Labiaplasty Regret - United Kingdom, GB

I thought I was normal and all us females looked...

I thought I was normal and all us females looked the same but in my first relationship my boyfriend remarked on my big flaps,the only reference I had for other vulvas was porn when I looked at the magazines I didn't resemble the women in them,years later I was dating a guy I worked with,I was approached by another guy in work for him to tell me I had big lips,obviously he had been told by the guy I was dating-the third time this humiliation happened I was told by another guy I was dating in front of a room full of people that I had dangly bits like a man,I did not like the way I looked for 14 years as felt like a freak.I scouted different surgeons and they were all qualified the same,so I went with the cheapest,he removed all my labia minora after asking me 3 times did I want it all of and I said no,he talked through the wedge method and said oh there's blood vessels there,I asked is that a problem how are you going the seal them,oh don't you worry about that he said,so he took a blow torch to my privates,I woke up,looked and was horrified!I could not walk as I was burned and in tremendous pain,he removed all my minora burned me,the skin over my clitoris is like a piece of chewing gum,I look even more abnormal now than before surgery,I had a problem with about a cm each side of skin,now I have issues with the way I look from my clitoris to my backside as whatever he used to burn the skin also burned right up to my butt,I have very visable scars,there is no symmetry and I look like Frankensteins wife,my head could not cope and I was off work for 12 months in total,I was on anti depressants for years after and I felt very suicidal,I still feel suicidal and every time I look,I feel worse,my head cant cope with it,if I had to do it all again I wouldnt even if it was done right,my sex life before this with big lips was great even if the boys I dated found me repulsive,now my life and sex life is ruined he burned me with I'm guessing something similiar to a blow torch so he has burned the outside and inside of my vagina, burning that sensitive area causes a lot of pain for sex also he has made the entrance to my vagina very small,not big enough for sex and I'm guessing not for child birth either,wish I never did it,some days feel like hanging myself.the skin he left is attached onto other skin I am not even anatomically correct,it so obvious I have had surgery, I said to him I don't want scars I don't want anyone to know,he didn't listen didn't care,my life and sex life is over, I strongly advise you not to get this procedure done,if you have a life and do not cry every day at the way you look,then you do not need this,as it can go wrong,I didn't even fit that possibility into the equation, I look like a freak! I went crying to another surgeon he performed a fat transfer to give the illusion I had minora,he told one of the nurses he would stand in court for me as it was a botched job,wish I never did it.
I am sorry for what you have been through, it sounds truly awful. I know it would be hard but have you thought of taking legal action against this doctor? You could ask for all your records and photos and contact a female solicitor specialising in medical negligence cases?
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Yea I did do that,as humiliating as it was,the nurse in the second place encouraged me to go see a solicitor she said that the surgeon said it was a botched job and that he would stand for me in court-I said I didn't want to drag my privates through court she said it'll probably be settled out of court-I eventually went to a female solicitor, I was given an independent surgeon to go and see,the second surgeon I saw they did not ask for his view,I believed this was a clear cut case,I mean the standard of surgery was seriously very poor.total removal of minora burning the whole area resulting in tightening the area that stretches naturally and not to mention the scars and no care taken to match skin up to where it should go-so I saw a surgeon in London Harley st,the result came back that after surgery I now looked normal-astounded for the second time.I may look acceptable from afar but from close up you can notice-I have had a few encounters since the botched job,I was asked had I ever had plastic surgery not specifying where on my body and another stated that I was very tight which is true-all skin has been removed and burned therefore -which I thought would have been very basic knowledge for someone with little medical training let alone none-it will result in tightness.I've was devastated and astounded again,I honestly didn't get further support aside from the second place I went to who were great-by the time I went to see the surgeon the solicitor had referred me to the burned skin had obviously healed so I didn't look a bad but if the lea man can notice a fully trained surgeon should've been able to-I'm so angry and disappointed in myself and the level of treatment I received,I said to the original surgeon that although on the form I had filled in my personal details that I did not my doctor informed he said no problem youaase a mature woman,I discovered they informed my doctor so its held on my medical record,nothing I said was listened to,I wrote a complaint letter and said you told my doctor when assured you wouldnt and I expressed in the letter that I wouldnt have operated on a dog like thisI got a very off hand letter back saying I had written my doctors details and no explanation as to why the surgery was so bad,I wrontd another letter expressing my disgust and never heard anything back,I have been treated with nothing but disdain, do not get this done,it can go wrong and essentially what I learned nobody cares.do not do it.
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Oh my goodness. Feel so bad for you. Your problem is you dated idiots. I've been with many woman and all vaginas are different. I even like the ones with the lips. If you weren't in pain.... why would you let someone cut your vagina. That would be like me have a normal functioning penis, but if one of my girlfriends said it looked funny..... so be it. I'm not about to let someone cut it to make it look better. If it ain't broke, don't fix it. And don't date anymore jerks.... what kind of moron tells people you have big lips..... I bet the look of your lips wasn't stopping him from having sex with you.
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freak!

Labiaplasty performed by qualified surgeon who specializes in reconstruction of female genitals, yea think he may have lied on his cv about that one.hope karma gets him and ruins his life like he's ruined mine.

labiaplasty freak

Can I fix this?
I think and as a labiaplasty patient too that it is a shame that a man was behind your reasons to have the surgery. I had mine because I didn't like them and I am quite happy. Trim technique surgery leaves many women with poor results. I recommend soul searching before having the surgery and them find a quality surgeon take your time to pick the good ones. Then you can be happy like me. I just hope that after what has been done here that you can have a repair done. I am no expert in that.
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I think it's a shame that men can in effect bully women about their genitals and make them feel abnormal, I developed a hatred for my extra skin and I wanted to look like everyone else as it was brought to my attention that I didn't look like other women, I didn't even think about my privates when I was in a relationship and I enjoyed sex, the comments I was getting were becoming public it was very humiliating, maybe if I had a different personality I would never have received them or never have taken the comments on but it was always in the back of my mind, so I got this done for me because I just wanted to look normal and unremarkable. I was red labia reduction for over ten years, I couldn't wait to wake up and look like everybody else,then this nightmare started,my surgeon was apparently the best in the land,but you wouldn't even treat your car the way I was operated on, he has also reduced the entrance to the vagina as he took all the skin off, tightened above the clitoris removed skin below it and attached skin to other skin which is not anatomically correct, had I known this would happen I obviously would never have done this, I am going to try and save and see dr gary alter, but have to try and to get the functionality aspect sorted if that can even be done, your pics look great before and after, I was much bigger than you, I wouldn't wish this torment on anyone, apart from my surgeon mr khalid khan.
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Also I think regardless of the reasons behind getting labia reduction surgery, I think women deserve the same outcome, to be happy with their result and their basic instructions adhered to.
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Beware surgeon

Beware of khalid khan, vulva mutilator.

Rubbish surgeon

Not an expert as he claims, destroys lives, don't go near.
I can't believe that your doctor is the best they have in the UK. If you were in the US I would have sent you to mine and you wouldn't be in your predictament.
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Not normal

I just don't understand

Advertises he is the best
Has any one had this surgery and love the results? If so could you recommend a Dr in the United Kingdom though
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I wished mine looked as great as yours!! I honestly don't think it looks bad. I hope and pray everything works out for you ♡
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I looked closer at your pictures & now I see your concerns. I pray that all works out for you♡
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Dr Khalid khan Belfast

Absolute rubbish

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