12 weeks later, I'm so happy, I don't even remember the pain!!!

Hello RealSelf Peeps! I am a mother of 3, ages 16,...

Hello RealSelf Peeps! I am a mother of 3, ages 16, 11 and 3, all delivered naturally....the most that I weighed during pregnancy was 254! I am 5'8, approximately 185 lbs. I have always been on the thick side but regardless of how much I weigh, give or take 5 on either side, I can never hide my stomach without looking like I'm hiding my stomach if that makes any sense! LOL! I am married to my high school sweetheart who has no problem with my stomach (well that's what he says) and can't understand why I am willing to put myself through the pain...anyways, he is FINALLY accepting it and willing to support me!

Anywho, I go to my second consultation tomorrow....I have to get 3 estimates before I accept any and then I have to check reviews/references! So, are there any questions that are a must during the consultation?! I have a few that maybe you all can give me the REAL answers for! 1. How many days will I need 24 hour care? 2. How soon after the surgery will I be able to drive? 3. Is it realistic to think that I can start a new job about 3 weeks after the surgery (a desk job)? 4. Those with small children, how were you able to interact with them after surgery, how many day post surgery will it take to be able to? 5. Is it realistic to think that I can go to a dance competition 2.5 weeks after surgery (not to dance, I'm a "dance mom"?

Hi, welcome!! Good for you to be going through with it! You will be so happy. My hubby loved me with my old belly, but of course, 11 months post op, thinks I look great! Ok, answers to your questions: You will need to get as much help as you can at least the first week of surgery. Each day you will feel better. Take the help. You, as a mommy do so much every day, so this is your time to accept the help. It will only get you healing faster! I personally drove 1 & 1/2 weeks after surgery, carefully, just the kids to school. You should be fine with a desk job 3 weeks after surgery. I went back after 2 & 1/2 weeks & my job is on my feet, running around for a few hours. You will find you will get swollen & tired, so be aware & still take help! My kids were 9 & 11 when I had my surgery & were sad for the first week that I was not myself, but they were very sweet & helpful. I just sat with them & watched TV & just hung around them! You will most likely be fine watching at the dance competition after 2 & 1/2 weeks. Just remember to rest when you can & take help when you can. Also swelling is awful the first few months - so don't be discouraged. This is very serious surgery, but the results are all worth it! Keep us posted & good luck!
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Thanks Madison5269 for the tips! My surgery is scheduled for March 26th!! I'm super geeked!!!
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your comment help me alot because I am have my surgery on april 11,2012. I am trying to get everything in order.
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I am so excited, I called today to pay my deposit...

I am so excited, I called today to pay my deposit and set a day and they said that someone canceled for March 26th, so the day is mine!!! I'm both excited but very nervous! So what do I need to do to prepare myself?! Are there staples that I need to purchase and have on hand? What should I wear? Do I need to get a pedicure and manicure since I will be shut in for a couple of weeks? What type of food did you all eat the first few days?

I'm taking pics in a few minutes and will post them shortly!!!
Girl, I'm with you on that! My sister just said the same thing to me tonight!
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Good luck on your day! I'm have both a TT & BR on 4/18. I'm so excited, nervous, scared, happy,... all of the above! We women are so strong. We can do this and come out of it feeling wonderful about ourselves!
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Thanks LadyTeri! I actually wasn't expecting it to happen this soon! But I'm ready, I hope that I'm bikini ready by mid July!
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So, during my initial consultation the dr stated...

So, during my initial consultation the dr stated that he does not do drains...when he said it, I didn't question it because I figured that he was the professional!

Is there anyone out there that had this same experience? If so, how did that work out for you?????
I just had my tt on tuesday. No mani or pedi, you can't have polish on in the operating room. Stay away from foods high in sodium, they are bad for the swelling. Mostly fresh fruit and vegetables, protein and water. My youngest turned 3 a couple of days before my tt, and she was scared of me. I think mostly because of the drains, which you won't have. Everyday is a small improvement... But I think the recovery is a long process.
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I wore a sundress, I didnt want anything rubbing on my waist, it worked out fine.
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The hubby and I went shopping for a few things...

The hubby and I went shopping for a few things that I already know that I will need after the sugery...but, as we are walking thru Target to pick up the simple things on my list, like MOM, Tylenol etc...they were out!!! Is this a sign?!!!! I hope the heck not!

On another note, my husband doesn't cook AT ALL! He rarely even goes in the kitchen except when walking in from the garage area! LBVS! Did any of you try to prepare meals for the family ahead of time and freeze them at least for the first week or did everyone tend to eat out? I'm a stay at home mom, so everything that is done around here is basically done by yours truly...ME! Any advice here????

Oh, and I'm getting scared at HELL! 8 days left!!!!
I'm from san antonio, so we have that texas heat, lol. The first day I ate really light, just crackers low sodium ones. I didnt have much of an appetite.
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Thanks Lap_ntp! I am so taking your advice with the sundress and the forecast for the day being 78 is right up my alley! I plan on hitting the grocery store the Sunday before so that everything is FRESH!
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So, I'm officially a week out....I really darn...

So, I'm officially a week out....I really darn excited but nervous at the same time! I am making a list of things that I need to have completed by the day before surgery...washing clothes, meals prepared and put in the freezer etc. (I'm a control freak, can you not tell? LOL)

Thank GOD for one of my really good friends that I met when I moved to TX 6 years ago, she is going to stay with me during the day for the first 3-4 days while the hubby is at work! She is a really good caregiver and the kids love her so that is a huge plus! I plan on going out this week and put her a thank you basket together to show her how grateful I truly am!

So I just got off the phone with one of my friends...

So I just got off the phone with one of my friends and she made me feel really bad about having my tummy tuck done...she said that this was not a good decision and I will regret it later...she weighs all of 105lbs with no jelly belly! She also went on to ask why I am spending this much CASH (no financing for me) when my husband is the only one working!

The only people that know are my husband, children and 3 friends (including her)...this is the reason why I didn't want to share this with people because NO one will understand how I feel when I look in the mirror at this stomach that I have! Then she also said that it was a bad idea not to tell my mom, who was fine with it until I told her that I was going to schedule it! I figured that I would call her after the surgery (we talk everyday all day)...

Have any of you dealt with similar feedback from people that don't agree?
Hi donsgirl I didn't tell but a very few people either just for that same reason. I am a little over a week po and now I don't care who knows. Once people started finding out they said the same thing. Why did u do that you didn't need to. That's why I waited until over a week after so I could handle it. We r the only ones that understand. But don't let it get to you, you are doing this for you not them. Good luck.
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Hi DonsGirl you know I find more and more people saying things like dont do that or why are you going to do that for. The truth is no one knows how you feel but you and if 'Don' is supportive if it then that is all you need. I have told a few people (opinions that I dont care about) but I am having trouble telling people who matter most to me since their opinions are everything to me. My advice is to tune out the negative, you have enough on your mind.
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I will have drains, but no hospital stay....they actually said arrive at 5:15, surgery @ 6, recovery around 8, and out the door around 9:30!! That was a bit shocking!!
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I went today to have my pre-op done! Gave me 3...

I went today to have my pre-op done! Gave me 3 prescriptions-valium, hydrocodone, and phenegren. They told me to wear pants that are easy to slip on and a button up or zip up top. They also took all of the pictures needed for the before and after shots. I can not believe that this is actually about to happen!

On another note, a job that I am REALLY REALLY interested in, called me today for a second interview...go figure!
Just wondering if your doctor was at the pre-op appt.? My pre-op is next week and the doctor will not be there, he is on vacation, so it will just be the nurse. This makes me nervous and I'm wondering if this is usual...
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Denvermama36, he was not there, the nurse who will be with me before, during and after is the one that did the pre-op. I have read and sign TONS of paperwork, she also did my blood work and took my before photos. It will be okay, as long as you see his face before the anthesia kicks in on surgery day, then you're good;)
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Thanks everyone, at least I know that I'm not alone when it comes to sharing my TT plans!
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I couldn't take it, I actually broke down this...

I couldn't take it, I actually broke down this morning and told my mother...she hung up on me twice and then after that she spoke to me and sounded much better about it....I am her baby girl, we are truly best friends, she is 1000 miles away from me and if something happened she would be devastated so I truly understand her being upset.

I do feel better now because hiding it from her was tearing me up on the inside...but I did tell her to not say a word to my daddy (I'm also a daddy's girl) or my sister or brothers and she promised me that she wouldn't (which I know that she will probably leak it to my sister if anyone).

So now I'm really ready to get this show on the road!!!!!!! 5 more days!!!
What kind of recliner did you get Dons?
I know you are sooo excited!
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Exactly! I did have him in mind when I purchased it! It will be in our bedroom for a couple of weeks and then it will be moved to the family room which he thinks is his mancave!!!

And excited is putting it lightly! I can not WAITTTTTTT!!!!!!!!!!!
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im also scheduled for the 26th. are you freaking yet.cuz i am. as far as people go the $ is no ones business. There are quite a few people who know about my procedure and i feel the only ones that have problems with it, something to say, or are unsupportive 1) arent true friends 2) are jealous or 3) cant comprehend what its about. i know im doing this for me because i deserve to look like i did before pregnancy took a toll on my belly. good for you for doing what makes you happy and good luck :)
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After reading the reviews and the majority of you...

After reading the reviews and the majority of you all saying that you had a recliner or rented a hospital bed....I went with a recliner and it just got delivered today!

I think that I am all shopped out, whatever I don't have now, I just won't have! lol

On another note, I have a job interview in the morning, so this focus is somewhat taking away for the stress/excitement/nervousness/pure craziness that I have been feeling about my TT! Pray that I get the job....so at least I can replace the 7K that I took from our savings!!!
OMG I'm so happy for you... I having mine done on the 30th. I'm excited but super nervous. I still can't believe I'm doing it. Good luck!
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Thank you!!! I'm still in shock...I just can't wait to see my results!!! Congrats on your decision to join the club!
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I cannot believe that the big day is approaching...

I cannot believe that the big day is approaching so fast! I could not sleep a wink last night, then when I fell asleep, I had a dream that the TT was done and my stitches were above my belly button! LOL....

Anywho, it's Sunday so I am going to get ready to go to church, come home and wash clothes and try to find things that are going to wear me completely out so that I can get a good nights sleep!

My anesthesiologist just called me to introduce...

My anesthesiologist just called me to introduce himself and tell me what to expect tomorrow! I really appreciated that call, he said that if I'm extremely nervous tonight and can't fall asleep to go ahead and take a valium. I like him already...this is the type of customer service that I sure do appreciate!
Good luck tomorrow!
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Hello, i too am scheduled for tomorrow, I am super excited as I am sure you are too:) Yay for us!!!
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Best of luck to you!! I'm only a week ahead of you, had my TT and lipo on the 20th, it honestly has not been that bad of a recovery! I had a BL 7 months ago and that was tougher on me than this surgery. I think I read that u were not having lipo, well let me tell you that that has been the sorest spots on my body (outter thighs) so I hope you have a speedy and pain free recovery ahead of you!! Looking forward to your PO updates!!!
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It's done! I'm in sitting here in pain, not severe...

It's done! I'm in sitting here in pain, not severe just uncomfortable! I have peed about 8 times an this is wearing me out! I take blood pressure pill that I also a diuretic! Hopefully tmrw so better and I will post pics for you all!
Yay we are on the otherside!! Happy recovery to us!!
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Congrats, you are on the other side.
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So happy for u...... Make sure u get urself together so u can tell us all abt it! Sleep tight....
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PO day 2....I'm very uncomfortable, it hurts...

PO day 2....I'm very uncomfortable, it hurts really bad when I have to get up to go to the restroom. This was all expected...I just need to feel better sooner than later. Sorry for such short post, I just need too get more rest....peace out:)
Rest as much as you can CONGRATS and feel better!
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Congrats for taking a very brave step and doing whats best for you!!!!
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Hope you feel better soon!!! Trust me it does get much better.
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PO 3...Doing as well as to be expected I guess! I...

PO 3...Doing as well as to be expected I guess! I have noticed that when I drink to much I get really uncomfortable. I took a shower today and that was a pain in the a$$! My lower back is killing me but all and all, I'm good. My kids look so sad, they just look at me and want to cry...l told them that by this time next week this stage will be history!
AWW HONEY SORRY UR HAVING PAIN MAKE SURE U TAKE UR PAIN KILLER ON TIME IM SURE U LOOK AMAZING I HOPE EVERYTHING GETS BETTER FOR U!!=))
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PO day 4 - this road to recovery is really hard...

PO day 4 - this road to recovery is really hard for me! I went from being in tears from the pain caused by constipation to having diarrhea that keeps me running back and forth to the restroom! My back hurts like hell! Thank God for my BFF who has been over here taking care of me and the entire family, from cooking to cleaning, and even washing me up because I can't do it myself! I took one pic but can't seem to figure out how to upload it from my iPad, I really just want to feel semi normal again!

Thanks for all of the well wishes etc, I don't want to scare anyone, it's obvious that I'm just a darn wimp!

On another note, how the heck are you PO ladies able to get such good pics 1-5 days PO, I can't even stand straight long enough to take a pic!
I didn't take a picture till a little over a week. There is no way I could take a picture b4 then. the back pain is killer and my butt hurt a lot from all the sitting plus my scar goes all the way around and he made it nice and low. So I had to sit on it and try to sleep in it. My dr. Didn't have me wear a binder until after all my tubes were out so I sat on the scar. Boy did it ache. So don't feel like ur whining, we all are doing the same thing. Lol. Hopefully things will get easier for u!!

Oh and by the way I couldn't post my pictures from my iPad either, I had to use my computer to upload them.

Happy healings to you!!!'
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I don't know about everyone else, but my 3 day PO pic may have looked like I was just chillin while my hubby took the pic, but my walker was just out of camera shot, and it was the fastest picture ever taken by my hubby! Lol. I could barely stand long enough to get the pictures taken! Those first few weeks suck!!! I don't think you're whining, I think you're being honest! Feel free to vent my friend, it's a rough process. But, at almost 9 weeks PO now, I can for sure tell you..,it gets sooooo much better! :)
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Today seemed to be a better day! My BFF/Nurse ...

Today seemed to be a better day! My BFF/Nurse went home so I was really depressed about that! My mom whose 1000 miles away sent me a beautiful bouquet of flowers that brought tears to my eyes! But as far as the pain, the only thing that I'm feeling is pain in is my lower back. I don't have drains to worry about, so thank God for that! I go see my PS on Monday for my PO checkup and I'm hoping that I can at least stand up straight by then!

Well that's it for tonight! Good night dolls! Maybe tomorrow will bring more pics!
looking good.
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Thanks sexy12!
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looking great ladi. I can't stand straight or shower till Tuesday so im super jealous im sire I stink by now.lol
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PO Day #6...Today has been a really good day, I...

PO Day #6...Today has been a really good day, I have been up and moving around a lot, I get tired pretty quick and that's when I make my way back to my old faithful recliner. I do have a burning sensation that I feel from time to time at the incision site but I can deal with it without pain meds, which I have been off of for well over 24 hours.

I do wonder what most people do all day! I sleep only because I can't really do anything else! My kids have been a huge help since the BFF left, the house is pretty spotless so I'm happy! I go in for my post op with my PS on Monday so I'm really looking forward to that! I didn't have to deal with any drains so thank God for that, other than these few lines, all is well with Donsgirl!
You look great! Who was your doctor? I have talked to Dr. Thornton in Mansfield and he seems pretty good. But I am always open to others.
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Dr. Nakamura 817-417-7200, he's located on South Cooper right past the Parks Mall (coming from Mansfield). I went to Dr. Thorton for a consult as well and Nakamura was my final choice and I am VERY PLEASED with him, his facility and all of his staff!!!
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I called Dr. Nakamura's office today for a consultation. I go in next Wednesday! Super excited! :) Did you have any lipo along with your tummy tuck? Also, did cost play a factor in your decision to use Dr. Nakamura, rather than Thornton? I thought Thornton was nice, but I really want someone who has a little more experience. I also look at all the before and after photos on the website and I was very impressed with Nakamura. Also, have any of your friends given you a hard time about having the procedure done?
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Today makes 10 days since my surgery and I feel...

Today makes 10 days since my surgery and I feel really well! I'm up and about, able to drive, still not standing up completely straight but I'm almost there!

I went to my first PO with my PS, this past Monday (exactly a week from the date of surgery) and he said that everything looked well! They took the tape off of my incision site and put collodian on it. They clipped the stitches from my belly button, told me that I should be lying in the bed now (no longer the recliner) and I have to really push myself to stand up straight!

I have been off of pain killers (not even tylenol) for a while now...I do get drained somewhat quicker than the norm for me, but I am still able to get a lot accomplished before I get to that point. I'm still not lifting heavy objects (including my 3 year old) but for the most part, I feel very comfortable when I'm home alone, showering and other normal daily activities!

I saw some old friends today that knew nothing about the TT and they were very curious to how I lost the weight since they saw me 6 weeks ago...and of course I told them that working out has done my body well;)
Looking good girlie! My back is what's killing me but I know light is at the end of the tunnel! Thanks for updating! Such a big help!
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Sounds like you're healing very nicely. Yes, working out has done a sister good! ;-)
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I am! I know that you are getting more and more excited! Your day is almost here!!!
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Today is PO #12, I am still feeling very good! I...

Today is PO #12, I am still feeling very good! I have a pretty good amount of energy...still playing the worn out card so that the hubby and kiddos continue to baby me;) LOL

I posted some pics that I took this morning...I know that a lot of you ladies had drains and my doctor (whose VERY seasoned) doesn't use them...I was somewhat nervous about that, but I'm thinking this is the reason why I bounced back so quick!

I forgot to add, I DID NOT have lipo, only a tummy...

I forgot to add, I DID NOT have lipo, only a tummy tuck:)
I made it!! I have never been so relieved in my whole life!
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Yahhhh! Congrat's and welcome to the flat side!!! Can't wait to see pics!
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Wow!!!! I can't wait to go in on Thursday. I hope that you are starting to feel as great as you look!
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16 Days PO and still doing well! I have posted...

16 Days PO and still doing well! I have posted new pics that I just took a few minutes ago. I seem to have most of my energy back...I'm able to do a little shopping, cook dinner etc with little or no help at all. I am still very careful when I have to bend over and pick up stuff, I normally squat. I go to the doctor on Friday for my 2nd PO appt, but other than that, I have no complaints at all!

On another note, it's funny how the hubby said that nothing was wrong with my tummy before, and all of a sudden, he is sending me texts asking for pics in his favorites undies, we are both very pleased with this investment! LOL
Honey you look wonderful!!!!! How has your appetite been? I am very interested in your story because you sounded just like me! Your back was hurting so bad and then u just suddenly starting feeling better! Thank god there is light at the end of the tunnel! I am 10 days post op and still struggle with back pain. Have you tried on clothing yet? You really look fantastic! Funny about hubby requesting flicks now! Lol!
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Hey Girlie! Thank you! As far as my appetite, it has kicked back in in full damn swing, but I refuse to let it get the best of me especially since I can't workout! I had to force myself to stand up straight, I preferred the pulling sensation in the chest verses that horrid lower back pain!!! I have actually had to put on clothes, 10 days PO I had to attend an awards luncheon where I was inducted on the associations executive board, so sweats were not an option, my slacks size 12, were baggy even though I was swollen and I just wore a cardigan and tank! It looked nice and I got a lot of compliments (still didn't tell them my secret). Lol. Oh and I just got 2 bikinis that I ordered and they look fabulous!

Girl, my husband is hilarious! At least I can tell that he loves the new me! I told him to just wait until I'm totally healed, he is going to see a new me so he better get ready! Lol
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LMAO! Don's in trouble now! Get ready Don!
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Hey RealSelfer's! As of today, I am 3 weeks and 4...

Hey RealSelfer's! As of today, I am 3 weeks and 4 days post op! I had my 2nd follow-up with my PS on Friday the 13th and he said that everything was healing well. He told be to start putting Mederma Scar Cream on my scar starting that day. I had a few questions for him which I have listed below (you all may have a few of the same):

1. Burning sensation right under breast...This is from the stitches holding my muscles together.
2. Pulling in chest when standing up straight...this is normal, I have to continue to push myself to stand up straight, which as of today is no issue.
3. When can I sleep on my side and stomach? I can sleep on my sides now, but it will be a while before I can sleep on my stomach and no massages either:(
4. When can I take a bath? Starting today
5. When can I get back on the elliptical? In another 3 weeks
6. When am I cleared to have sex? As of today, but be very careful, no rough housing! lol
7. When can I lift heavy things like my kid? Use the muscles in my legs to pull her up, holding her close to me...not the muscles in my stomach (I have just chose not to pick her up yet).
8. When can I resume vacuuming, sweeping etc? I can sweep now, slowing move back into vacuuming and my NORMAL household chores.
9. Is my 2 hour drive to Tyler on Sunday okay? He approved it, I attended a dance competition with my daughter and I actually felt fine...until later that night when I got back home...so it was actually 4 hours total in the car.

Remember, these were the answers to my questions on Friday! As of today, I'm feeling great and sexy as ever! I'm a stay at home mom, so I can't quite say that working all day is wearing me out....I do make sure to get me a nap in daily tho...in the recliner of course:)

I hope that everyone is healing well and getting ready to strut our flat bikini belly's this summer (P.S. I have already purchased 2)! LOL. I will post pics tomorrow or Sunday.

Oh, I forgot to add that my PS said that he...

Oh, I forgot to add that my PS said that he removed 4.5 lbs of fat! Dayummm is all that I could say!
You look great!
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Thank you!
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I have made it past the 12 week mark and I feel...

I have made it past the 12 week mark and I feel great! There is nothing that I can't do, I'm sleeping on my stomach just fine, I don't feel any pain anywhere, and I am extremely pleased with my results! I am so happy that I made the decision to have a TT! My husband it also very pleased, he just looks at me in amazement! Now prior to the surgery I was a very confident person, but now, my confidence has gone to another level!!!

I can wear my bikinis, little shorts, fitted maxi dresses...the whole nine yards!!! When I went back for my 12 week appointment, my PS gave me a $150 gift card to the spa, now how awesome is that!!!
daang girl!!! whole transformation u look amazing and so happy for u!!!!
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WOW DonsGirl, you look great!!!!
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Thank you tonya8!
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Dr. Y. Anthony Nakamura

So far, during the consultation Dr. Nakamura made me feel very comfortable and answered every question that I had written down before I could even get to them! Everytime that I have had any type of interaction with the doctor and his staff, they have been nothing but caring and very on top of things. Whenever I have called with questions PO, they get me a nurse IMMEDIATELY! They are a great team, and not the mention he owns his surgical facility and it very nice as well. Without a doubt, I would recommend him, hands down!!!!

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