Disappointment - CA

Photos trigger me to. I just can't look at them. What doctors are you interested in having a revision with?

Thanks for posting so often. I am just beginning the process of healing from a bad nose job. Nobody really understands the depression. This is all very surreal.

I completely understand where you are coming from. Had my revision around 5 weeks ago and nose still very bent and uneven on both sides. I know it's not swelling because it's the way my nose was before the revision. Can't believe how much we focus on a nose!!! I used to be a sociable lad but 2015 has been a year of pain for me. Had my first rhinoplasty in 2009 to fixed crooked nose from sporting injuries. All was good for 5 years. All of a sudden nose started to shift badly and get bigger ( strange I know). This is why I opted for a revision with who I thought was a top surgeon in London. I understand my nose was complicated but I can't see an improvement at all and that was the goal. It's a lot bigger now due to çartlidge grafts and building up the tip. My main concern was the deviated side that I wanted put back into place... What the surgeon did was just bulk out the other side to make it look more symmetrical.... This was not the plan!!!! Nose is now very uneven, bent, big and I can't stand it. From a guys point of you I feel embarrassed of having a nose job ..... Should have just accepted the fact I play sport and these things happen. Instead now I feel my nose looks like it has been worked on fake. I struggle to get up and go to work and basically leave the house. My confidence is at it lowest and I hate myself for putting me and my girlfriend through this. I hope I can overcome this awful experience and find happiness in life again. At the end of the day it's just a nose and their are many people out there with awful illnesses / diseases and have a much more harder way of living life. I know I need to buck my ideas up but I just can't. This time last year I was happy n myself. Now.,, I am fixated on my nose and it is ruining my life. I have lost lots of weight... Feel anxious , depressed every day and not sleeping great. I need my confidence back but I don't think I will ever get it.... I can't keep living life like this!!!!

Wow you sound a lot like me. There are more people like us than you think which is terrible!! PM if you want to chat. I've been going through this for 7 years :/

I had first surgery in 2008, then revision in 2011. Surgeon was recommended by doctor friend. Saw his "wonderful" photos and he said he could help. Was a waste of money. Went in 2013 for third surgery and had a "revision specialist" here in Dallas us rib. Turned out even worse. Concave right side, nostrils lopsided, and a whole lot of money wasted. I am also embarrassed because I am a guy and should have never done it. Many of these plastics folks are snake oil salesmen. They should have a policy that you pay after the surgery if you like the results. Love how you pay before and then you cant get a refund. Trust me I've asked!

heyy dear, how are you? i can very well understand what you're going through, I too have exactly same varying feelings at different times. bu one thing for sure is that my nose always stays a my focus in my head,no matter what I do , looking into a mirror, talking to someone, I keep thinking that they would be noticing only my nose. sometimes when I feel pretty and take a picture of myself, I realize that my nose has ruined all my prettiness. I know that I need a revision and that too from some trusted doctor oversea and I would need a lot of money , which I don't have right now. I feel that's the ultimate goal of my life "to get a natural, nice looking nose"... and everything that I do, I relate it to this goal of mine. I'm sure you'll have all your concerns addresses thru a successful revision . and Don't feel guilty about the money spent. your happiness is invaluable . all the best. and it would be great if you can mail me your before and afters . I am here to talk to you and support you always ..lot of love,

Yeah, that's a great idea about being able to attach photos in pm. Maybe we should propose it to the realself team! Glad you're having a nice day!!

Gosh... I am so sorry for all that you've been through and I can totally relate to so much of what you've described!! I had the misfortune of acquiring a facially disfiguring autoimmune disease and only managed to survive by telling myself I would eventually get surgery to fix the damage. Well I finally had the surgery a few months ago (after 2.5 years of waiting for the disease to stop) and it actually made things even worse than before!! I am absolutely devastated!!! I know how it feels to hide from everyone, ashamed of your appearance, and to think about suicide because your quality of life has deteriorated so much. My self-esteem has left the building. I wouldn't wish this on my worst enemy!! I really hope things improve for you. Sending internet hugs and happy vibes.

I just read your entire review starting from the 21st December of 2012 till today, all in one sitting. You have completely blown my mind. I myself suffer from breathing problems and is planning to get a septoplasty. I was thinking of adding rhinoplasty to the equation and consider a rhinoseptoplasty. But, reading your story makes me think otherwise. Also curse those bullying reviewers and their comments. These fake business boosting techniques done by these doctors are beyong disappointing. I, after making mistakes and discovering that there is no one else to blame but me, tends to be depressed for a long time. Also, I wanted to ask - Have you asked someones opinion about the looks of your nose during this period. Say, you parents or a friend? What did they tell you?

I guess before I go off asking for a pm, I should explain my story. So I am 18 years old and about to go to college.. I have never had a boyfriend and have never felt truly confident about myself. It's been such a struggle going through high school because all my friends were beautiful (its gotten to the point where I am tired having pretty friends)... And here I was, very ugly. I had a horrible flat nose and it was HUGE. Growing up, I knew my mother only wanted the best for me (though how would she know? She was a beauty queen back in her day). So she constantly reminded me through my adolescent years "Dont worry honey... Dont worry about those boys that dont like you. Just wait until you are 18. You will get a nose job and be beautiful!" So I waited until my 18th birthday and I was ecstatic. She took me to Asia (dont want to specify the country yet) to get my rhino. We went to the best of the best plastic surgery hospital. At first, I wasn't supposed to get the number 1 surgeon of the hospital (the wait was 3 months and I didnt have enough time.. I needed to go to college within 2-3 weeks). But somehow, I got lucky and one of his patients canceled last minute on my surgery day. Believing I'd be able to consult him first, we gave the hospital the okay to switch doctors... In the end, when i walked into the operation room, he just asked me what silicon I wanted and that was it. My mother told me to trust him to determine what was the best for me (because she knew he was the best of the best... And that's what I thought too). So that's what I did. As I walked out of the hospital I knew something has changed... But not much. I still had my flat nose and my high expectations were destroyed. At day 5 my entire face is bruised and my nose is still flat (maybe a slight raise). And that is my story. I am going to college in 2 weeks and I will have to fly back to America. Disappointment isnt even the right word for me to use. A solid 18 year wait gone to ashes. This is why I have been looking up recovery stories and came across yours. I just want to believe that maybe it will get better, or maybe, it isn't as bad as it seems at first. If you could be so kind to provide some advice or send some pictures of your experience, that would be great. I would be willing to send some recovery pictures as well. Thank you so much Lilly As mentioned in my previous comment, my email is: *******@*******.com

I'm very sorry...I know exactly how you feel. I hate this and hate when I get that feeling of helplessness. I thought 15K+ was outrageous for a revision but now I'm seeing even higher amounts for top surgeons I've looked into. And that doesn't include consults, travel, hotel, nurse, and additional costs. One girl spent over 17k for a Southern Cal doc and is still going to have to pay another 4k for a touch up. This feels like a prison sentence. Hang in there...hoping it gets better for you.

I just read through your story. My heart goes out to you. I know how a nose can ruin a life and occupy a mind. It can take you away from all the good peaceful moments of your life. I'm so sorry and I pray that u will take the steps to make your revision a reality. You deserve to be happy and to feel beautiful or at least normal. You *can* achieve this. There is hope. From what I understand its more expensive. But if I had to do it to make it happen, I would. I can feel your pain. I truly suggest at least check out Dr. Naderis pagebon revision. Read it and see maybe he can help you.he is supposed to be one of the best. If not then someone who specializes. I. DO think it would be worth it. Just find an honest surgeon who will tell u what is possible. I know Naderi is honest if he can't help u he will say it. Good luck to you :)

Where do you need the rib graft?

I know. Been having those off days for 6 years and counting. No one gets it/cares unless it has happened to them. Worst thing EVER. I used to love going out and experiencing life! They should devote their efforts towards preventing this instead of potentially causing more. So lonely and hopeless from this disfigurement. It has cost me so much (AND I am about to be broke and lose my place!) On top of it all. Anyway, sorry for the grim message. Ihope everyone has a Merry Christmas and we all overcome these bad nose jobs.