Am I, or are we, selfish?
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You shouldn’t feel guilty for wanting to look and feel your best.
Is elective cosmetic surgery "selfish?"
Because you "can," rather than "have to" doesn't somehow make it selfish or wrong.
It might, if you forego feeding your family to have elective surgery. It might, if you don't do your part to help those around you with friendship, advice when asked, help when needed, and "elbow grease" when a cash donation isn't just an "easy way out."
In short, taking care of one's self (including mind, body, and self-esteem) is exactly WHAT allows us to care for others around us, to the degrees appropriate for self, spouse or loved ones, family, co-workers, community, country, and human race. Each of us will value these somewhat differently, and it is neither right nor appropriate for me to say what is right for you, or vice versa.
Financing cosmetic surgery (something you want) is indeed different from financing a home or car, as the latter items are considered more of a need. But why not a Yugo instead of a Lexus? Or a smaller home in a less comfortable neighborhood? It's all about degree, balance, and YOUR priorities. Others may find a wish for enhanced breasts totally "vain" or "selfish." Just as you might find that person's wish for a certain handbag, or article of clothing, or piece of jewelry even more so.
You need not over think this, my dear. Having breast augmentation is OK, even if you choose to finance the surgery. This simply tells me that YOU choose to find this worthwhile enough to pay for it over time, with interest. Don't burden yourself with guilt, just as you are wise to consider the burden of payments rather than saving up for for elective surgery. That, to me, is the question you are asking and answering yourself--now and finance, or later after saving up?
But, it's OK! Either way. Really. Best wishes! Dr. Tholen
Your concrns are very realistic!
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