49 Years Old -- Face Lift with Fat Transfer - Belgium

So after my slightly freaked out about the whole thing post yesterday, I thought I'd say that I saw my surgeon today and he was absolutely lovely. Showed me his before and after pictures AGAIN and explained why a couple of people looked more "photoshopped" than others -- a look I really don't want -- and why I would achieve the much more natural look that the vast majority of his patients have. He spent a long time showing me in the mirror how to hold my face so I could see what the final result would be. He also offered me all my money back if I didn't want to go ahead and was basically so patient and up front about everything that I feel very reassured. It was so nice to look in the mirror while he was holding my face and see ME again! I also had a long talk with his PA who'd worked for him for seven years and said they'd never had anyone get lumps in the fat they'd had transferred. Without me even asking she offered to put me in touch with people who'd recently had their FLs and said that one of them was coming in again next week and bringing four of her friends! She seemed very honest and kind and nice, very understanding of what a big decision this is for me. So all in all, I'm feeling MUCH better.

Thank you so much for your comments. It's good to know that there are others out there who are going through the dame thing. I have a (third) pre-op consultation tomorrow with my surgeon and I'm hoping he'll be able to show me what it's going to look like. He has shown me before, of course, but I'm so nervous that I forget where exactly he put his fingers and I stand in front of the mirror pulling my face up here and there and sometimes it looks great and sometimes I think Oh. My. God. I don't recognise myself and I get really freaked out. But then the changes to my face have been so rapid that I don't recognise myself anyway.

I've also talked to a couple of other people -- a friend who's had minor procedures (despite being under 30!), works in the music industry and whose opinion on these things I respect as well as a specialist in botox/fillers (I've been checking out all my options!) and they both said Don't put fat in your cheeks or in the naso-labial (sp?) lines so I've decided against that. They said it's really important to take it slow because you can always do more if you want to later and that's better than doing everything in a rush. I'm massively undecided about the fat I'm scheduled to have transferred to get rid of my dark circles -- have been reading horror stories on this site this morning, people saying DON'T DO IT and images of lumps but on the other hand, it has worked for a lot of people and if I don't do it, I'll still have the circles. Really scary choice.

I have been feeling really excited about this and I'm sure I will again since so many people have had such positive experiences but today is a Bad Day -- I seem to be worried about everything!! Looking too "done" so that people can tell, not recognising myself, things going wrong. And also -- and I'm being very honest here -- freaking out slightly at the realisation that I've reached the age where I have to have surgery on my face to make me look good. This came as quite a shock as I was really happy with how I was doing before I lost all that weight and my face changed so much so quickly. On the plus side tho, I look great in my jeans!!!

Sorry for being so down on it all. But this is the place to be honest about the whole experience, right? And I am still having it done -- my surgeon came personally recommended and seems to have had good results and the thought of not having those horrible nose/mouth lines is just too enticing!

Just btw, needafaceliftnow45, in terms of diets, I was trying to lose a bit of weight before all this happened and the 5:2 diet was excellent. Good luck with that.

How did you get on Nanny63? I hope it all went well for you xx

Although I'm 49 I've always taken care of myself and looked younger. Recently though I had a traumatic experience, lost lots of wieght, much of which came off my face, making me lose years older. I felt like I'd aged 10 years in a month; it's like a stranger is looking back at me from the mirror. Having read reviews on this (and other) sites, I've decided to go for a FL. I figure that even if I don't strictly speaking need one now, I may well in the next couple of years so I might as well go for it. I've booked my procedure for 25th November but now all the medical consent forms are coming with all the grisly details of exactly what will happen and exactly what could go wrong, I'm feeling really nervous and would appreciate support from others out there who are or have been feeling a similar way. I will post photos afterwards -- I have been very encouraged by what others have been brave enough to share on this site and would like to use my experience to hlep people make a decision in their turn.