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So it's canceled!!!

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So I finally got an answer today.. Not sure how I...

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So I finally got an answer today.. Not sure how I really feel about it but I guess this just isn't for me right now. I liked my ps but it seriously irritated the hell out of me that I had paid a late portion of this and either my ps or the coordinator would call me back when they said they would and just make me wait! I'd expect to be contacted about my concerns and not having to chase them down constantly. I didn't appreciate that. But he was nice enough I credit me back Everythig except the deposit because 1) they feel I'm making a rash decision since I've been flip flopping a lot and 2) he doesn't want to do sub glandular placement. The care credit will be taken care of by them thank god so all in all I lost $500 which is alot less than I was expecting so here comes the money! Maybe I can plan something fun to do over the summer now or just save for something bigger in the future. I still want to get this procedure done later on, just when I'm more confident in my decision and especially with a ps who is better at discussing my issues in depth and not just throw out the facts and have me stew over them. So thank you for all of your support with my indecisiveness and good luck to all of you! You may see me later on :) back to competing for me!

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March 27, 2013
good luck with everything and I think you made the right decision since your weren't 100%, same reason why I canceled mine. Only do it when you are ready and comfortable :)
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March 27, 2013
Hey there! Well I'm glad that you were able to make your decision and seem like you really are happy with the decision you made (good for you). In any case, good luck to you in your future endeavors and we will be right here if in case you decide to go over the "boobie fence" :)... So for now, enjoy the rest of the summer and the extra money lol ;)
March 27, 2013
I commented earlier and gave you another plastic surgeon to go see (Dr. Prichard). I forgot to mention that I was a very difficult case, post 2 kids my breasts were very asymmetrical. I think I went to almost every plastic surgeon North of Camelback before being referred to Prichard. He is the 1st surgeon who fully explained why fixing my breasts and making them even wasn't easy and exactly what had to be done. Everyone else, never really addressed the issue and said it 'wouldn't be a problem' getting them even, when in reality, it would have been. A 2nd opinion never hurts, it won't cost you anything and you can see what a extremely qualified reconstructive surgeon says about what YOU want. He will fully address every concern and question you have. I was confused for a while because I couldn't figure out why you (and a several others out there) are/were stressed about the procedure and freaking out but, then I remembered the fact that the whole process of finding a good surgeon completely stressed me out. I never felt 100% confident about breast augmentation surgery (since it is major surgery) until I met my doctor. He's the only office I walked out of without question in my head and was never nervous....and I had to have 2 separate surgeries (about 10 months apart). Whether it's Prichard or someone else, go see a few others until YOU know you are confident with what you're about to do.
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So I haven't looked on this site for a couple days...

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So I haven't looked on this site for a couple days cause I needed to clear my mind although I appreciate all the girls who have given me their stories which I truly appreciate! Sunday afternoon I decided to cancel my surgery but the office was closed so I had to wait until Monday (yesterday). I didn't call until after I got off work so that lead to me thinking ok, well ill be losing a lot of money first hand but I shouldn't get this if I feel obligated. And then I started thinking that I think I would be scared shitless regardless of what point I'm at in my life. And then I thought we'll maybe ill get it and get it OVER the muscle with a smaller implant which doesn't bother me. So I called and told my coordinator that I was considering canceling this entire thing. She said that there is a cancellation fee but she wouldn't know until today since she has to talk to whomever at the hospital and my ps. Hopefully it isn't that much and honestly I didn't think I'd get any of the money back anyway I just don't want to have to pay off the care credo if I don't actually have services rendered. Before I got off the phone with her I asked if my ps did the implant over the muscles, she said yes BUT it wouldn't feel as natural and look more round or whatever. Like I said I'd go with a smaller implant so the skin/fat I have can cover it better and such, also that there is a 30% higher chance I capsular contracture and bottoming out. I think these things are less likely if I have the smaller implant and my body heals relatively well to illness although I haven't had surgery before. I'm just mainly concerned about having my muscle cut up because if I ever had to have them taken out the muscle fibers do not reattach and at the very least if I get this ba done over the muscle I can still do my Olympic weight lifting without worrying if I can feel the implant contracted. I do want boobies. I just don't know if the risks are worth it anymore. Physically and financially! I'm going to the office right after work even though my coordinator said she would call cause I need to see this cancellation fee with my own eyes on paper just to make sure, my bf doesn't worry about things like this but said that for me maybe I should wait until I'm more comfortable. I don't think ill ever be comfortable with te thought of being put under anesthesia!! So after I go to the office ill talk to my bf about it and decide from there. I know my parents and sister are supportive even though I know they're leaning more towards "don't do it!" Attitude lol. Well see, I literally only have a few days to decide!

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March 26, 2013
Hi there! Whichever you end up choosing we will be here for you as support..this seems to be a really tough time for you. Did you yry to make a list of pros and cons? In any case I hope that you'll be able to make the decision not because of pressure,money etc but for yourself... good luck :)
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March 26, 2013
Thanks and thank you again for your previous comment! I put my deposit down 5 months ago and everyday I feel like I have been an uptight [RS bleep]! Lol!! Super stressed out and when I thought I decided to cancel I felt a weight had lifted off of me! But yesterday while I was driving home I started feeling upset again because I do want it, I don't want to waste money, and I just don't want anything to go wrong! Subglandular may be the way to go for me if I choose to do this. I don't want to regret this whatever decision I make. Thank you for your support!
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March 26, 2013
You will end up choosing what is best for you. I was feeling the same way than you, worry about possible out comes, the money...everything, right until the night before I wanted to cry and cancel the surgery. Then I started to feel sad about loosing my tiny boobs that had been with me for do long lol but I'm 13 days post op today and I feel super happy. I absolutely love my new beast, I love that made me feel more feminine and sexy. I went with submuscular because its easier that way to take a look at your breast tissue when you get a mammo. I got a breast biopsy last year and I freaked out but everything was fine and definitely decided to go submuscular in case they ever find something into breast and have to get another biopsy or something it will not be close to the implant. Take your time to decide, try not to worry too much. I over think everything in my life and I was super worry about the outcome and the pain and all that and 13 days after surgery I can say this had been a really great easy experience and I feel back to my normal life except that I can't work out yet. I guess I was soooo worry that everything turned out better and easier than expect it. Big hug to you and remember we are here for each other!!!
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March 26, 2013
It's definitely relieving to know that others such as yourself feel the same way or have felt this way anyway lol. My main concern is muscle function. I don't think I can live feeling them contract or whatever lifting. I don't want to give up the one thing that makes me really happy. I'd rather have a smaller implant over the muscle as a compromise I guess lol. To have just enough and then be able to lift and all the other crazy crap I like to do without losing strength. I can deal with not working out for awhile as long as the same strength will ultimately be there. Ill keep you updated and thank you so much for our positive attitude!! :D
March 26, 2013
I think everyone has the same hesitations. I'm scared to death...never had major surgery, my wisdom teeth are the only thing I went under anesthesia for. I'm sure I will be freaking out in the days leading up to surgery. I wonder if ill even get out of the car the day of. I too have thought of calling the whole thing off....but......I have (like everyone else) I have wanted bigger no s for a while. Now that swim suit season is coming I see all these swimsuits in a different light. I have NEVER been excited to get a swim suit. I have not comfortably worn a swimsuit since I was 11 (which is when puberty started)...but I am getting excited...even with my pasty white skin. It is a very personal decision and if you cancel that is your choice. But make the list of pros and cons. I wanted you to know that you are not the only one who gets cold feet and wants to back out. Everyone is scared some to a more severe degree...if Doing Excersise properly is your only reason for backing out...then rethink of why you DO want this...go with what you want also if you want over the muscle then do it. Just cause your PS pushes under doesn't mean you have to do it. Your paying the money you get what you want.
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March 26, 2013
Thank you for your input, and you're right it is my decision! I know I'm not the only one with cold feet but of course it would feel like the end of the world lol. I'm hoping that I CAN do this!
March 26, 2013
Hi! You actually chose a really good surgeon but, there is actually another alternative out there for placement called sub-fascial. As someone who works out a lot, under the muscle is hard because eventually your implants get pushed under your armpits, over the muscle is hard because the likelihood of them moving is high too. Sub-fascial puts them over the muscle but under the tissue that protects the muscle. Dr. G supposedly does this but, it takes a really talented and confident surgeon to do it and I don't think he's done very many (plus it's usually more expensive because it's very time consuming). If you want the natural look, going over the muscle, consider sub-fascial. If you want/need a 2nd opinion, my surgeon Dr. Pablo Prichard (head of plastics and reconstructive surgery at John C. Lincoln North Mountain) is an excellent Dr. to go see (plus he has his own private practice). He is one of only about 4 Dr.'s in the valley that do sub-fascial and his specialty is the 'natural look'. Also, if Dr. G's office is giving you a hard time about cancelling, that's kind of BS -- cancellations happen all the time and the surgery centers don't charge a cancellation fee, he shouldn't either. Also, care credit doesn't get to decide who they pay for the surgery, you do, so if you change Dr.'s, that shouldn't be an issue. Hope this helps you.
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March 26, 2013
I feel comfortable with my ps I just wish he would be more available seeing as though my ba date is literally around the corner! He does do over the muscle placement I'm jut going to have to do an emergency size change again and pay the $100 fee for changing it so late but it is what it is. I haven't been able to talk to them today that does [RS bleep] me off some so I guess I'll find out tomorrow >:(
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March 26, 2013
Hi, I had mine done 11/2 months ago and I was fine after 1 to 2 weeks. My doctor said that he places them over the muscle and even if something goes wrong and he has to redo it he would still place them over the muscle. He said that the muscle dies if you cut it because it is like paper thin. The recovery is much faster , I took no medication when at home which was a day after surgery. I was in pain , yes, but I could take it. It suddenly dissappeared after 3 or 4 days. What mostly bothered me was the bandage around the chest which was really tight. The breasts feel heavy for maybe 2 weeks or so, but you wear the surgical bra and keeps them from moving. I went to my dancing class in 2 weeks and I was fine. I had Mentor textured cohesive 2(number shows the density, very important) , 175cc. He told me that high profile is the right one for me because I am norrow chested. He decided on the size during surgery using a sizer. I told him I want something small and natural. I am 5.3" and hardly weigh 105p. When I went back for a follow up and asked him again on what implants he used he read my paper and said that I had moderate plus profile. I guess they are the same, I am not sure. Mine look perky and he said that I will see the final result in a year. The skin takes time to stretch. The only thing with me is that along with the implants he removed a big lump from my left breast that was there for about 5 years and had been diagnosed as nothing to worry about at first. Well, it was cancer and I am lucky I decided to have the implants in and had it removed because otherwise I might have waited longer to take it out. I am lucky they did not cut off my breast, so even though it is so different than the right one , higher and swollen on top, I do not worry about that. He told me it will be like the other one in time. I have read that the placement over the muscle gives the more natural look because under the gland is where the natural breast tissue is. And you do not worry about muscle movement, dying or anything like that. He said the rippling and all the other stuff with this placement happened some years ago, not now. I do not know why most doctors go with under the muscle placement, I think it is easier. If you go to google scholar and read about it you will see what doctors say about it. This is the official site for medical stuff. All the other stuff on google is advertisement and my doctor said not to look at photos there because any doctor would show the best photos if real. This site contains comments from real people. Good luck. I was freaking out about anestesia because I had a bad experience when I had my children but everything went well, you will be glad you did it. Wait for your comments. I will post photos soon.
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March 26, 2013
Thanks for the info!! When I was talking to the coordinator she said that the implants don't feel as natural or look as natural as implants under the muscle, but I don't want a late implant to begin with! I don't have much tissue which is ok cause I'd rather end up smaller too. If I go through with this I'm definitely changing the opinion I do not want them touching my muscles whatsoever! Lol and I hope you post soon I'd love to read your story :)
March 26, 2013
In the for "what it's worth" department: Generally speaking the pectoralis is actually a relatively thick muscle, and there is enough collateral blood supply to the muscle that it won't die when cut. Scar tissue is typically very strong, and while less flexible of a tissue, the scar itself is generally stronger than the surrounding tissue once it's healed.
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March 26, 2013
I have read all of your posts and all of the comments. I am 100% having all the same thoughts and emotions. I'm worrying about every single detail or what "could" happen. I've had two total panic attacks and had they happened during business hours, I would have cancelled. I'm glad I haven't cancelled. Surgery is in 16 days and I just can't wait to get beyond all this anxiety and stress and get to the other aide and enjoy have lovely feminine breasts. It's stressful to say the least. I have to keep thinking positive and think of all the 1000's of these they do and really have few complications. I think you'll find lots of support here for what you are going through and with your decision, whatever that may be. I'm going to press ahead and keep my eye on the prize. Can't wait to wear a bikini or look hot in a tank top this summer.
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So all the ladies on here who claim they lift...

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So all the ladies on here who claim they lift weights and workout alot do you have worries of a possible explant in the future and loss of muscle function? Or the fellow crossfitters on here that can't do a box jump, ring dip, or snatch the same after surgery? My ps said you lose 5% strength if its even noticeable but man, what if I can't do the same stuff in the gym I can now? Ever? My ba is this Friday and I'm really second guessing this. I talked to te gym owner's wife whose had hers done back in 09 and she said he just NOW feels like her implants are finally feeling like her own, she's early 30's and also has rheumatoid arthritis and I know everybody experiences this differently. Going under the muscle and just hearing the word "dissection" is scaring the hell out I me. I've read the Q&A forum on here about this and no doctors opinion is consistent. I just don't know anymore and it's frustrating to think of having 2k already spent on this procedure.

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March 24, 2013
I went through I very similar issue. I went into my consultation thinking i wanted 375 mod + I guess I got that number from before and after pictures online. I ended up going with 465 ultra high profile believe it or not. And trust me I lost sleep over this recommendation! I thought I would have torpedoes coming out from my chest. all I wanted was a fuller look and modest looking. What I had to realise is you cannot obsess about cup size or cc. I much like you got caught up in the difference between 25 and 50 ccs. Until I was told I was stressing over a couple tablespoons. It's normal to want peace of mind in your decision and i was leaning more towards smaller than bigger.take a look at my pics so far I don't think they are to big and i was freaking out about it. You are even more narrow than I am and I was told HP would be better for me because i was narrow at 12.5 cm. Since you are putting so much emphasis on lifting weights have they suggested whether you would be a good candidate for over the muscle? Friends who compete in shows have overs because it causes less problems for them with their muscles. It's not for everyone I just wondered if they mentioned it. this is such an exciting time for you! But its very stressful and I'm sure all you can think about. Your bf will love the results no matter what because you will be so confident so don't let him sway you. Trust your gut with this one you have to be able to sleep at night with your decision. But just remember the two options are so close and you do lose ccs going under the muscle. I hope this helps I remember wishing someone would just break it all down to me when I was going crazy! Good luck!
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March 24, 2013
Thanks! Yeah I've heard every 150 cc's is a cup up or whatever but I'm just going off of desired pictures with girls who resemble me. But I'm going with mod plus because it just feels more comfortable for me. Your breasts look really good on your body and will look even more amazing after they're done dropping!
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March 24, 2013
Hi! I just got my surgery March 13 and I'm super happy! I feel them like my own since day 1 or to be totally honed since day 2! I have no pain at all, just felt tight the first week because as you can see in my profile I have less than you to start. I got 300ccs and I'm super happy I didn't go bigger, not sure is true but I hear the bigger you go the hardest the recovery. I have no problems at all and luckily my stitches will come out tomorrow. I was in a war of emotions the first few days, one moment I loved them and another one I hated them and thought this was the worse decision of my life. I think is normal to feel that way, in fact my PS warned me about it. Today I'm 11 days from my surgery and I feel totally back to normal. I still can't work out or lift heavy things until the Dr clear me to do that but other than that I'm super happy with the decision I took and my only regret right now is that I didn't go it sooner!!! Good luck to you and let me know if I can be of any help. Big hug!!!
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March 24, 2013
Thank you so much! Your support really helps. I know I'm young and healthy and I'm hoping that this will affect my surgery positively and that having the implants will not deteriorate my health! Having chosen a smaller implant I'm also hoping that it will look nice on me! I'm scared I will look fat with boobs! Lol the whole process is freaking me out which is to be expected I know but I'm not looking forward to being "out of commission" from my daily routine for awhile :/
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March 24, 2013
The fact that you are in great shape will most definitely help in your recovery! And don't worry about looking fat with boobs. I did worry about that too but believe me, you won't look fat.
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March 25, 2013
You will look great! I'm 40, never been sick in my life other than a mild cold (crossing my fingers to stay this way) my actual weight is 113, can you believe I weight 3 lb less than before surgery lol I new to put back at least 4 lbs because I'm too thin for my hight. I was a bit worry about the while surgery process and mostly about the recovery but the fact that I'm healthy and in great shape because I've been exercising my whole life made a huge different in my recovery, I had no pain at all, felt almost normal by day 4 and now I'm 12 days after surgery and feel fantastic, my energy is completely back and if it wasn't because my doctor doesn't let me work out yet I would be rest to start. I was worry too about the boobs making me look far but it actually they don't, they balance my body, I look way more feminine and sexy and my only regret is not doing this sooner lol Good luck to you! Big hug!!!
March 24, 2013
Hi there! I just read your most recent update and wanted to reply. I almost PM'd you as I was afraid that I might get too wordy for just a comment on your page, but then thought there might be plenty of others in your shoes, too... I did a lot of research before deciding to have my BA - and even once I made my decision, I hemmed and hawed about it pretty much right up until the big day. The risks for explanation (and multiple other complications) requiring additional surgery are very real risks. Working in healthcare (and thus often only really seeing pts who've had something go wrong - injury, illness, etc) really had me questioning whether it was worth the risk. Also, re: the RA (and other auto-immune disease) "link" (I'm assuming here that your friend had silicone?), after 2 PS' were so adamant that the newer generation of silicone hasn't been shown to have any link to these issues and this is why silicone had been returned to FDA approval, I wrestled with my decision for a good long while - two separate PS' were REALLY pushing for it, could it really be such a problem? Ultimately I did additional research and decided that I just couldn't get 100% comfortable with silicone implants so I went with saline. Yes, saline has it's own risks (ie deflation in event of rupture) but no specific long-term potential links to auto-immune diseases (even the manufacturer's studies said there didn't appear to be a link BUT the sample size necessary to truly rule it out would be huge; plus, these studies are being completed - at the FDA's instruction - BY the manufacturers!!). As you've undoubtedly seen on here, a lot of women DO opt for silicone and LOVE them. Ultimately what kept my eye on the prize, so to speak, was that I knew I did NOT want my pre-op appearance any more. That was enough of a factor that, for me, it really outweighed my concerns about the potential risks. It also helped that I've got several friends who have had saline implants and love them, so I was able to ask them lots of questions and discuss the risk/benefit of BA with someone who'd BEEN there, not just the PS and his staff. The fact that each of them are 5-10yrs post with no complications was also helpful - though I couldn't help but think that statistically (and with my luck!!), I'd surely be the one to have a problem!! I'm sorry that I can't speak to the impact on your workouts. I pretty much only run (despite knowing that I SHOULD be adding in weight training...), and my PS did ok me to return to running at the 2wk mark. I gave it a little more time beyond then before I tried it - and that first time was no fun at all! I SLOWLY jogged one-tenth of a mile clutching my boobs in my hands the whole time (despite wearing TWO sports bras!). I'm sure it looked hilarious to my husband! About a week later, I decided I'd try it again - maybe see about going a quarter mile LOL. That run felt sooo good I ended up doing 3miles and only stopped then because I figured after not having run for about 5wks (I kinda slacked a little before surgery, too) I was barely gonna be able to walk the next day! I've been back up to 5mi+ now and just did a very-chilly 5k yesterday morning (for which the girls made it through like champs!). Again, speaking just for myself (though I'd say many of the ladies on here would agree), this was 110% WORTH IT and I'm so incredibly glad that I did it! I absolutely LOVE my boobs, and for the most part I'd say they feel like a part of me. i think they look pretty natural, and at 300ccs they are not in my way for any of my activity. That said, just because it was definitely the right decision for ME doesn't necessarily make it the right decision for everyone. I also won't say that it's been a pain-free journey, but in the grand scheme of things it's been relatively (and surprisingly) an easy process. I'd suggest looking hard at your initial reasoning for wanting BA. I'm guessing that you were aware of these risks when you made your appointment, and were willing to accept them? And that you had a specific reason(s) for even starting this journey? Look at those again. It's very normal to get cold feet, especially as the big day draws closer, but you should be fairly comfortable with your decision. If you *truly* can't get to that point, maybe postponing or canceling is the right thing for you. Conversely, if you *can* find that place again and decide to go through with it, I would think you'll probably be happy with your results. Hope that helps a little.... Good luck with whatever decision you make!!!
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March 24, 2013
You are seriously amazing and very supportive I truly appreciate you! I knew I wanted this forever and knew some complications but it was like a compulsive act of putting down a deposit for a date! Like other ladies here I think you'll never truly be ready for such a major surgery so you kind of have to dive in. It's just that the more I read about all the bad things that COULD happen makes me second guess cause other than that I was getting amped up for it! And my friend who has RA didn't get it after she had her surgery she was already having symptoms prior. But I have heard that silicone could have a chance or affecting your body like that, I don't think I'm too worried because I have a strong immune system. My body heals well to illness so far lol. I can only imagine how scared you were when you first went running! I run too and it's scary to think that you feel like they'll fall out with all that impact from the ground! And so much impact from all the other crap I do at the gym is what I'm hoping will not be a big deal after healing regardless if its after 2-6 weeks or months or whatever. This has really helped me and I needed the encourage. Thank you :)
March 25, 2013
Thank you hm331 for your post!!!! I am thinking about BA, but am so scared of the risks involved!! Everyone pushes silicone and it's nice to hear from someone who decided to use saline!! You put my mind at ease on alot of questions i had! Good luck on your remaining journey and I hope everything continues to go well!!
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March 24, 2013
I'm on that same emotional roller coaster with ya!!! I'm also half Korean!!! I go on Wednesday and the fear is getting stronger each day. I've gone through the guilt, wondering what I got myself into, praying everything goes smooth, I also pray that I feel little to NO pain :) Good luck to all of us! ❤
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March 24, 2013
Yay Asians! Lol good luck with your ba! I'm hoping ill have a smooth recovery being its my first surgery ever! I'm not sure how ill react to all this friggin medication and such!
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March 25, 2013
Yay!!! Thanks, I'm excited but more scared. This is my first surgery too. I've had 5 babies (2 with NO drugs, they came too fast), so you would think this should be nothing. But I don't like pain and my mind is probably making this worse than it hopefully will be ;). Ahhhhhhhhh! Lol
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March 25, 2013
you will! From reading other stories here, those who are healthy and physically fit prior to the BA usually recover well :)
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March 25, 2013
Heya!! It's normal to feel this way since your surgery is coming in the next few days. Every surgery has its own risk just like life itself... Here is why I went through with it despite all the medical knowledge I know, experiences with post-op surgeries, complications etc. and my bf not being supportive of it (and currently hating me)... For the longest I have always been small breasted (being Asian and all) and the only thing that gave me a little oompf was pregnancy and weight gain. I have spent probably thousands of dollars already buying push-upbras, silicone inserts, chicken cutlets j/k to get the look that I want in certain clothing and bikinis! I've always feel an "envy" of women who has them and have battled with this for a long time but because I can do something about it now I went and did it. Despite the risks and consequences that I have weighed I am happier than ever right now (week1 and 1 day PO) giving me more confidence and feeling more feminine in my entire life... Yes, muscle dissection and because the muscle is going to be lifted you will loose strength in the area as well as tissue depletion. Ask yourself, how important is doing push-ups, ring dip, snatches to you? You workout to look good right? (besides being healthy) On the other hand, you go for this to look even BETTER :). Unfortunately one has to give but it does not necessarily mean that in the long run you will not be able to do those things. You still can but probably not like before (I'm thinking).... So, it's either you have the BA and can still do some stuff that you love or you can just not go through with it and do 100% on your workouts and no matter how much workout you do it will never give you the appearance of what a BA and will always think about what could have been... In the end, it is still your choice and what you want -- more... Make a list of pro and con and see which one has more on your list. I hope this helps! Goodluck :)
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March 26, 2013
Btw, I haven't made a physical list of pros and cons its just all the cons stick out to me way more!! Lol my bf is like, don't worry about it unless it happens. He doesn't worry like I do I guess but I don't want to be caught off guard if something wrong happens you know?
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March 26, 2013
In my experience, the cons have sticked out to me way before earlier in my pre-contemplation mode of getting a BA (and that is why the love-hate relationship of getting it or not for 6 years)... Yes, I have been thinking about this for 6 years and this time it just felt right... Like, there were no more hesitations, once I decided and look at my finances (at least my tax return) it was on. And that is why probably my bf was shocked and felt left out of place because he thought that I rushed into it... little did he know (or even noticed) that I had been "dwelling" on this for a long, long, long time... Like I mentioned earlier, there will always be risks (in anything) and if you feel that it is not the right time then, do not go for it... I felt that now was the right time and moment and had never felt so sure about it that is why there were no more hesitations... some minor setbacks when I do go to the internet so I stopped "googling" the day off surgery and just went for it :) your bf is right, why worry for something that has not happened yet? Although it is good to be prepared but there will always be the 50% chance of everything turning out just fine :)
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March 26, 2013
This made me smile :) I know that's why I couldn't get on this site for a couple days I even turned off all of the notifications I couldn't look at any more boobs! You're right and my bf is right too. I can just imagine 10 years down the road and ill decide to get the ba done and back out again last minute! I get freaked out easily and the whole process doesn't seem real like nothing is going to happen. Even though I got my blood work done, picked up my meds after all the times I tried on the sizers even paying 2 grand STILL does not make this real to me! But ill be making my final decision this afternoon, I must! So ill keep you guys updated. Thank you for your positive thoughts.