Slowly Being Killed By Boobs - Denver, CO

It went well! It was over the phone and off of photos, so that makes it hard. People always misjudge my size because I'm tall (long body, long everything), so I appear smaller cheated than I am. He said it appeared that about 200-300 grams would get me to a C cup. I kind of chucked as I'm busting out of my 32dd bra by at least a full size. VS always always always measures me as a 34 b. One day the sales girl argued w me so I put on her 34b and showed her. She couldn't believe it. The hard part is the hubby. While he is supportive, he doesn't agree w it in the slightest for medical purposes. He's done all of this research (medical sightings as well) that states it is simply bad posture and cannot be proven that large breasts cause it. He thinks I'm going to go have this done and still be in pain. But, he is a lover of my boobs and hates to see them go. He thinks at this point my judgement is clouded by PS making promises of less pain, when that may not be reality. He asked me if they took the 300 grams per if 1.3 lbs would really make a difference.

Just make sure that when you actually are in front of the doctor you really communicate.  Make sure you really stress what final size you want.  It's hard to judge by grams because tissue can be so different.  My doctor had told me after that my tissue was more dense that he realized.  I took pictures in, a bra and swim suit top.  I was almost to the point of being a pain in the rear end about the final size.  I kept saying to him, I am now a DDD or larger and I want a full B to small C in the end.  He got me there, he probably just wanted to shut me up, LOL

The hubbies have their own agenda when it comes to this surgery, no doubt.  But until you have carried this load on your body, you have no idea of the pain it causes.  When I sat up in the recovery room I could feel the difference immediately.  I kept saying to my hubby, my body and my choice and I am sorry if you are not happy.  I am doing this for me and nobody else.   He came around when he saw how determined I was.  In the beginning I was actually angry with him for being so selfish.  

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I could probably go 28 as well. In 2010, I bought a bunch of bikinis from Freya for a trip and they were all 28s. I would have to look at the cup size, but they were still at least e despite me being smaller than I am now. When the surgeon said (from looking at my pics) that he could remove 150-200 grams to get me to a c cup, I was shocked. There is no way. Lol

Your ribs look tiny like mine, so I figured you might be smaller than a 32 band. When I went to my pre-op apt and my nurse asked what size I was thinking I wanted to be reduced to, I said double anything is not an option and even a D scared me, but I would be a small D and it's not as big as I was imagining, let's just put it that way. My minimum tissue to be removed was 310g per breast, but I knew we would most likely double that. My nurse told me he was estimating around 800g, but you never know until you actually start the surgery. He took a little less than that per breast, as I mention in my first response, but I'm happy and my size is perfect. I'll never have to worry about passing a pencil test again, that's for sure. Haha ;) I say the docs know best and they have done hundreds of reductions, while we have only had one or about to have one. :) I would stress size at your pre-op apt and mention you don't want to be big. I stressed I don't want to be flat, but I don't want to be full either. I said I would rather you take me smaller and be happier with the end results vice you leaving me larger and boxy and we hate the end results. Since we can't change our band size, I figured a C or D, but D at the very largest. I always thought a full C was perfect, like 34/36 C, but unless I plan to gain a bunch of weight or become a crazy body builder, which I have no intentions on either, then a 30 C/D will be my final size. I never looked at a B, so I didn't really research that size much. I'm not sure if you mentioned if you are going through insurance or not, but if you are, you need to check your minimum gram removal. 150-200 doesn't seem like alot, but it all depends on your tissue. I'm not a boob expert, but you don't look deflated, so I'm sure you have some weight there. Just stress your size and question him about the estimated gram removal and hopefully he puts your concerns at ease. I made 5 consults to make sure I hopefully picked the right surgeon. Not sure if you have had more than one, but if not, a second opinion never hurts. I'm sorry if this response is all over the place. Wishing you the best...

I'm from a tiny town in the middle of nowhere, so I have to do all consults over the phone. The good surgeons are at least 8 hrs away. I called the office thinking I would use a different surgeon there because of his reviews, but asked the lady on the phone who she would use and she told me this other one. I have very good instincts about people and feel good about this guy. My rib cage (overall bone structure in general) is tiny. I'm tall, though, so it through a people off. As if tiny people can't be tall. I wear a size 2/4 in pants and a 8/10 on top. This is completely self pay. I would easily fall under coverage of my insurance parameters, but apparently on page 30 of the contract I signed 5 years ago it states this procedure is not covered for me. I have to dig out my policy and check. Regardless, this doc doesn't accept insurance, so they would be considered at best out of network which leaves me at $5k deductible. Once they are done w their Nicole and dining game, they would probably cover 500-1000 and for me, it balances out to just pay it and not waste time and money on physical therapy. In my job (self employed) I can schedule more sessions during the wasted therapy time and make up the difference very easily. I would love love love to be a b cup. The issue there is the hubby. He is a total boob guy. He said in a very sad voice (knowing I would be happy w no boobs) that he afraid I am going to go too small. We've been together forever (20 years), so I want to stay attractive to him.

If you have a good feeling, then that's all that matters. I guess just the morning of surgery, stress your size to your PS. Yes, sometimes going through insurance is more of a pain than its worth depending on your policy. I went through a lot more than i needed too, but I got approved in the end and that's all that matters and I was even lucky enough to have my surgery in the doc's surgical suite in the office. It was great not having to check in to a hospital. I've done that twice in the last year and this was so great! If your doc has a suite, you will love it. No need to arrive 2 hours early and then wait to get checked in and then wait to get rolled back... Usually the tall are thin, so I don't see why it's a surprise to people. Lol I'm on the other end, I'm only 5'2 and a size 6, so the girls looked even bigger! I'm so happy for them to be gone. My hubby is/was/is, lol, a boon man. He was nervous at first too. Girl, the first time I put my old bra on over my new girls, his sad face was epic! Worse than taking candy from a baby! Lol He came around though and touches them more. I'm not flat and I've seen B cups that look pretty full and girls say they wish they wish they were smaller! So, you need to do you! My hubby wanted a DD, I wanted a C, so he said let's settle in the middle for a D. A D scared me, but with having such a small back, a D isn't that big and I think that's what I'm going to end up. I told him I'm getting a reduction and I want to be small. Lol My hubby and I agree going on 8 years and he is fine. He's ready for my tape to come off. Lol They come around, so don't worry too much. He knew I needed it and sooner rather than later. I didn't want to be hunched backed by the time I was 50! Lol

Mine found all of this research saying it is not the cause of back pain, rather poor posture is. He thinks the poor posture is to hide the boobs. It's not. I can hide them perfectly w clothes. People are shocked when they hear my size. The shoulder pain and headaches subside when I pull my straps off my shoulders, so there is a connection. He is supportive of having it done, but wants me to "understand" that it won't cure my back pain. My reference to the tiny people being tall was due to not being able to find pants in extra long or even long most places in my size. It's as if we don't exist. For many years I had to wear boys Levi's jeans to be able to get them in length and waist.

I'm not going to lie, my upper back seized up the first week! It was horrible! It just didn't know what to do with the weight gone, almost 3lbs removed. I was hunched over for the first 3 days or so. My husband would say to stand up straight, didn't you get a reduction so you wouldn't be hunched over? It relaxed as the week went on and day by day it gets better and better. My shoulders are tense and up and i would relax them and eventually they would pop back up. But it's getting better. My posture was never too bad because if i slouched, it would just hurt more. People would make fun of me bc i literally sit straight up in my truck. Every consult i had, all the PS's said patients say they get instant relief after surgery and this is their most rewarding surgery bc they take the pain away. Members on here and in another group I'm in, say the same thing. I wasn't expecting instant relief but wasn't expecting my upper back to go into shock either. Years and years of all that weight did a number on our bodies and it's not going to heal overnight. By week 3, my back really took a turn and the ache practically went away. Oh, day 1 my shoulders were weightless, just up, but its so much better now. I think your weight on your shoulders might be because you aren't wearing the correct band size maybe? Most of the support should be in your band, not so much pressure in the shoulders. The skinnier the band though, then all the weight went to my shoulders. I needed at least a 3 row 3 column or the shoulders held the weight. That's another reason i started my journey, was because i can't find wide back bands anymore. Just because we have small backs, doesnt mean we don't need support. So, i know this might not be what you wanted to hear and may not help your case, but the girls to play a roll in all of it. So, you said your husband did a bunch of research? I came across this video in a group I'm a member of and it's awesome. Here's the link, the video is down a little bit, but i recommend you showing this research to your husband and see how he reacts. I would love to hear about it for sure. Lol You will see...

http://www.boredpanda.com/what-its-like-to-have-large-breasts-bra-primadonna/

Being tall and small isn't fun, I'm sure. My brother-in-law is probably close to 6'5 if not taller. He buys his jeans from American Eagle online, they have longer lengths. Have you tried them? Being petite has its challenges too, but i know they are getting better as the years go buy, but its way harder for taller people like you. We can never win. Lol Take a look at that link and watch the video. I know you will like it. :)

This was also the guys first time, not years like us...

Thats so funny. I have said to him I was going to devise a way for him to carry around the weight for a week. It doesn't matter the size of band I wear, it still hurts the muscle that runs along the top of my should to my neck. I get professionally fitted and have bras w wide straps as well. They all effect it the same. My racer back sports bra is the worst since it is worn closer to the neck. Those muscles (Particularly the right) just can't handle the pressure anymore. My right arm shoots pains, the finger and thumbs have pains, and it shoots right up the back of my neck through my right eye. This bra in the pic I grabbed off amazon since I'm 2 hrs from the bra shop and I'm spilling out of my others. If I go bigger on the band, it rides up my back and drives me crazy all day long. Smaller, as you know, really hard to find.

It would be pretty interesting to see what the men in our lives have to say after wearing our weight in boobs on their chest. They wouldnt even last a day! Lol I bought i believe it was the Jane by Fantasie a few years ago and it had the clips to switch to more of a racer back. I thought that might take some weight off of my shoulders. Nope, like you, it went straight to my neck and it had a thin band, so that was almost $75 down the drain and only a handful of times that i wore it. The things we go through to try and relieve the pain! Lol I think its a man thing too. They love their boobs, so they will never fully understand. When i first went to my pain management specialist, which was a man, in the beginning of the year when i started my journey, i was relieved he didn't want to put me on a bunch of meds, which was not what i wanted. He gave me this crazy full back brace that you would see furniture movers wear, gave me a STEM machine for home, prescribed PT for my back for myofacsial release and try to build my back up 2-3x a week along with a back numbing cream. I also was getting lidocaine injections every other week, those suck! However, after he said what he wanted to give me, i asked if this was all temperary? Of course he said he was hoping this would be long term. I appreciate docs wanting to try everything they can before admitting surgery is the only thing that will really solve the problem, but getting lidocaine injections in my back for a lifetime is not the answer! There was no way i was going to beef my back up, I'm not a body builder and have no intentions on becoming one. Lol i was in the U.S. Navy for almost 10 years, so being fit was part of the job. I'm not in horrible shape, not the best at the moment because of an ankle injury from 2015 that I'm still dealing with, but I'm doing everything i can to keep things from getting to the point where i live on pain meds or have crazy pain like you are going through. We're not getting any younger either. I went 2 weeks without PT or injections because of my 2nd ankle surgery and my back seized up! It was so bad. That's not bc i have bad posture or because I'm not fit, its because my chest is too big! I hope your husband will come around because of you are already on pain, its not going to go away no matter how much you get your 'posture' corrected. I would hope as a caring husband, he would put his ego aside and want to see you happy and painfree more than anything. Plus, you will feel so much better about yourself, so everything will change for the better. That's just my opinion though. Hopefully he will come around...