Ready for my Makeover but SCARED!

So I still haven't decided on a date yet for surgery! I was looking for opinions to help me out not scare me even more. This is what is happening My mother and my best friend ever is againist it all the way however my mother is stuck in btw. I just talked to my mom she cleans houses for a living its her own bussiness since 1988 and she works alone. Well lady she cleans for my mom decided to tell her yesterday that I want surgery done and the lady started telling my mother how she got it done and got a severe infection and ended up in hospitol almost dying from it and she is a nurse at MCV hospitol well my first response back to my mother was she most likely got it from the place she got surgery/not cleaning/sanitizing well herself or smoker but then after i argued about that in back of my mind Im like okay this isnt going as planned I have money to put up right now for surgery but have not touched it yet for anything because Im so in btw its not even funny I still have a million questions to ask to get weight off my shoulders and get re-assured Yes I know its for me and I really want it but I look to my mom 100% and I feel undecided at this point. Anyways, My best friend on the other note is very very againist it and believes my body now is what I need to live with b/c I have had 2 kids and that I need to learn to love it and not get surgery done at all. Also she saying its not worth it etc etc. I love her to death she is a bigger gal and has alwasy been big and she is so positive and confident so she doesnt believe in any kind of surgery at all to fix something god has choose to make us look like after kids etc. and my best friend does not HAVE ANY KIDS YET! so any opinions on tummy tuck experiences please leave them with me or private message me......THANKS

Hey ladies of REALSELF, I'm so glad I found this website and to read all of your experiences. Anyways, I'm 24 will be 25 March 5'6 155lbs as of now. I have 2 kids a 4 year old daughter and a 6 month old son! I have always been 115-118lb and after I had my first child in Dec. 2008 c-section, I ended up being 200lbs :( I worked out etc got down to 160 and it wouldn't buge at all so I became depressed wouldnt and wont let my fiance see me naked and I have been considering the tummy tuck a year after my daughter was born. Then come July 2012 another c-section I have a little boy and my weight went back up to 240lbs (ahhhhhhh) So, August 2012 I started really working out eating low carb diet and went from 236lbs to 155lbs as of now so aug 2012 to feb 2013 I have lost 81lbs In 6 1/2 MOnths!! I still want to get down another 5 more lbs but my goal really is to be 140 at least. Now, my tummy aka FLAP is just there and it really bothers me TMI for a min but my sex life went to crap do to me being uncomfortable with the looks of my tummy. My fiance has been supportive to a extent because he says he loves me no matter what and it doesnt bother him of corse not but he said if this is what i want then to do it. I had my consult with Dr.Stephen Chen about 2 weeks ago and I really liked him he really listened and explianed his-self. By the way Dr. Chen was my second consult first one just acted like i was just another money maker for him . I havent schduled anything yet due to me being scared and nervous plus I'm so afraid of going to sleep and surgery period!!! I have a 6month old and a 4yr old that i have to think about as well but i know god will be with me whenever i decide to go through with it. My procedure will consist of Tummy tuck , Lipo of flanks, abdoman, and mid-back. So any advice or input from REALSELF will be helpful b/c Im full of anxiety. I just want to be HAPPY and have my sex life back with my fiance i know TMI and just to enjoy my kids without me being so down in dumps about my tummy!!