TT w/ MR seven weeks PO! (Victoria, BC)

I have over two weeks to go, but find this upcoming procedure to be a complete distraction. I have a myriad of feelings, mostly: Am I doing the right thing? For the most part, I feel confident about my decision but I'm caught up in that self-image debate: shouldn't I love myself just the way I am? I've struggled with body image issues my whole life, so I guess this flash of self doubt is no real surprise. I haven't told many people what I'm actually having done. Actually, I think I've only told my boyfriend, who sort of has to know since he's going to be looking after me! I've resorted to saying I'm having some torn muscles in my abdomen repaired, which is true, but I'm not sure why I can't fully embrace and share the whole truth. I'm a fairly private person about some things but I didn't even tell my bf when she said, "Maybe they can do a little nip and tuck while they're in there to get rid of that part of your belly that you work so hard to lose but doesn't seem to go anywhere." What's that all about? It also feels very self indulgent. My kids are 21 and 23 and living on their own now, but I was a single mother for many years, since they were 4 and 6, so it feels really strange to do something as extravagant as this. I probably feel I should be saving the money for emergencies - years of living with not enough or just enough will do that to you, I think...

But my PS's promise of a flat tummy is very compelling and the experiences I've read on this site have helped bolster my decision.

I have not told very many people the exact truth about my surgery either. I think that they may judge me. In fact my step mother- in- law had agreed to help me during recovery. Then I told her that I was tagging the tt on to the hernia repair and tubal ligation and she seems to have completely changed her tune. Maybe its all in my head but she hasn't been around and has some reason to say no to just about every request. So I think your hesitation is with good reason.

Don't feel bad about the money! You deserve to feel good about yourself and to feel comfortable in your own skin. There will always be something else you "should" do with your money. Just keep reminding yourself that you are worth it and you can put a price on feeling good about yourself (or if you can it will be way more than what you are spending)!

When ate you scheduled?

Thanks for the encouragement, Bedurde! It's really good to hear from people who have the same hesitations.

I'm scheduled for July 30! How about you? I hope your mother-in-law comes around!

Who is the surgeon you used? I live in Victoria too, and I'm considering this procedure : ) You look fantastic!