Excited - Texas

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I don't remember the last time I wore shorts in public. Over the past 3 years I have gained a considerable amount of weight do to arthritis in my back plus scoliosis. I have gotten frustrated with exercising because after a workout, I would have to recover due to back pain. I figured lipo would give me the boost I needed to help my self esteem and get my health back on track. I've done tons of research, and I know my procedure will take months to see full results. I am so motivated (particularly since I have been saving my money for this.)

However, I told my boyfriend about it, and he is not being supportive. He says its a waste of $, I should be getting a trainer instead, and that there's too much risk involved. I haven't told any family members-just out of sheer privacy. I only told one more close friend. I am upset because he is the one to take care of me post-op. His response was " it's not like I have a choice anyway." I told him its my decision, my $, my body, and if he can't handle it, let me know so I can hire a nurse. I am so upset. What's the big deal? We have been through thick and thin for 3 years, all I want is for someone to help me get around, go to the bathroom, and help me with simple tasks that I can't do right after surgery. This is the only thing that is bothering me. Other than this person who is being unsupportive, I'm completely stoked and ready to take on the pain and recovery so I can get on with my life. Are bf's being jerks because they are insecure about how you will look afterwards? Why did he even bother asking me " we should have discussed this before you put so much $ into it." Wtf! We don't share bank accounts, and I make 4 times more than he does ( I am a pharmacist). I guess this will be a test to see if this guy is even worth keeping. I'm going to be very needy, and I know I'm going to feel so much animosity from him during the healing process. It's going to be emotionally painful. If he was down and out, I would totally take care of him. Why can't he do the same for me?

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American board of plastic surgeons. He is a Harvard grad and has been practicing for 12 years.

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I think significant others can feel insecure, like you're going to change inside as well as out, or that you're suddenly going to want to go out and try out your new body with someone else. ;) It's a shame he feels that way, but hopefully he will be there to look after you when you need it. We're always here for you to lean on too. :)

Good luck and I hope everything goes well!

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