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45 This Summer. Getting a Neck, Face and Temple Lift with Fat Transfer!! - San Francisco, CA

Very excited and nervous to be getting my face...

Very excited and nervous to be getting my face done this summer. I hate my neck, which has aged a lot in the last couple years and how the corners of my mouth are going down, early jowling blech! One side of my face looks older than the other side, too. No review yet, as I'm going in at the end of June. Nervous of the outcome, and how I will feel after! I'm an theater actress, I sing and do pinup modeling for fun! Divorced and single.. hopefully won't be single forever!

Eek! One month to go, time to try and post pics!

So, in a month I am getting my "early maintenance" facelift (just a regular facelift, not short scar) necklift, browlift and partial face, and lip fat transfer. bleh. I am told I can't take my new headshot photos for 3-4 months after. So no auditioning either, until November! Such a long time! I'm scared of my face changing, but I am also hopeful in my chosen dr.'s skills.. :) I have a very youthful face, and it's looks kinda weird to me as I age. I am 45 years old next month, and I like the way I look. I just want to maintain the way I look. I don't like my neck at all, though! I took some pics of me tonight with dirty hair and no makeup, just my eyelash extensions. I will also post one with regular makeup and one from a photo shoot. (perfect lighting and heavy makeup) I am 5'4" and weigh 118lbs right now.. I play parts that are aged 29-40 on stage.


I wrote captions under my pics, not sure why they are there right now. hmm. I'll check again. Timing of these pics.. the first one in the black t-shirt is from early fall (when I had my first consultation!) the next two are tonight and the last one is 4 months ago.

Oh, also!

I am going to be on my own after surgery, and will have to hire someone to help. I have 5 kids, (youngest is almost 17) but they are all super busy and their Dad and I have been divorced 10 years. I am going to stay at the hotel next to the building where the surgery will take place for a week, so I won't have to do the hour or more drive back and forth. I was told I'd have drains in place for five days, and that the stitches will come out at seven days. Also, they told me about this cooling mask called Aquecool that is really expensive to rent. I wonder if it would be worth it? Arnica, after surgery if I wanted to.. and NO citrus for two weeks after. Along with all the regular stuff (no aspirin etc) So nervous!

It's July!

I'm finally in July, and getting excited and nervous. Actually, looking forward to having the whole thing over with!! I changed my title to temple lift, which I saw is also called a lateral brow lift. So, now I won't be staying at a hotel, because they DOUBLED the nightly cost because of a ton of conferences going on in the city - no thanks! So, I hated to do this but I asked my sister if I could stay in their extra room behind their garage. but she lives just 15 mins from the surgery center. I just didn't want to ask for outside help, but she was happy to let me stay there. :) Will still hire a caregiver, because my sister works full time and will be out of town soon after my surgery anyway.
Hope everyone is doing well!

Holy shmuck!

Just staying up late and looking at all the reviews.. So many different stories and outcomes, I am so nervous!! I mean I am worried I really won't be able to audition for anything for like 6 months after, that's just a lot of time. I guess I was thinking 3 months before, but in some cases it looks like things don't noticeably settle down for a lot, lot longer. My mom had her first facelift in her late 40's, she didn't even tell us she got one and she healed quickly. We would just be like, mom you like really nice today! haha! In her 60's she got her 2nd one and it really did take her 6 months to look better, but she was so patient with it and never complained. I figured it was because of her age, but now it seems sometimes that happens to younger women, too. Well.. we shall see. D:

Just a week and a half to go. Pictures, no makeup and the worst lighting to make me feel awful! ;)

So I thought I would post some awful pics. With views of my ears so I can compare them with stitches and eventual healing. The lighting couldn't be worse, I don't think, and every wrinkle and sagginess shows. It's good to have this, because I see myself in good lighting and with makeup on and I question why I am going to put myself through all this, and then I see these pictures and I remember why..

That time of the month.. tmi?

Ok, so my period is due the day before surgery. Nooo! Just one more thing to worry about.. :/

Tomorrow, yikes!

Everything seems surreal! I am soo nervous, like really scared! I think I'm more nervous with this than my mommy makeover, because that was so miserable!!! Hmm, doubt I'll get much sleep worrying about my alarm tomorrow morning. (I set like 5 on my phone!) Up early to take my prilosec with a tiny sip of water, shower and wash with antibacterial soap, brush, floss and use mouthwash. Take my anti-nausea pill (again, a tiny sip!) and then I have a car service that will take me there.. I don't want to do this!! I wish I could leave my body for a while, and come back when all is done, lol!!! I appreciate everyone's well wishes so very much

Day one past surgery!

Hello everyone, thank you soo mcyh for the well wishes!! Yesterday turned out great! Well, I did not sleep more than 10 minutes the night before, soo nervous! I don't have a lot of energy to type ritght now, and my right eye is swollen almost shut.. here is a picture of me just hours after surgery.. swelling is worse today!! First night the pain was in my neck and in swllowing, my whole boy jumped to just swallow! But I don't mind pain as much as nauea, I had some nausea on waking and they gave me 3 diff med and the third one did the trick!!

I felt all your thoughts and prayeres and did not feel as alone as I would have, I will post more!!

Much love and best wishes to all!

Thank you!

Hi everyone! I want to thank you all soo much for your encouraging words and thoughts! It's Friday and my surgery was Wednesday. I can't see very well because my eyes are swollen. For me this has been pretty darn painful! I know a lot of people have no pain and that's great, but I have pain in my head, neck and ears. Also when I swallow, it hurts my tubes in my neck, blech! However, I see myself in the mirror and can see that everything looks even. and that my lips are actually perfectly shaped, though I know they will go down, they just look perfectly puckered right now, lol! I have had the cold mask thing and that is nice at night, when I try to sleep. Also, Dr. Marten has his patients lie flast on theri backs after surger instead of sleeping uprtight so the swelling goes more the the back of the head where it can't be seen as opposed to the neck. I don't have an incredible amount of bruising, mostly just my right eye looks like I got a shiner! My little nephew told me I looked "funnu" Otherwise, having some sips of coffee this morning was heavenly!! :) Looking forward to smiling again! and I also hope today is peak swelling and things will get better from here! My experience at the surgical suite was so great though, just recovery is tough because I am so tired and in pain, and I just want to sleep all the time! I am on extra strenght tylenol. Sorry for typos!! I will post another pic when I get a chance, of my luscious lips, haha! (just ignore the swelling and bruises, bleh!)


I've always had such thin lips.. just seeing this is exciting for now!

Day 3 Post!

Today I felt a lot better, still pain when I woke up, but the tylenol helped. Last night was kinda weird, I woke up to take my meds and they were sticky and gross and I had a hard time swallowing them, then I got nauseaus and thought I may vomit, which made me panic (that would hurt so much!!) but I took the anti-nausea pill and in 20 mins I felt better, phew!! However, back to today! I took a shower with the help of my wonderful caregiver, washed my hair and face and have nice fresh clean clothes on - ahhhh.. felt great! I still have my drains in, so I can't chew on anything yet. Eating low sodium tomato soup, Ensures, applesauce, lots of water and nice cold ginger ale. My sister said I seem to have turned a corner today and am much more talkative and energetic than the past two days. I, of course, still don't look like "me" yet, still lots of swelling, as expected. I will post some pics of me from today. My face is really shiny because I put on some moisturizer. My tubes don't come out till Monday, and I know that I will feel even better after that! (though am nervous about how much it will hurt to get them out!)

Also, it was nice knowing all of your thoughts were with me as I went and am going through this. Hopefully my story will also be helpful to anyone considering the same thing!

Tired tired..

Feeling soo tired today, not sure why today more than yesterday. I want to take another shower, but am feeling so tired - bleh, I hate feeling so tired and sleepy. I have slowed down the meds, too because I'm sure they make me feel more tired as well. Tomorrow I get the drains removed, finally. I'm scared it's going to hurt a lot! I tried taking a close up of the stitches in front of my ear and along hair line, not the best lighting in here though!

No more drains!

I am soo happy to get those darn drains out, I feel like skipping for joy! (but I won't, haha!) I got a lot of the stitches removed and that took a while, some mild discomfort with that. The drains burned as she pulled them out, and for a bit after, but I didn't care at all. Now it doesn't hurt to swallow and I don't have tubes sticking out of the back of my head, phew! :) They told me to not chew for another week or so still, bleh, my tummy is wanting something solid! I go back on Wednesday to get the rest of the stitches out. Feeling good today, I will catch up on some tv shows I missed last week. SYTYCD included :D

Day 6!

So yesterday I got those darn drains removed, was really excited, but ended up being in pain all day from getting them removed - so that was kind of a bummer. However, today I feel 1000 times better!! Took a long shower, without letting the water hit me directly in my face. Still feel nervous washing my hair because of the incisions etc, but they are healing very well so far! :) Tomorrow it will be on full week since surgery, and I go back to my house after staying at my sister's all week, looking forward to that! My face will look pulled and masky for a while, bleh, but it looks better today just from yesterday. Less bruising and swelling but still look like something from Avatar at best.. or a Klingon at worst! For sure can not go out without sunglasses and hoodie yet, but I knew all this before. Just weird when it happens and the face in the mirror is not what you're used to seeing! :p

One week!

Ok, this is frustrating because I wrote a long update and then my google chrome crashed! So I'll try again! Got the rest of my stitches out today, it took an hour and I felt kinda crummy the whole time. My son drove me home, an hour long drive and it was good to be back but I felt a little blue.. My face is just so big, it looks weird to me, my daughter's car broke down and I have to wait another day till I see her, I still can't open my mouth enough (at all) to brush teeth well or eat any solids for (and I love FOOD!) and I just feel run down and melancholy today. Oh, also there is an event in Southern Cal this weekend that just got announced this week and I can't just pop in my car or buy plane tickets to go down.. (it's a once in a lifetime event!) but anyway, so just missing my old self, my old face and I guess I feel kinda trapped.. However, I will go for a short walk tonight at twilight as suggested by a dear new friend I met here on Realself :) So a week out, and I am pretty much where I expected I'd be. It's so hard to have an appetite and not be able to eat! Oh, I had heard that it could be weeks before being able to eat solids so I happily gained a couple pounds before surgery, I'm glad I did, as I've already lost 5 pounds.. Looking forward to working out, dancing and running again.. I already feel my muscles getting soft. I put on a little under eye concealer, but it's the swelling that looks the weirdest to me, I will post a few pics today and then wait again for a week to post some more. Hope everyone is doing great!!

Day 8 :)

I have always had a pretty tense neck, like I would get bad kinks. So my biggest issue now, is I have a SUPER sore neck! My muscles behind are angry at me for not moving around and boy, it sure hurts. Makes sleeping difficult. Otherwise, I actually noticed the swelling in my face has gone down a little today, so that's great! My daughter had her car issue fixed and came over and spent the day with me, so it made my day much better! She said my face didn't look as bad as she expected this soon after surgery, and that I was getting around pretty well. Hope everyone is doing great!!

Day 10

Hi!! So today I saw the swelling in my face go down a tiny bit, which is encouraging! Also, it's the first day I could actually drink without using a straw, lol! I really can not imagine driving though, since I can not turn my head AT ALL. So the instructions saying I could drive at 9 or 10 days, do not apply to me!! Hope everyone is having a wonderful weekend!!

Ok, I had to get out and drive!! Day 12

Today I told my older daughter to drive me around on errands while I wore sunglasses to hide my swelling. Her driving was so stop and go, that it was hurting my neck! So I finally decided to just drive, and it was fine! The only problem was backing up, where I used my daughter to turn all the way around for me. I do have some mobility in my neck now, though still trying to keep as still as I can. So, driving felt good :) I also wanted to get out of the house and do something fun, so I took the kids to a movie for my son's 22nd bday. I went in my sunglasses, brought my cup of apple sauce because I can't eat anything, and then the movie was in 3D anyway, haha! However, I FELL ASLEEP in the middle of the move!! (Gaurdians of the Galaxy) No one knew, but just shows how tired I was, lol! Now they are all out enjoying a dinner at Benihana and I'm home.. sigh, I'm glad they are having a good time though! It felt great to get out of the house! My face still does not look like me, pulled, swollen. Not much bruising at all though. My eyes still look small.. Now the swelling has gone down just under my cheekbones and my head has really taken on an alien look to it.. HOWEVER I do see the swelling going down, in general and my face is getting softer and more feminine looking, just a process and I need to be patient. Hope everyone is doing great!

2 Weeks Today.. Holy morphing face, Batman!

Still have a big face, swelling on side is worse and that eye appears smaller, strange that that is not the eye that was swollen shut 2 weeks ago! I still definitely look like I had work done, as my face is unnaturally wide, big and just looks weird. I certainly don't look like "me" yet, but I knew that was going to be the case, so just need to be patient! Still get tired, but am walking every night. Still can't chew and that's frustrating. Total weight loss was 8 pounds.. My ears are still totally numb and it feels weird, but doesn't bother me too much. Hope everyone is doing great!!! xxx

Better and better!

Feeling so much better! I almost forgot I had a facelift, and then I try to turn my head uh woops!! I actually can chew on very soft things as of last night. I had refried beans and rice, and today I managed to eat a delicious scone with my coffee. (eating makes me feel like all is well with the world, lol!) I spoke to the nurse yesterday, and asked about housework etc. She said to wait one more week for anything like lifting laundry baskets and vacuum cleaner etc. Still be careful to not bend and stoop.. She said I can try chewing soft things, but nothing hard like raw carrots!! Haha! There's no way I could even think of that yet! Dr. Marten's office set up a complimentary lymphatic massage for my face and will be going to that tomorrow! Take care everyone!

Day 18 and getting there! Actually went to a social event!!

Hello!! So I decided to go to a social event with my family today! I wasn't going to go, but after my lymphatic massage and the passage of a few days my swelling has gone down enough that I can see myself in the mirror again. (without loudly exclaiming how horrid I look!!) I told my brother (who is a doctor) and sister-in-law that I had fillers and that I was still swollen. He told me that I looked good, and that if he didn't know me, he would not have known I had anything done! I did feel pretty insecure, but I didn't want to not go to this event. I had one lady ask me what I did for exercise and she only told me I looked wonderful and that she wanted to do whatever it was that I did to stay in shape - very sweet. I ended up speaking to her quite a lot as the day went on, and then I confided in her what I had done to my face. She was SUPER supportive and told me that she admired me for doing this for myself, aww so awesome of her! So I am glad I went! I will post a few pictures I took tonight after I came home for the city that I took on my laptop, the quality isn't great, but I can't find my phone!! (hope I didn't leave it at my sister's house!)

Not a great smile, yet!

Just got this pic that someone took of me today, and I see that when I smile, I don't look like me yet - my eyes sort of disappear and my face looks too chubby to fit my body.. I need to remember to be patient, I looked pretty beat up just 2 weeks ago! :)

3 Weeks Today!!

Wow, I can't believe it's been 3 weeks.. well actually it's been a long 3 weeks! I don't see a huge change from last week, but things are improving.. The difference in my eyes when I smile is getting better, I still don't like the way my face looks when I smile - well, I can't smile all the way yet and it pushes my swollen cheeks and gives me a chubby look, bleh! I have a lot of swelling on, between and under my eyebrows - that gives my face a sort of "flat" look. Also, there is pulling just under my cheek bones, but all is improving slowly. Except, I did something super clumsy! I picked up my alarm clock in bed and dropped it right between my eyes at the top of my nose, right where the swelling is really bad!! What????? I've NEVER done that before, and it hurt so bad!! So, the swelling got a little worse, and it hurts so much, I can't wear my sunglasses - derrrrp.. :/ Anyway.. besides me trying to undo all the wonderful work Dr. Marten did, everything seems to be healing ok! I still have scabs around my ears, because - well, they creep me out and I don't want to scrub at them, ew! I do wash gently with a gentle cleanser around my ears, but I'm not going to scrub at them, that just gives me the creeps and they will come off in due time. :) My eyes still don't look quite the same yet, but I know they will again when all the swelling goes down. Oh and did I tell you I'm in love again? Oh yes, with my neck!! I used to hate my neck and now, I love it!!! ;D Best wishes to everyone and thank you for coming along on this journey with me!

Napa quake.. :/

Hey everyone, so we had a pretty bad earthquake that woke me up at 3:20 am. I was actually thrown against my wall when I got out of bed, boy did my face and neck hurt, not from the wall, but from getting out of bed so fast! but I'm ok!!! The nurse from Dr. Marten's office was kind enough to check up on me after the quake, which I thought was very sweet. Face and neck feeling much better, now just getting everyone to help clean up! My chimney fell, my fence broke, and lots of glass everywhere - but we are ok! Best wishes to everyone, and be safe! (I will try and post 4 week pics on Wed!!)
Dr. Marten

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Very grateful that you are safe after the Napa quake! Thinking of you... Thank you so much for your documentation of your experience with Dr. Marten. You are a really brave (and beautiful) woman. I was wondering if you had an endoscopic temporal brow lift and how your incisions are healing.
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Thank you for you thoughts! :) Yes, I did have an endoscopic temporal brow lift, those incisions were a piece of cake, and have healed so well. I don't see the incisions from that at all! Thank you for your kind words!
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I have been in a few bad ones in Southern CA. I wish you well with your recovery from your surgery and also the earthquake.
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Thank you so much!!
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You and yours are in my thoughts and prayers...!!! Sending best wishes to all !!!
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Your thoughts and prayers are soo appreciated!! Thank you so much! xoxox
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That must've been terrifying for you, how severe is that to throw you against the wall. Glad you and your daughter are safe. What a caring nurse to check up on you. Hugs
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Thank you so much for the hugs! Best wishes to you..
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Hello, You had mentioned that you did a mommy makeover. I was curious what exactly was involved, who your doctor was, and a little about you recovery. You look amazing. I am forty and my PS piggybank fund started a couple of years ago for the same surgery with Dr Marten. His work is amazing - you look fantastic ! Thx for your candid posts and sharing your experience, it really helps a great deal of other ppl like me.
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Hi there! My mommy makeover was a tummy tuck, breast augmentation and some lipo on my back. The recovery was loong!! but I am so happy I did it! I used Dr. Commons in Palo Alto, and he did a wonderful job - you have to look really close to see any scars, and it all looks very natural :) Best of luck with Dr. Marten, he and his staff are amazing!
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Hi There, WOW, You look Great, so happy to see How wonderful You are coming along!!!!!
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Thank you!! :D
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Hello gorgeous hoping everything is well, from what i see your doing great! xoxox
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Hey sweetie! Things are moving along, still a lot of swelling on the upper part of my face - hope you're doing great, too!! xoxox
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Stunning !!!!!!!!! Love it !!!!!!!!!!!! xoxoxoxo
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Just gorgeous! You look like a Greek statue. Very nice work!
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Why thank you so much, dear!!! xoxoxox
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Beautiful! So happy for you, and impressed with Dr. Marten's work (who was on my original list to consider, fwiw). I was told to clean my incisions with hydrogen peroxide on a q-tip a couple of times/day, which really helped the scabs dissolve and disappear. Question for you - or for anyone who has posted a review with pictures - when putting together the review, uploading pics, etc., is there the ability to rearrange things before posting? And once posted can a picture be removed later? Thanks so much, and congratulations on an outstanding result!
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Thanks so much! Great tip about the hydrogen peroxide and q-tips, I'll give that a try. (didn't want to scrub, ick!) In answer to your question, you can definitely delete photos, there is a little "edit" on your pics and under that you have the option to delete or turn the picture, etc.. I haven't figured once can re-arrange things though! Thanks again!!
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don't think you can rearrange things but YES you can remove a photo :)
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Breathtakingly gorgeous results. I know how you feel about the new you!! I did not have my forehead lifted nor my eyes. I've worn bangs all my life, and I've done botox for my crowsfeet for about 15 years. However, when I had my 3 month TT checkup last week, my ps already started hinting how much better my eyes would look to get rid of the droopy brows and lids, plus I'm just beginning to have some bagginess underneath my eyes (I've admittedly been fortunate in that area till just recently). Maybe next year!
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Aw, thanks so much!! I saw your tt pics, and all I can say is - amazing! (I LOVE the pic your son took of you in the pool!!) It's been 3 years since my tt, and I'm still thankful for it everyday. Best wishes!! :)
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Thank you. My son is 17 and proud of his older mom's look! PS: I just updated my facelift review with my 1 year PO incision results, which are pretty impressive. Another RSF who had a TT is considering a facelift and asked to see them too.
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Oh, great! I'll go take a look!
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I have been following you and I am so ecstatic over your results!! You look so amazing. I don't think I am ready for a full facelift, having a consult 3rd week of sept, but I am looking into a mid facelift. Either way, your results keep me motivated and you look absolutely beautiful. Thank you for sharing and updating your story :)
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