
4 Month Pics in Clothes
Here are some pics in clothing and bathing suits from a recent trip!
6 Month Update
23 Jan 2017
5 months post
I am not officially 6 months (2 more weeks to go), but I had my 6 month check up today so I thought I would update this page.
So its been 6 months since my Extended (circumferential)Tummy Tuck and Muscle Repair and at this point I could not be happier. My waist STILL continues to shrink which amazes me. It can get a little frustrating with clothes because I am a small, however I have big boobs thanks to both sides of women in my family (38 G) so it is hard to size dresses or anything that is one piece. For the most part I will buy a small and if I need room for the girls I will get a medium. It still amazes me and brings me to tears when I place my hand on a clothing item that is a small. It has been a long journey for me to lose weight and even running 2 miles a day, 5 days a week did not aid in me ever getting this small. I consider it a blessing because I was so unhappy with my body. It never effected my energy, however it did effect my confidence. I don’t care how hard you work out, all of us are unhappy about something on our bodies and forgive me but I think any woman that says otherwise is lying, its that simple.
As far as people noticing a difference, if people ask very detailed questions and I know them well, I tell them the truth. I don’t hide it because it’s hard enough on women to live up to unrealistic expectations, so I am not going to have women thinking that all they have to do is wear a waist trainer they will look like me. It does no one any favors and it’s not part of my character. My goal in life is to help people. If telling someone I had surgery helps them, then Im ok with that, if it doesn’t that is their problem. The response from people surprisingly is positive. I usually get bombarded with questions and request for my surgeon.’s information. Again I don’t mind answering them because people are just curious and truth be told they have wanted to do it for a long time but life has just got in the way. I have learned a long time ago in life that people talk about you if your doing good or bad, so this just gives them something else to talk about! I still eat rather healthy and I am very conscious of my food decisions. I no longer eat processed food or fast food and post surgery I have found that my cravings for fatty foods has all but disappeared. Don’t get me wrong, I still eat good food because I am greedy, lol! Just a ton of protein and veggies. I do treat myself to “whatever” when my period is on because I don’t have time to for that :).
As far as pain, results, swelling, etc, here is a recap. I still get swollen when I eat anything with a lot of salt or travel on a plane back to back. I travel a lot for work (2 weeks out of the month) and often I am on a plane 4-6 times in a week. It easy to manage. If I am traveling heavy I wear a waist trainer under my clothes to help combat the swelling. It does not bother me because I expected it for up to a year and it is happening less often than before. Outside of travel, I have graduated to nothing during the day and wearing my waist trainer at night for comfort reasons only. As far as pain, I am still numb on my lower stomach and back, however that is getting better as time goes by. I still have some scar tissue from my previous high volume liposuction and will resume massages at 6 months. The massages helped in the past but I could not bear to have anyone touching me for a massage until this point. Its in a small area in my back and I am sure with continued massages, it will be gone in no time. My TT scar has flattened due to massaging it daily. It’s light on my back and darker in the front, however that seems to be lighting slowly but surely. I tried bleaching cream, however it caused burns and irritation so I stopped. I have learned that patience is the key post surgery and it is way to early for me to judge my scar. The scar does not bother me really in the grand scheme of things. I just use bio oil and keep it moving. I would rather have that then what I had before. I had muscle repair with my TT and I am TIGHT!! Prior to surgery I used to sleep on my back with my arm over my head (I am an all over sleeper). However since the muscle tightening that position is extremely uncomfortable still six months out and I am ok with that. That means I am as tight as I can get for now and that makes me happy, I just roll on over!
Sex is still better than before and worth the surgery within itself lol! After this post I will not update until I reach a year. I think any post after this will be repetitive and not offer any new information. I will post at a year however because I see very few women doing that. I will also post some pictures I have if I can find some that show my stomach outside of clothes. That is what everybody wants to see anyway, not words :)!! As always be blessed ladies and gents, be courageous, and married or single own your life and happiness, you only get to do it once!
Peace and Blessings!