Wish I had my old body- San Diego, CA

I had a full tummy tuck with lipo of the flanks,...

I had a full tummy tuck with lipo of the flanks, breast augmentation, and lift on July 11th, 2013. Although I had my stitches and drains taken out very quickly ( four days later) the process has seem unbearably slow. I have been very sore mostly from the lipo surprisingly!! At times it can be unbearable because the only acceptable resting position is sitting up, which is very uncomfortable on a black and blue back and butt! Hoping to walk straight soon because the hunched over position only accentuates the unbearable back pain I have from the lipo. As of now my stomach feel's way to tight to stand straight or lay flat. Hoping I only have another week walking hunched over and wearing the knee length compression garments. Trying to stay positive and take everything one day at time. Sleeping right now is the worst part. Can't seem to get comfortable no many how many pillows, ice packs, or pills I take. Desperate for a good nights sleep!????

Finally some sleep

So I was able to get some sleep last night for the first time in 3 days! Yesterday was my first day home alone with my two and half year old and four year old and man it was rough! The first half of the day was ok but once the swelling and pulling on the sides and tummy kicked in after being up allot I was in tears. Then my kids were upset because I was upset and by the time my husband was home it was such a hot mess here omg! I think this website has giving me some honest insight to the healing process. When I initially started my research four years ago All I looked at or cared about was what doctor to use. I knew this recovery was painful but I never really forced myself to look at any of the horror stories since I didn't want to scare myself out of it. Man I wish I had been looking on people's blogs prior to really prepare myself for the length of recovery. My PS told me I would be good in 10 days but I am on day 12 and the back pain and tightness in the tummy and hips is unbearable. Really hoping based on everyone's comments ect that week 3 or 4 is really the turning point. Show me the light! Lol. Hope I get some sleep again tonight as it really helped me cope better today! Friday I go back for my next doctors appointment and I hope he has some ideas to speed up the process! I will post some new pics after!!

Better Days

So I defiantly feel better right now during the day! I am still obviously getting swollen fairly easy but for some reason it's still better than the pain I feel lying down. Can a girl get a break? I so long for a normal night of sleep where I am not constantly woken up by my tailbone or hips on fire! I had my two week post op on Friday and my doctor said I should be feeling 100% in two weeks! I think he is trying to make me feel better because it doesn't seem that anyone on here felt 100% back to normal after a month? Luckily I have had a fairly easy recovery considering my drains came out after only four days and I have had no complications. My results are amazing so far I can't complain about that. The scar is super thin and my Breast are the perfect size! I am wondering though if my scar is going to drop a little? Seems a little higher than he promised but I am assuming I need to give my skin time to strech and settle in! Anyone out there still having a hard time sleeping at 4 weeks out?

3 weeks to early?

Hey fellow mommy makeover friends! My husband planned a business outing to the horse races and dinner with clients this Friday and I feel obligated to go. Originally I said yes before this surgery because my doctor like most ps said I would be good in 10 days. Well guess what? It has been 19 and I defiantly don't feel like doing much of anything that last's more than hour or two! Not to mention I am still walking with a slight hunch and my back is killing me. This leads me to the question of what is back to normal after a tummy tuck? Or what is considered 100%? This is so confusing to me because allot of people claim to still be having tightness and swelling at 4 and 5 months post op! Anyone ahead of me in the 8-12 week time frame feel pre surgery normal? Also any suggestions to help loosen the muscles and skin is greatly appreciated! I do hair and I am extremely nervous to go back to work in a week and half because I feel no where close to back to normal. I feel better than I did a week ago but I am not sure if it's really that I feel better or just more comfortable in the fact that I am not going to be 100% again for a long, long, time!

Walking normal Finally

Today is the first day I am actually walking fully straight. I am not sure if I have much swelling since my surgeon uses the progressive tension method which I believe causes less swelling. Still super tight and I am extremely anxious for that to loosen up! I tried to switching to Advil pm at night and found myself super restless and exhausted the past two days. Guess I will stick to the Vicodin at night to get relaxed. My breast have been super tender the last two days and my arms seems to be very weak. Wondering if that is the norm? Other than walking straight nothing new here! Doing my first lymphatic massage next week hoping to feel better by then.

Hanging in there

So I am now one month post op as of tommorow. The sleep has gotten a little bit easier. I can lay with my pillows a little less propped so my tailbone isn't on fire by morning. Still would love to be sleeping on my side but I guess that will be another month away.lol.

This past few days I have noticed the center of my incesion pulling up and that is freaking me out. Kinda wish my scar was a little lower as well but I am assuming my doctor was trying to get rid of all my stretch marks. I can't wait to start the scar therapy next week so I can see if that helps.

On another note I did notice all the talk on turmeric and I decided to give it a shot. I took the kids to lunch, target, and Jimbos yesterday and was so swollen and tight I couldn't bare one more step. When I got home I took the turmeric and bromalien together and within an hour I was fine. Sounds hocus pocusy but it really did work.

Better higher a made

Don't mind the dirty mirrors! Clearly not much cleaning is getting done around here!

Higher a maid


Bump In the road

So I started work this weekend and it has been a little rough! I do hair so by the time I finish a cut and color I barley have the energy to do a blow dry. I also started my period which has been a huge inconvience but the icing on the cake is the sore throat and runny nose I woke up with as well! Plus sleeping on your back sitting up with a sore throat and runny nose is no fun! Up to 4am again just when I starred to get some good sleep! I wish it was October already so I could feel even 75% like my old self!

On another note does anyone have any scar therapy products ect that they like so far? I can start scar treatment Monday but not sure what to buy?

6 weeks post op!

Hey all....allot has changed in the past 2 weeks since I last checked in! First I am able to finally sleep without any pain pills other than the occasional OC the pills. I am also starting to lay with my pillows pretty flat at night although I still like to have one under my legs! I am pretty much pain free besides the right hip where I have had a localized pain the past two weeks! I guess this typical on patients with less skin to pull over the hips. I have pretty much been stuffing pads in my spanx to add some pressure in those spots! I am still pretty numb from the belly button down and obviously still pretty tight from the mr as well. I can't wait for that to loosen up and feel more normal. Obviously still swelling but I felt it was better this week than last two weeks( ironic i know since I though swelling peeks at six weeks).

Okay so on another note breast look fantastic I couldn't be happier about them but I am now obsessing over TT scar. Starting to really wish my incision was lower. I know some people might think I sound crazy but it Kindove has been bothering me lately so I hope my doctor has some answers for me on the 9th! As of now I am using silicone strips 24/7 besides showering. Hope everyone else is healing fantastic!

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Almost 9 weeks

Not much new going on here besides that I ditched the spanx and binder. Having a hard time with the scar! Knew it would be there and never bothered me on other people but has gotten the better of me lately. I think in my mind I pictured a way lower, way shorter incision. Obviously that would be a mini tuck so not sure why I thought that. Just not feeling good about this whole procedure if I am being honest. I wake up and feel extremely weak and tired and I am kind of sick of that. This is "Real Self" so I am just trying to to keep it real. I know the whole body dysmorphia thing is normal just never thought it would be an issue for me. Does anyone else have a hard time looking at the scar? I feel awkward naked and I don't like it :-(

On a more positive note I took the kids to the beach yesterday and to lunch. Was able to find a swim suit that covered the scar so I wore a two piece :-) a whole day with no compression and no binder yippee!

Afterwards I went to my 9 week check up and told my doctor how I felt about the scar. He of course said I was crazy and he wished all his tummy tucks turned out like mine. Still think my scar is an inch higher than where he marked me but what can I do at this point? Also I really can't handle his nurse. She always acts as though I am annoying her when I ask questions. She even made a comment about "not getting her started on this one" (in reference to me) to another nurse when I asked about endermology. Not happy about her attitude to me at all! What would you ladies do? I though about calling the office manager and telling her my thoughts but I really don't want to be known as the crazy lady when I go in there. I just don't like the attitude of this procedure being no big deal to them. It's not like Botox or something that just goes away after a while if you are unhappy about. I only have one body and I think my attitude is normal.


9 week scar with silicone tape on

I wish I never had a mommy makeover

I have been laying low on real self lately because my view on this whole mommy makeover has changed considerably. I am sure I will get allot of backlash for this review but it's my realself page and I intend to be real. For everyone that is happy with their decision to have this procedure I am happy for you but I can't say I feel the same.

Here is why I regret ever risking my life or altering my body. After having my first kid at 24 I was devastated looking at the stomach full of stretch marks. I tried everything to get rid of them from lasers to creams. Nothing worked! I spent four years avoiding the pool or beach and felt like a bad mom for denying my kids those activities. I though if I could just wear a swim suit than I would get to do all these wonderful things and be a better happier mom. Well let me tell you the reality of all this. I am no better off. I now have a huge hip to hip scar, lifted pubic area, bullet hole for a belly button and no sensation in my stomach. Totally not worth wearing a bikini! I would rather never wear a swim suit again than have to look at the mutilation I willingly did to my own body. You think you will stop swelling after months? That is what your doctors tells you but I know plenty of people who still swell years later. Look it up if you don't believe me! I may have what some of you call "great results" but I look in the mirror at a women who bought into the idea of something that wasn't real. I had two children and I got stretch marks bringing them here and sure they weren't pretty but it happens. Maybe if less women ran out and got these kind of procedures than we could all feel better and be more at peace with the reality of baring children rather than comparing ourselves to unrealistic images of motherhood.

How many of you thought about the long term effects of this procedure? I hate to be a fear Mongol but to say you will never gain weight again is unrealistic. I know plenty of women who were skinny their whole life and things like hysterectomies and thyroid problems that occurred later in life caused weight gain. We can't control those things! Here is what doctors also don't tell you. If you gain weight it won't be normally or naturally. Your upper abdomen will bulge and you will look weird. Again if you don't believe me look it up! Ask people who have gained weight after. Also god forbid you ever have cancer and need your stomach fat to build new breast! This may seem dramatic but certainly things I wish I thought of. This procedure is permanent and very final. I hope someone looking into this kind of procedure comes across my review and has a chance to weigh these things out cause I certainly wish I did.

You think a flat stomach or perkier breast will make you feel better about your body? It won't, it will just give you a thousand and one other things to look at and hate on your body. Look at everyone's review on here and see what the first words are when looking at their "new bodies!" Usually it something about how fat their legs now look, or flat their butts now are ect...now you will spend the rest of your life narcotically critiquing the rest of your body and looking at crazy scars.

The whole depression thing makes me the angriest. You hear you will have mood swings or bouts of depression but the reality is you will spend hours and days and in my case months depressed. This depression doesn't even touch the kind of depression you get post partom. Why? Because babies eventually sleep through the night (there is a silver lining). There is no silver lining after a tummy tuck. You can't decide you want your old body back or get in a time machine and undo it. This isn't a bad haircut you can just grow out! You are forever altering your bodies capability of aging in a normal way!

Now when I bend down to shave ect I have a ledge of skin that unnaturally folds at the scar line! Here is the real kicker. I now have new stretch marks that are coming out of my scar from being pulled unnaturally tight. The sole reason for having this done has created the exact opposite. I am so embarrassed I would do this to my body or put my family through the emotional hell and trauma. Again I regret ever doing this procedure! I could have taken my family on a nice vacation or started college funds for them. Instead I exemplified to my children the upitomy of vanity and selfishness. Please think long and hard about why you would exchange a perfectly healthy functioning body in for anything less than that.
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I think you look amazing, but I completely understand the emotional side you are dealing with. I hope that in a couple of months, when your body is healed more you will feel more like your old self. Your body went through some severe trauma, that wreaks havoc everywhere, especially the mental state. (((HUGS))) to you, I really hope you start to see better days ahead mama.
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I hear ya chica,but i can't wait. and i WILL have realistic expectation(s)so psychological sense going in,i m already happy! good luck 2u,your 2 piece look so cute the one in the tropical swim suit,bikini.gosh i cant wait to put on mi red 2 piece & hot pink bikini,blk. good luck to you,your bangin' and i m a friend of a friend who had her tummy tuck done,going on 4 years,NO REGRET ZERO... SHE IS THRILLED,With her perky new tetas! no more flatness she says in the boob area just her flat nice smooth stomach drop 4 sizes now a size small to medium jeans not xxl. She had complete-"realistic expectations"her surgery went so well,and going on 4 years new year's eve yep.flat stomach,she is so happy overall so i know i will b. god bless u,u r banging! sexy n beautiful,so smile! life TOO SHORT not to. and p.s. we risk our life,even just walking outdoor, so i disagree respectfully on that about risking life. . i studied plastic surgery so long, since she did hers,(i was there waiting outside for her)she was so happy waking up! and minimal pain,light scar now just gone completely..i used to think many die from it per year.boy was i wrong! so, we risk our lives it seem more just walking out to our car,etc. anything can happen. I pray your getting help for the depression it appear,imo your looking great u really REALLY look adorably beautiful hun. THE DR.WHO DID HERS,PERFORM he said around 5x day,all are alive/well. so i mean a risk is with alot of things and i am hoping 1 day your happy with your AMAZING results.adios. god speed good luck. i think you look awesome! Para; Jesi~
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Thanks for your honest review. I have to say that I think you look fantastic and I really like your belly button.
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How are you feeling?
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You look great and I'm convinced that once you're over thiS depression you'll be happy that you did it!  The scar will fade and be almost invisible in less than a year.
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No one ever tiod me that a tummytuck would change how I ultimately felt sbout myself. I was really clear that I would have a scar and that I still needed to take care of myself. I believe that any life changing thing will alter the body, and leave it in an unhealthier state, including pregnancy. We who choose this procedure or any procedure must be clear that you are trading something for something else. Another thing is to make sure you are mentally prepared, and do your homework. I am hoping I look half as good as you do and I hope that one day u will feel better about the decision you made. Good luck.
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I want to add that you look gorgeous in your bikini & feel better. I remember you in boxing me 2 weeks po because we had our surgeries the same week. I think your surgeon could have made the scar Lower but really failed preparing you mentally for the healing time and what to expect. Im here for you if you want to talk.
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Some people just don't get it do they . . .
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I'm happy scar is low I look hot feel great. I hope in time when the selling goes down you feel the same.
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Swelling and numb feeling !
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I just wanna say that depression can take control of your life! Some people might say, I'm not going to let depression run my life, my kids, etc. Easier said than done! MommyoftwoDR wishing you all the best!
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First of all I wish I was right next to you to give you a BIG HUG! I don't know why I stumble into your review, but I guess I had to. I will say that to me and my eyes you look great! I had tears in my eyes when I read your review. Only you know exactly how you feel. I've had my mind set on a TT, BBL, BL. with Yily in DR. So many things have happen since then. I have changed my date twice. My family was ok with it and now they all say NO. So I have entered a Gym and I am watching what I eat. I still want this so bad, but I am now scare. Not because of you but so many other reasons. And it's true, I know some women who had these procedures and they have gained the weight back. I know of one that she was big then she had it done and looked amazing! and now she is back to where she was before. Before all I heard was good things about all this, and now all of a sudden all I hear are bad things and even some deaths. Sometimes I feel as if everything is a sign for me. So for now, I will stick to the Gym like my life depends on it. I want to thank you for your honesty and no one here should bash you for speaking your mind!!! I wish you the best, to you and your family and if you need to talk, I am a great listener!!!! God Bless you and may everything get better each day!
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Hi Mommy, Thanks for courageously sharing to help those of us who may be looking into it for being more introspective on why we want and be better prepared for the scarring, time away from kids and longer recovery process. I wish you and your family all the best. Every ones yard stick of beauty confidence and happiness are different. I hope you find that by and large we all want to support you whether your review supports the procedure or not. Your review made me pause and think very carefully what I needed to address and not throw in cosmetic extras. Thanks for keeping it real. I went with the larger message you wanted to convey and not dwell on specific words you may have used for some of us who thought you looked great from our lens of physical beauty. Based on your review and another mom's advice that I will 'own' my arms (no lipo). I will only get my attributes improved where it affects my quality of life with my hubby. Apologies in advance if anything I said remotely offends. I realize you may be in a delicate mindset right now. Thanks again for taking time away from your family for sharing your ongoing thoughts on your page. It has already made a difference to some of us. Thx!
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I just wanted to say thank you again for involving all of us. I have not had a mini tt done but I'be been considering it for a year. I have had a breasted lift and implants which I'm so thankful I did, I had major A cemetery but I will be getting my saline implants removed because there hard and I never really needed them but Iam totally happy to trade my lop sided boons for scars. With your story I'm actually considering not doing the mini tt but we'll see. I don't mind the scars because they would fade burk don't like the thought that
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Sorry my computer cur me off. Basically I don't like the thought of going through that big of a procedure and being g unhappy that's a bit scathe and the depression must be a hard thing to deal with and I think almost everyone gets that so I'm glad I have another point of view to consider when making my decision.
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Auto correct sucks! A bit scary.
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I am glad I could give you another point of view and some long term things to consider. That is all I can hope that at least I am saving one person themselves the recovery or money. I actually feel way better getting out the way I feel about it even though I am getting completely ambushed for it. I am considering taking the implants out once I recover From the tt. I hope others realize how completely unecassary it is to be offended by the fact that I would rather have my old body. My mom had this surgery six years ago and she still swells if she gains weight or eats salt. I am not sure the swelling and recovery would be as bad with a mini but non the less if you felt uncomfortable after implants you would certainly feel uncomfortable having your stomach muscles sewed and skin stretched. Also the way the ledge of skin swells over the incision and how high the pubic hair is, is 1000x grosser than my stretch marks ever where. I should post a picture of what it looks like when I shave my legs.
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I chose a great surgeon & I did my research, read so many articles and spoke to several wemon before my procedure, I asked so many questions as well. I took a chance & accepted the possible risk But I was not brain washed by anyone. I am an adult who chose all my procedures consciously no one put a gun to my head and forced me to do it. No ones results are ever the same. When I was feeling tired or sore after the procedure I made my self get up & walk,go out & get out of the house. I am a strong person not a weak link. My children are my life and no surgery or depression will allow me not to enjoy my children. I will ask them to be careful but that's all. I do not miss my old body nor do I miss seeing my c- section scar or my pouch. To want all that back would be insane. I am thankful for my health and I am happy with my self. I am thankful I woke up & had no complications from the surgery. I may not be perfect but I'll be damned if I let an imperfection from my surgery or my parts that didn't get worked on ruin my life or my families life. I honestly hope one day in the near future u can get past this because u sound miserable.
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Well like I have stated over and over my depression is stemmed from the fact that I have very little energy to play with my kids still and I am constantly plagued with aches and pains from this surgery I electively chose. I am not judging your decision to do this surgey I am simply stating that it is not worth it for everyone and I think it was a terrible decision on my part. I was much better off in my healthy perfectly functiong body. Why that is so insane to you is more alarming to me. Clearly you are not happy or content of a person yourself otherwise you would of not of risked your life and never seeing your children again over a boob job and a pooch! I have every right to say that it has not been worth it for me and it has nothing to do at this point about what I look like. No amount of skin or stretch marks have been worth the pain or time I missed in bed away from my kids. There a plenty of women on here that share my concerns and feelings and I am sure they are not saying anything because they don't want the hyperpctricol backlash from other women here who ironically got here the same way I did. I am done justifying my thoughts to people I don't know. I am simply giving somebody else a chance to look beyond what silly imperfections they don't like cause the trade off was not worth it in my opinion. My page and my thoughts. You can use your page to promote your own opinions!
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Your the one posting,yes on your page. You should then be open to others giving you their opinion on your subject without getting upset over others opinions that dont sympathize with you!
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I am not looking for sympathy and there are plenty of others on here that wish they hand't had the tt either but clearly the reason you are offended by my opinion lies deeper in the fact that you are feeling insecure about it otherwise you wouldn't need to justify having it to me.
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I am sad that you feel so ambushed. I think most people here are trying to comfort you. I hear you loud and clear that you want to warn others they may wind up feeling this way. I do agree that when you are young and especially if you have young children, you might want to wait and consider this for years, until the tradeoff seems right, if ever. I waited till my son was 16, so he could drive himself and his sister around and they didn't need me so much. Also, aging will make a pooch far worse in your late 40s, the skin elasticity really goes as you approach menopause. For me, there was no self-loathing at all...my husband and I discussed this last night. We both liked my body fine, but for me, the real issue was how I could never find clothes to fit right. I was thin all over (never had boobs, don't want them), but my tummy needed a size 14 and the rest needs a 6 or an 8. My husband's job requires me to attend black tie dinners with him, and many times I spend a ridiculous amount of hours trying to find something in the stores that fits me. I spend more time and money at the tailor, seriously. This has freed up time, I can't believe how easy it is to buy clothes now. I don't care if that's something you don't value, we all have our own roads to travel, our own lives to manage. But please stop saying to everyone we are all risking death. Do you travel by car? Because every single time you get in a car you are more at risk of dying, statistically. My PS has literally NEVER lost a patient. If anything, the PS world overstates the risk, which I do understand. Many of us see your pain, but you are hurting your family more by not just moving on, and putting this behind you. I'm sorry you are not happy, but it's time to turn it around, for your sake and your family's sake. You did wake up. You are healing. If you let it, this will be a distant memory before too long. Oh, and my mom swells exactly like you mentioned...but she's never had any plastic surgery. Aging is aging, surgery or no surgery. I think you've done your part to warn people against TT. I do know this...most people who have self loathing will still have self loathing. I don't think most of the members here do, though.
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grumpyme, one of our community guidelines is to "be supportive". If you can't do that I suggest you steer clear of Mommyoftwo's review from here on out.

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I agree with you completely. I think most of the ladies on here have been supportive and kind and most of them get no response. I feel that Mommyoftwo has made some comments that should be addressed... -I don't have any self hatred. -I have a wonderful PS and I understood the risks. -I believe that I am a great role model to my daughter and she understood why mommy wanted smaller breasts and to have this surgery. -I am not a narcissist and I don't regret my decision. -I believe that we have all had to adjust but I worry that a lot of what I've been reading is possibly self loathing over a decision that can't be taken back.
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