SOFTGIRL...taking a poll: Do you think I'd look ok in a bikini? Or...should I just forget it...be honest ladies..

I'm 50+, had 3 kids, nursed em all, and now a...

I'm 50+, had 3 kids, nursed em all, and now a deflated 36b of some kind. I hope to get 394 Allergans, style 15. I was barely an A cup for most of my life until I had kids, during breastfeeding it swelled up to about a D cup and I was in heaven! I want to have that feel and look again. I will fill out more once I get the rest of the fee. Can you believe that they wanted me to provide COLLATERAL for a measly 1500?? I'm appalled.

Softgirl don't worry, I'm sure if every Dr. handed out implants like Halloween candy they would get screwed. Just save some more money and don't worry about being hurt on the payment plan thing. This will make you work harder and appreicatate what you want even more. I waited for 30 years. So I wouldn't be upset over payment. Try another dr. Sometimes they will help you out. but don't do it if you don't like the dr. Its not worth your health., keep us posted.
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Oh, I like the Dr., and here is why: 1. 24 hr Recovery, aka Rapid Recovery 2. in office surgical suite 3. great portfolio of results 4. competitive pricing 5. highly recommended to me by another good Dr. I have the money now. I am booked for Dec. 26th. My sister will fly out from CA to take me there and look after me as my spouse is not able to take any time off at all, and the x-mas vacay is the best timing for me.
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Thanks for starting your story on RealSelf. What is a style 15 like? Is that silicone or saline? I wonder why your doctor's office won't go with personal credit cards...

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I forgot to add, since they won't let me change...

I forgot to add, since they won't let me change the previous review... I'm 5 2, 128, 36B [kinda]. I will have to take some before pics here shortly and figure out how to load them up without asking my teen sons to do it [gah!!!]. My motivation is several things: I think I don't look too bad clothed, but really want to rock it naked. I feel 'ho-hum' everytime I take my bra off and see my poor limp boobies..like another poster said-they did their biological job well. I like most of the rest of my body and feel I've done a pretty good job staying in shape, considering I had 3 kids. I'm just plain tired of feeling 'less than' since I was a teen and now that my baby days are over, why shouldn't I do something for me? I put it off for good reasons, but those concerns are gone now.
I am great at penny pinching, almost "extreme" couponing, making sure our family is fed/clean/dressed/civilized, why can't I have a treat for ME? My spouse is not too thrilled over the idea, but it's not about him, it's about my own body image. Both my BFF and my sister have recently had BA's, and are happy and thrilled with their results. I want my turn now! I am pinching pennies for boobies now!! LOL!! and pass the free shampoo, thank you very much...
This website has been a godsend for me, I have picked up really great pics for my 'boobie folder' to take to my Dr., and giving me courage to follow through! I might add that I've had a TT 8 yrs ago and although it didn't turn out perfect, I'm still glad I did it. My BFF had a TT first and reported that the BA was much much easier, so that helps ease my nerves too.
I had a hard time with care credit, getting approved. I think because I changed jobs and had not been on the job for two years. I don't know but my credit report is great.
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Oh my lord that is not even funny! I don't know what I would have said or even done at that point. Lol Holy Crap! Well good luck to you. : )
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Not many doctors offer the Rapid Recovery soft. My PS is absolutely amazing... when I found out no pain pills would be needed & there would not be any any bruising I scheduled surgery ASAP!!! No regrets here....luvin' these sexy new curves.  I hope your surgery goes well & look forward to seeing the before/after piks soon.
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Ok, the PS office called and put me to the 27th...

Ok, the PS office called and put me to the 27th instead. Apparently another Dr. is assisting and she couldn't be there on the 26th. No problem. Called my sister today and she promised me she is coming that week for sure. She will drive me to my BA as my hubby has to work. She just had a BA herself in August and will make an excellent nurse. Yay! Christmas boobies!
Softgirl, I have to agree with you. You've worked this hard taking care of family and friends it's your turn! I just got my girls in early September (I'll be 50 in January) and I am enjoying every second! Keep us informed!
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Yeah, it was just weird, but I pulled it together, moved some finances around, and it's all good. Better not to pay interest anyways!
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Ok Ladies, I popped into my PS's office and made...

Ok Ladies, I popped into my PS's office and made another deposit. My pre-op is next weds and I then be all paid up and ready to go.
Does anyone here take HRT and did you have to go off of it? I researched it and found that about 50% of the women taking HRT or birth control pills did not have to stop unless they were having really long multiple surgeries. I have my blood levels tested and my HRT is bio identical, meaning it's exactly the same stuff my own body used to produce. However, my levels are just enough to control menopausal symptoms, and are WAY lower than what a normal woman would make at like 35, so why it would be an issue, I don't know. They don't tell healthy 35, 40 yr old women to stop having periods, do they?? lol... ok now i"m rambling...

Oh my God....Had my preop today and my head is...

Oh my God....Had my preop today and my head is swirling. I'm sure all of you can relate. I loved the way the 371's looked, so the gal ordered 397's due to the compression factor. I tried them on and asked everyone over and over, "Are you sure this is not too much?" They all said it's 'perfect. perfect, you can even go more', but it was the stopping point for me, lol.
The Dr. came in, [between surgeries] and assured me everything will go fine, that it was a good size for me, not too big for the 24 hr recovery technique. Then he threw me a curve ball and wants to do a peri areolar incision, which I did not ask for. He insists it will not reduce my nipple sensations [which is really important to me, I have sensitive nipples that make me VERY happy during, ummm, intimate moments, shall we say]. My hub got very upset [??] at the mention of going through my nipples.... so they agreed to let me tell them the morning of the surgery which way I want to go. I'm torn, because I actually do think that the BA's I've seen going thru the nipple were really great looking, but my hub has this idea that I'll be left with big ugly scars under my nips... Girls...what do you think? I'm more concerned about loss of sensation, and hubs is upset about scars. UGH.

Ok Ladies, trying to add a pic... I think this is...

Ok Ladies, trying to add a pic... I think this is the 397cc sizer, so should be smaller once it's in. I pray this is not too big. The blonde gal on the left was helping me with sizers and she insisted this looked great on me.
Oh and sensation is not gone. If anything I think it's heightened. I'm like a walking time bomb because my nipples are big and the headlights are truly on now 24/7. I'm happy with my decision and will post more pics when I see more change.
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Beautiful and I'm happy for you! I will not touch my nipples unless i absolutely have to...probably whenever i need a lift, but not right now. I'll deal with it at that point! Happy healing and once again you look perfect!
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I decided to stay with the inframammary incision, under the breasts. I'm just not convinced that I want a scar around the edge of my nipples if I don't need to have them [as in a lift].
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Why am I not on the calendar for the 27th? Who's...

Why am I not on the calendar for the 27th? Who's in charge of this?

For some reason I couldn't see the price in my...

For some reason I couldn't see the price in my review like I can see others, so I added it.
You make me laugh. I love the way you write!!! I say give in to your husband and go under the breast. He's probably afraid you'll lose sensation... My friend has scars around her nipples. I can't tell but she notices them... They are like little ripples.
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Why thank you! I do try to amuse if I can! I took a poll, looked more closely at a LOT of pics online, including my Drs. website, and decided that I will stick with under the breast for now. Hubs is STILL putting the whole idea of a BA down, I don't think he quite realizes that it's paid for, booked, and there's no cancelling at this point, and the $$ is gone.
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Lol. Yeah I told my husband "Oh NO! Don't start this crap now. We already agreed that I was getting it done. You have no right to change your mind!"
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Hey gals, had one last pre op today. Thank God my...

Hey gals, had one last pre op today. Thank God my sister came out to help me, I need the emotional support. I suddenly got a case of the cold feet/whackos/wth's over the weekend. My Dr. also gave me a pep talk and smacked me verbally upside the head, too. He's a real, no nonsense sort of guy. In my defense, I'm without hormone replacement right now. Normally I'm fairly steady... but I figured you all were familiar with all the pre op and post op crazies too, so I can let my hair down with you gals.
Thursday the 27th is coming soon, wish me luck on the other side! Here's to better boobies!

LADIES! I'm done!! And WOW, the insuite surgery...

LADIES! I'm done!! And WOW, the insuite surgery center was topnotch. Extremely clean, modern, and the entire team at Dr. Gitt's office was warm, empathetic, professional. Dr. Heidi Regenass was assisting, and she came in and was so kind and supportive, it was exactly what I needed, as I was just wigged out from nerves the past week! Dr. Gitt was great and didn't make me feel bad for not going with the aerolar incision, extra points for him [i know he would have preferred it}. Everything went smoothly. But since I have tuberous constricted breasts, I had extra pain below my breasts, as he had to approach that differently to try and get the pocket just right.

This afternoon/evening i was very very sick from the effects of the anesthesia/ pain, but part of the problem was that I didn't get the dosing sequence right. Thank God my sister was here to help me get back on track and now I'm ahead of the pain. I took a quick peek at the girls and WOW, I hope they stay on course like this, they look AMAZING. I couldn't be happier. But even if things take a not so good turn, I will deal with it then and see what the Dr. can do for me. So far, so good!! OH!! and my right nipple still has good sensation, the left not so much, but it's all good! I got 397 cc's in both sides, Allergan moderate profile, style 15. PS my fav part was the heated, hot air balloon type 'gown' and blankets.
Happy New Years and happy healing to all my BA sisters here!
Congrats! Welcome to boobyland! Rest as much as you can!
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Congrats. Welcome to the other side. You will love them. Just major sure to get your rest. I find myself still getting in extra rest and sleep time and I'm on Day 20. The body needs to heal and my family and my boyfriend have been very supportive. I will see my PS for a checkup tomorrow and excited to see what he will say. Have a good night!!!
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My hubs finally got on board. I sat down the other day before surgery, and told him he had to stop with the negativity and give me support, or I just wasnt going to heal well.
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Day 3 and a few words: took my first post op...

Day 3 and a few words: took my first post op shower, and I think my boobies look amazing! Of course I'm still sore/tight/high, but I think these 397's are the perfect size for me. .Ok, time for more pills and a NAP. Eventually I'll get a pic on here that won't freak my hubby out. He's so worried about my body being on the 'interweb'!! LOL! OH and my sister is here taking care of me and marshalling my kids to clean house too, she has been the best sister ever. Can't thank her enough!
I tgot worse. The zofran would not stay down, I was puking harder and harder over the course of several hours, until I buckled and called the PS office. My assisting surgeon, Dr. Regenass, did call back and order some of the rectal meds, and I used 2 of them. It was EXCRUCIATING to puke my insides out, holding onto my titties, leaning into the toilet seat, praying I wouldn't rip anything. I think birthing babies was easier than this, and I had 3 so I can speak to this.
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You poor thing :( This will all be a bad memory soon (the vomiting)- hang in there. Could you be allergic to your antibiotic or something? Make sure you take things with food. I vomited my 2nd or 3rd day I think because I took my antibiotic an vitamins on an empty stomach....then tried to eat 20 minutes later...an yeah...I know...it def hurts to be only 2 or 3 days out an throwing up! Luckily - it never happened again because I was so careful about eating while taking it... my mom has bad nausea from anesthesia though - lots of vomiting. Next time (if you ever have surgery) ask them to put something in your IV to help with it - tell them you react bad...as she does that now and does not get sick.
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Well, this was on day 4 after surgery, and I was taking the zofran for 2 days. The anesthesia nurse gave me the IV dose, so not his fault. I'm beginning to think I might have caught a nasty flu? I vomited violently from 7 am to about 2pm,8 sessions. Even later that night, after i'd used the rectal meds, I had another bout of vomiting [it was wearing off and the new insert didn't kick in, TMI , i know]. HAHA, my hubs was holding up my hair, while i puked and swore, he said quietly "Well, at least you LOOK good..."....
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Added some post op pics...trying to get some...

Added some post op pics...trying to get some better ones! these are the 397 cc, Allergan, style 15.

Ok here's a couple more pics, day 7.

Ok here's a couple more pics, day 7.
Looking great!!!
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Soft girl I think we have the same type allergen Natrelle style 15. Yours look great and you are going to love them more and more everyday. Congrats.
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Yes, GoBig, indeed we do! I just started massaging them today. Saw PS yesterday and he said "GREAT set of boobs!!" We had much discussion previous to surgery, because I had significantly tuberous constricted breasts and he said it would be a challenge to get em right on the first shot. So I was quite nervous, but he did a fab job and I am just thrilled, pleased to death. He and Dr. Regenass outdid themselves. Am I sore as hell? YEP. But happy over the outcome. Ordered the VS front zip sports bar, on sale right now. Can't wait until I can drop n fluff and shop the regular VS stuff! OH and BTW, I did receive my Allergan credit for botox or latisse, yay! GoBig, your nips look amazing, i had to LOOK for the line. Great job!
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I added a pre op pic of my tuberous constricted...

I added a pre op pic of my tuberous constricted breasts. Hubs thought they were 'perfect'.. haha...
How are you doing/feeling? My surgery date was on 12/26! Christmas boobies for us lol! :-)
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I'm still sore and have to be careful, esp with right armpit blowtorch zingers. It's been 18 dys and only last nite I was able to get out of bed by myself, but only cuz i was close to the edge and could roll to my left side and gently press up with left arm. My right arm/side is still pretty sore/weak. How are you doing?
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Ugh sorry :/ no fun at all. I have been fortunate with my recovery. The day of my surgery and the day after were a little tough but bearable and I started massaging the day after surgery. Have you tried Arnica pills and Arnica gel/cream? I am also on Bromelain. I really believe that the Arnica in combination with the drains had a huge impact on a speedy recovery. Although the day of and the day after were the worst, I was not really ready to think and get back to work until 1 week after my surgery. Fortunately I have been working from home .. This week I will make the drive to my office a little over 4 hours away for 2 days and 1 night. This Wednesday will be three weeks and I'm going to start doing some light cardio and working out (no upper body) .. We will see how it goes and I will keep you posted. What meds are you taking OTC or prescribed?
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When i first came home, he seemed happy and...

When i first came home, he seemed happy and excited. Now he won't look at me and says he wants my old boobs back, that this doesn't turn him on. My old boobs were little flat tuberous lumps. It's a good thiing i have strong sense of self. I reminded him I did this for me and not anyone else. This makes him angy.
He's got some baggage from his past, and is very insecure, is all I can surmise. I don't baby him anymore. WHich is not to say that I'm unkind to him, but after 20 yrs I'm not his therapist. He didn't want me to spend the money, doesn't want other men looking at me, didn't like for me to go to the gym that only costs me $18 per month, etc. etc. etc. He thinks I should just give up, get fat, and 'age gracefully' whatever the hell that means. The little tiny backwards town he came from, all the people were half dead by 50. He actually thought that all women automatically had full hysterectomies when they hit menopause or even if they didn't want anymore kids, even in mid 30's. I'm not willing to stop taking care of myself, and he will just have to get used to it. I let it roll off my back but it would be nice to be appreciated...
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Amen!!!
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Is a little insecure? Maybe the new you will attract some attention and he's not ready for that? What has happened up until now? I think he'll come around and enjoy them just like you.
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Hubs stayed home today and is being nice and...

Hubs stayed home today and is being nice and helpful. Maybe he wants something??? lol....thanks girls for all your continued support.
well I'm assuming you're not prancing around naked outside, so who cares if you made your breasts a little larger (for yourself)...the only difference now is your clothes fit much better and you feel better, I'm not going to psycho-analyze your hubs but there's a point when people should just be happy you're happy and that's that. Enjoy yourself and what medicine/technology has been able to gift us ladies...and some men with, lol.
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Precisely my point. Also my breasts were tuberous and shaped oddly. Hubs may have liked it, but I didn't. Oh well he's acting better today anyways.
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Good to hear, gotta take it one day at a time...just like our recovery :)
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I an now able to get myself in out of bed. so...

I an now able to get myself in out of bed. so after kids get sent off to school i can go back to bed and snooze a little longer. This helps a TON as far as healing goes! I will try and get some new pics up! not posting a lot as my cursor is bouncing a lot lately.
I also had very tuberous breasts with no lift. I was told it will take longer for them to "sink in fully" because they place them so flattish. But was also told to get a bra that will help push them together to provide the cleavage. I bought two in a bra store, kind of look like sports bras or old lady bras but really squeeze them
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I love the comment on your last pic - I am with you on the boob greed! I wish I went bigger with a higher profile!! ;) xoxo
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Sending positive thoughts your way! I think you look great!!
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Fooey on asking someone else to size me. My mom is...

Fooey on asking someone else to size me. My mom is a retired professional tailor, and she measured me at 36D. My band under my boobies is 32 [plus 4=36] and my boobs at the fullest part is 40. So 40 minus 36 = D cup. Sure enough, in nearly every better brand in better stores [not counting Walhell or Ross or TJ Maxx], I am exactly a 36D! I'm still, at 6 weeks, not comfy wearing a wired bra, as my fold/creases were lowered a lot and are still sore as hell. I'm living in Bali style #3484, in a Medium. Found them dirt cheap on Ebay from a gal in Florida for $11 shipped! Go to a Kohl's and try em on, no wires and you'll be shocked at how comfy they are. Then order from ebay! I'll get some more pics up in a few days.
Hi softgirl, You're looking great! Wow! 36D.. I'm hoping to be a D cup as well if not a full C... thanks for the tip on how to get the measurements.. I'm still Post-op Day 2 but I'm very curious now on what my size is although I know its going to be inconsistent because of the swelling... Looking forward to more pics!!!
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How are you doing?
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Hey lady! I looked up the style 15's in my Allergan book and it said it was a mid-range profile?! That is what you got too right? I'm so confused lol .. I thought this whole time I had moderate profiles!
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Gals [and guys for you transgender types, lol],...

Gals [and guys for you transgender types, lol], based on what you've seen of my pics, do you think I'd look ok in a bikini? I've been very bikini shy since having kids, but my friends and even my 13 yr old teen girl think I'd look good in a bikini. In the interest of science and not wanting to blind anyone with my not perfect body, what do you think? I got the boobs to balance me out and am tired of the tankini's and one pieces. See, I've been trying on swimsuits like mad and find that anything over a C cup is very dowdy, fugly and 'minimizing'!! I paid over 5 g's for boobies and dam if I'm going to 'minimize' these pups!! Thoughts please. Thank you!
Looking good girl! AND yes!!! You should wear a bikini!!!
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love that you too call them pups! I think a bikini would be fine....there are people way way way worse around always....and still in a bikini....that is what my husband always tells me and always makes me feel better cause you then start looking around and realize he is right! Yours look good! Can't wait til my day finally comes!
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You have a similar body type to my mom and she wears a bikini. I have never thought it looked bad or felt embarrassed when we were together. I would definitely say go for it. Your new boobs deserve it
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How are you all doing shopping for swimwear? Post your finds!

Well, ladies, I've been shopping some more and discovered that I can fit some brands of 34DD bras and swimwear. The most comfy underwire bikini tops I've found is Tommy Bahama, which surprised me. I stumbled across this brand at Steinmart lately. I should've bought it right then and there but was not wild about the color [odd green shade]. I then came home and looked it up online and they have sizes 32c to 38DD...pricey at 97 each but I can pair it with some solid color bottoms I can buy cheaply anywheres. Sorry it's not largest sizes but the quality is very very good. Hope this helps someone out there!
Otherwise, how you ladies doing?
Omg! You should def rock bikinis. Your boobs are awesome with your body proportionately. Go for it! I need to work on working out and toning my flabs to rock these new body of ours! Forget what husbands say about them, he will def be possessive about them after seeing you in bikinis. Lots of eyes will catch them new addition. Lets be proud of them and own em. We deserve this new happiness.
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Amen sister!!!
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Hey girl you look amazing and you should be proud to get out in a bikini. It was great to read your post about your husband's reaction. Mine is a fake boobie disliker and I think it's going to take a big emotional adjustment to come around. I over heard a phone call to his mum and he said they look f..king ugly. Then the other night I tried to get him to kiss my boobs and he said thy were just bags of silicone. So looks like I'm in the same boat as you!! Hope he comes around after they settle down a bit lol x
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Hey Girls, new pics! 34DD-36DD bras!

I finally found some bras that don't pinch, pull, poke, scratch! There's a great sale going on right now at Kohl's, buy 1 get 1 50% off, plus i have coupon for 30% off on top of that. Very hard to find anything in DD, but I did manage and then came home to look onlin at Kohls.com as well. These are don't have pushups, the pushups [including VS] that I've tried so far actually cause me pain, digging into my sutures on my ribcage [I had quite a bit of crease lowering due to constricted breasts]. So it's a challenge to find the cut that will enhance me! I spent about $35 for the 2 bras, panties on sale too so total bill was $45 with tax.
I now realized that the balconette, balcony styles work the best for my shape! Which was the exact opposite my entire life. I used to avoid balconette for so long that when shopping I didn't even reach for them, until yesterday, and WOW was I surprised and very happy. Had admired them from afar my entire life! yay for boobies!!
Looking fabulous. I love that lace bra. How are you feeling? Wishing you heal fast. Have you hit the bikini stores yet?
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Hi Mina, actually i found a Becca brand at TJMaxx, D cup top, and it was on sale for $30. It has a fun pink paisley pattern, halter top, tie back. I will get a pic up of it soon.
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Looking beautiful and those bras fit you very nicely :)
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I am being viciously stalked online, shocked by who it is.

Dear friends, I have found the source of my husband's malcontent regarding my boob job. I have gone into his FB acct and found old anonymous messages dating right back to 9/2012, exactly when i started going for consults and starting my whole implant process. Each message was sent by a 'stranger', from all over the US. The last one contained information that identified the sender to me. It is a 'friend' that I've had for 25 yrs, that was kind to my face but apparently turned against me once I decided to upgrade my body. The malicious messages said that i was cheating on my hubby and that the boobs were not for him, and a few other things i won't post here. I was gutted, hurt, aghast, appalled. I called and confronted her, but she merely laughed it off, enjoying the damage she has inflicted upon my marriage and family. She is cut out, and I shut everything out and down on both mine and my hubby's FB acct. She does not have the balls to contact him in her real name.
So the old saying goes: Keep your friends close, and your enemies closer ...if u know who they are, lol.
Bikini definitely yes!!! You should be proud of your body you look fabulous!!!
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Why thank you Jenni! I have 2 so far...i should take some pics and post them, i'm all tanned now...!
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Communcation with hubby is key! I have one of those shitstirers in my life...me and hubby laugh at the absurd crap she says. Your boobs look great--dont hold back--enjoy them!
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