I had trigger release long finger surgery it's been 8 days is it ok to remove my stitches or should I wait longer?

I wouldn't recommend skin removal as the sensation at the tips of the fingers are very important for tactile sensation and scar never has as good of sensation as natural skin. You don't say how long ago your injury was, but if it has been less than a year, you likely still have...

Yes a toe to thumb may be the best option. Of course evaluation of his current function is a must. A large medical center with dedicated hand surgeons is the best place to go. Good Luck!

Your condition is not that uncommon and is called brachydactyly, Type D.  Short thumbs have numerous other names and even some superstitions associated with them.  Since there is no simple corrective surgery to change the appearance, realizing that your condition is not that uncommon...