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My current stats are 35yo, 5.2 tall, 128lbs. I...
3DeeMay 9, 2012
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My current stats are 35yo, 5.2 tall, 128lbs. I have 2 beautiful children (7yo girl & 3yo boy) but unfortunately they did a number on my body. They were both full term, 8 lbs babies. Well, my husband and I have decided not to have any more children so the time has come. I've been planning this ever since I was 8 months pregnant with my dd and the first ugly stretch marks appeared. My ds came 4 yrs later and put the final nail in the coffin.
I've been working really hard on my body for the past 3 years and I'm finally ready to go for surgery. I've been going to a personal trainer twice a week, bootcamp once a week and ballet once a week (I secretly still want to be a prima ballerina...note the sarcasm). I've also struggled with depression over the last 7 years (starting with post natal and graduating to full blown). But I have worked hard on my mental state with the help of a brilliant psychologist & psychiatrist.
I've been reading mm reviews for months and they have inspired me immensely. Now I can finally join the community...
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May 10, 2012
Welcome and congrats on taking care of ALL of you . We are here to support you in any way we can.
UPDATED FROM 3Dee
16 days pre
So, it's only another 16 days before I get my new...
3DeeMay 22, 2012
So, it's only another 16 days before I get my new tummy and ta-ta's. Can't wait. But I am getting anxious. I've posted a few before pics. Taking the photos reminded me of the reasons I'm getting this MM. I hate the stretch marks and the loose skin on my tummy. And I'm tired of trying to get a bra to accomodate my 2 different sized boobies.
What did you guys tell your kids about the surgery? I've been trying to teach my dd to love herself for who and what she is and now I feel like a hypocrate for doing this. But I really think of a MM as more of a reconstructive than cosmetic surgery. Am I just trying to justify my decision?
What did you guys tell your kids about the surgery? I've been trying to teach my dd to love herself for who and what she is and now I feel like a hypocrate for doing this. But I really think of a MM as more of a reconstructive than cosmetic surgery. Am I just trying to justify my decision?
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May 22, 2012
Q> What did you guys tell your kids about the surgery?
Your kids are very young so i dont have the answer for that. MY youngest is my daughter and she is 16... I did like you Teach them to love themselves... BUTÂ you are not a hypocrate.. Loving the things you can not change is one thing.. I have brown hair brown eyes..one is a lazy eye. We ll actually it is odd. when I move my jay my eye lid moves.. BUT I have learned to love that.. But to say I am overweight (or whatever) and I need to love that is different. I think we need to love the things we have no control over. and love ourselves.. Getting the surgery isnt going to make you LOVE yourself more.. maybe be more comfortable in a room with your husband or not cringe when you look in the mirror..but if YOU dont LOVE YOU now...surgery wont change that... does that help? I mean did you understand that?
Love WHO you are as a person what makes YOU unique.. but it's ok to not be happy with things we had no real control over..
I did tell my daughter, but she knew how I felt. I DID love me just not the tummy ( look at my pre op pics) I worked hard like you did. I did everything I could do.. so the choice was live with the skin or have it removed..
I didnt make a big deal over it or a big fuss.. I dont know that you should especially at their young age....
i do hope someone who has younger children can help you with this a little better. I would at that age maybe just tell them the dr is going to fix your tummy... I dont know that they need details
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Q. Am I just trying to justify my decision?--
No I dont think so.. But I do think these are all normal feelings and we ALL go through them in one form or another. and I agree it IS reconstructive.. it was for me! cosmetic I guess but I did not do this to impress others with my looks. THAT would be cosmetic in my opinion..Â
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Now let me just say that if you and your husband are fine and agree then that is the most important and helpful thing you can have.
Of course we are here to support you too.. be sure to read our reviews and ask any questions you have ok..
NOW STAY EXCITED!!!! I think it helps you heal :)
May 23, 2012
Thanks for making me feel soooo much better. I do love me now, just not the tummy and boobies. I feel that they don't reflect all the hard work I have put in. I also don't want to impress anybody. This is purely for me.
The kids are going to stay with my mom for a week, so they don't have to see me at my worst. But you are right, I'm just going to tell them that I'm going to fix my tummy. My 3yo constantly asks why my tummy is so wrinkled. I always tell him it's because I was lucky enough to have big, healthy babies but that my short body had nowhere else to go but outwards. He thinks it's funny. In fact, he told all his little friends at the day care that 'Mommy's tummy went pfffft like a balloon'.
The kids are going to stay with my mom for a week, so they don't have to see me at my worst. But you are right, I'm just going to tell them that I'm going to fix my tummy. My 3yo constantly asks why my tummy is so wrinkled. I always tell him it's because I was lucky enough to have big, healthy babies but that my short body had nowhere else to go but outwards. He thinks it's funny. In fact, he told all his little friends at the day care that 'Mommy's tummy went pfffft like a balloon'.
May 23, 2012
HAHA I understand that. I'm 5'4" and had a 10 lb baby.. no where to go but out. ...
UPDATED FROM 3Dee
9 days pre
Ok, so it's only another 8 days. Let the...
3DeeMay 29, 2012
Ok, so it's only another 8 days. Let the countdown begin. Anybody else turn into a complete monster the week before mm? My husband said 'good morning' and I almost bit his head off. 10 Minutes later my daughter and I had a minor disagreement which turned into a full blown tantrum (me). I'm eating up a storm. I think I might have gained 3 pounds in the last week. Trying to contain myself but failing miserably.
It doesn't help that I'm working from home at the moment. The fridge is 10 steps away and the pantry 12 steps. Do those steps count as excercise? I've just found out that my little boy might have his tonsils removed before the end of this week. Seeing the doctor in an hour.
It doesn't help that I'm working from home at the moment. The fridge is 10 steps away and the pantry 12 steps. Do those steps count as excercise? I've just found out that my little boy might have his tonsils removed before the end of this week. Seeing the doctor in an hour.
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May 29, 2012
Excited doesn't even begin to describe what I'm feeling at this moment. But for some reason it feels like I have a million things to do before then. I don't know how I'm going to cope. As you might have noticed, I'm fluctuating between total happiness and extreme nervousness and then I swing to sadness. My husband and children are a bit scared of me at the moment.....
May 29, 2012
Hi 3Dee. I was pretty emotional before surgery, then all of a sudden I just gave myself permission to accept my decision...then I felt calm and it was so much better. I understand the reputation of plastic surgery, but I choose to look at it as repairing the muscles under my skin and the only real way for a dr to do that is to pull the skin back to really see what needs repaired, then of course the skin on the tummy has to be fitted back tight to the muscles. I had an uncomfortable belly button hernia and when the dr got under my skin he found several inches of seperations and torn muscles...so, I needed the tt for medical reasons. So who knows what medical repairs you may NEED, right? Hope that helps a bit. Keep your chin up. : )
May 29, 2012
3Dee- looks like we will be having our MM on the same day! How cool is that, we can follow each other through our recovery. You were brave to post your before pics, I'm working on it but it's not an easy thing to do! LOL...
June 2, 2012
It took me while before I could post these pics. I took them about a month before I posted them. But if my before and after can help anybody then I've done my job. I took the photos with my mobile. One afternoon my 7yo daughter started going through all the photos and I almost had a heart attack. That's when I decided to post them and delete them off the mobile.
May 29, 2012
By the way, are u doing saline or silicone? How many cc etc?
June 2, 2012
I'm doing silicone, under the muscle. The BA & BL wasn't my priority. I just wanted the TT. But then I decided to do all three at once rather than a year apart. I'm not sure of the cc's. As I'm typing this, I'm sitting with 250cc's of rice in each cup of my bra. It feels quite nice and I think it suits my body type. About half an hour ago I had 450cc's. My husband almost passed out. I don't know if it was fright or excitement. I might just go for the happy medium...350cc right and 300cc left (I'm lopsided).
Yay, so glad you're here! This is a great group of ladies and we'll be here for you throughout your journey. If you haven't already, check out JenBob's great article about Mommy Makeovers. Keep us posted on how you're feeling as the big day nears!