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Recent Tattoo, Black Only, Upper Arm, Seeking Complete Removal

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I have been wanting a tattoo for years. My partner...

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I have been wanting a tattoo for years. My partner wasn't so thrilled at the idea when I announced I had an appointment to finally get one. It isn't a decision that was spontaneous. It was the result of a long reflection and I put a lot of time in it, and choosing the place, motif and artist. However, I should have just taken more time to think given the adverse reaction of my partner at the thought, and also because of the suggestion of the artist to enlarge the design to ensure better aging. This ended bigger and way more present than I wanted. I can't even wear short sleeves now without it showing. Also, a good climate with my partner is more important than anything else, and this tattoo really put me in a situation I hate. My partner didn't ask to see the tattoo for the first 3 days after I got it, and even avoided asking or being faced with it. This made me feel really bad inside, even though at first I was sort of satisfied with the result. But I became self-conscious with time, because of his reaction and also because of my own reaction to his. And now, even though he came to accept my decision and told me he's be ok with it, it's me who can't get to quite show it to him. I feel like hidding it from him, because I know he doesn't like that at all. So the situation is intolerable. I have a child as well, old enough to notice, but I decided to keep it hidden from her since I decided not to keep it after this 2-month reflection. This will make the coming year a little bit more complicated to manage, but I prefer this to explanations and possible leaks to the extended family. Nobody knows except my husband and a few friends.

Since my tattoo has theoretically good odds of being removed, I decided to start removing it. I hope for a complete removal, but if I should experience problems with residual ink, I might look into a small tattoo for the upper part, where it could easily be hidden under a short sleeve. I hope the bottom part can disappear totally.

My first laser session is tomorrow (May 27). I had my tattoo on March 31, so the tattoo is now 2 months old. It is only black lines, made with vegan ink (Eternal), with only a little bit of shading. Lines were only made once (the artist didn't do several passes). I am scheduled with a clinic that uses a Q-switched laser and she plans anywhere between 6 to 12 treatments (it depends a lot on how the person reacts and how fast the body eliminates the ink after break-up, she says).

Also, they offer laser session to help with adult acne problems, and I decided to try this as well, since I have problems with my face skin ever since I am a teenager. I thought that going for a positive treatment at the same time that I go to correct this decision I regret would help me see this as a step forward into a more positive period of my life.

So, that's how it goes.

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February 9, 2015
I am sorry to hear about your experience with your tattoo, but I must say that I absolutely adore it. Did you design it? If not, could you let me know the name of the artist who did? Thank you, and I hope that you continue to have steady progress with the removal process.
April 26, 2015
Nobody should make you feel bad about getting a tattoo, whatever it looks like, not even your partner, because your body is yours, not his. I'm sure you'll get it removed successfully as it only has black ink. Just be patient, keep away from the sun, space the treatments and moisture like crazy.
April 26, 2015
I know, and I was decided to get one anyway exactly for this reason. Because it's my body, not his. But I failed to be able to "not give a f---" about his feelings afterwards. His reaction crushed me because I allowed it to crush me. So it's also me, the problem, not only him. I read a text by Thich Nhat Hanh last year and I understood immediately where I was wrong. Our body isn't only "ours". "In modern life, people tend to think their bodies belong to them, that they can do anything they want to themselves. But your body isn't only yours. Your body belongs to your ancestors, your parents, and future generations. It also belongs to society and to all the other living beings. The trees, the clouds, the soil, and every living thing brought about the presence of your body. We can eat with care, knowing we are caretakers of our bodies, rather than their owners." (From "How to Eat") While I don't agree with the whole of it (the whole spiritual ring of it is a little bit too much for me), I came to see where I was wrong in believing my boding is mine alone. It is also how I present myself to my child and family, and to my partner. And it is important that I respect them in at least taking into consideration strong oppositions they have to tattoos or other permanent body modifications. Loving is also caring about others' feelings toward the decision we take for ourselves.
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Day of treatment

First laser session

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Having read a lot about the pain and such from other people, I was a little bit anxious. Finally, I would say that the pain is a little bit stronger than for the tattoo, but less than laser depilation for armpits. So quite bearable, even without any cold air or numbing cream. I am going to a clinic where it is a doctor who performs the treatment. She says that the skin is not supposed to blister. Also, I could clearly see the frosting and it was effective according to the practitioner. The parameters were as follows: Q-switch laser wavelength 1064, spot size 4mm, fluence 2.0. The skin shows some tiny red spots at places, and the skin is slightly raised where the tattoo lines where most dense, but otherwise, everything is quite fine and good! Enthusiastic so far.

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February 5, 2015
I was also told that the skin should not blister. Yet a lot of posts I see here include blistering. I would assume that blisters increase the chance of scarring, so I definitely am glad my removal specialist wants to avoid blisters. I think they avoid it by starting out on a pretty low setting and very gently work their way up - which is good! I want my skin to be as healthy as possible after this! - - Good luck to you on your journey. I am starting my first session next week and my tattoo has a lot of black lines too. I hope we can keep each other motivated. :) :)
February 5, 2015
Yes, I am also very glad that the doctor treating me insists on avoiding big blisters. I get very tiny blisters at times, but never the big ones some people get. Also, I have been told that colours can sometimes do that as the chemicals are often unknown and thus unpredictable. It is definitely going to be a long journey, and I expect a second summer wearing 3/4 sleeves, but I do hope that somewhere next year I am able to cover it easily with a thin make-up session. Then, it seems to me that the rest of the process will be easier to handle.
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February 5, 2015
Do you currently use any sort of makeups to cover it or have any that you are planning on using when your tattoo is lighter? I've tried drugstore cover up makeups and am now trying different dermablend makeups and have had some interesting results.
February 5, 2015
I don't makeup as of now since it's winter. I might consider that this summer. Tried with drugstore products, and with a technique shared by someone in RealSelf, got interesting results (using eye shadow fixed with hairspray, several layers, then ending up with a foundation that matches the skin colour). It's long though. I will shop more appropriate products this spring (definitely want to try something like dermablend).
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February 5, 2015
I've been experimenting with dermablend and it's the best coverage that stays on so far. I'm still trying it but I think this is as good as it gets. The products are a little spendy but worth it if it does the job... there's also these sample kits they you actually can't buy on the dermablend website that are a really good way to test the products without going bankrupt. You should message me if/when you look into that product because their website doesn't help much and it took me awhile to figure some stuff out on my own. :P -- also if you find something else that works let me know! ANYTHING to hide my tattoo lol...
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February 5, 2015
Those test kits are on a different website. Can't post a link but I'm sure you could look up dermablend test kits. Or I could email/message you the link if you're ever curious. $7 I think for multiple shades and a thing of the setting powder. They give a decent amount too.
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Day of treatment

Trying to go through all this being as zen as possible

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"If something can be remedied
Why be unhappy about it?
And if there is no remedy for it,
There is still no point in being unhappy."
-Shantideva

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May 28, 2014
Bonjour! I'm glad that you found this website. It's a great place for support and answers. We've all been there, my ink regret was instantaneous, I stood up from the chair to look at it in the mirror and thought "well this has to be lasered off". Ink regret robs us of our dignity, our self esteem, and our good moods. But modern technology will come to the rescue. I found such solace with the first session. I'm still going through it, but it's going to be okay. I have faith in this whole process. Good luck, keep us posted, and think positive about this whole process. Updated us with photos and words whenever you can, we're here for you. aloha...k
May 28, 2014
Hi kahelelani! Hi had read your review and story. I think that the last picture with the bracelets is encouraging a lot. My regret was not instantaneous, but nearly so. When I came back home, I had doubts, and then the reaction of my partner killed me inside. I knew then that I would never love this thing again. I have been having problems eating the firsts 2 or 3 weeks after, but then, I decided to focus on the solution and be positive. I couldn't stand to feel miserable for years!
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May 28, 2014
"I have been having problems eating the firsts 2 or 3 weeks after, but then, I decided to focus on the solution and be positive. I couldn't stand to feel miserable for years!" Got my tattoo nearly 2 months ago, and that describes my situation perfectly. I can't afford laser removal yet, and i dont have the time to take care of it anyways atm. in my life, so sometimes it can be hard to stay positive, but we've got to. I wish you best of luck in your removal proces!
May 28, 2014
Yes, I am happy at least to be able to start laser sessions. To know that I started, even though that's a very long process, it helps. But otherwise, before that, I was only thinking about it in the morning, when choosing clothes, and in the evening, when removing them. It's possible to avoid letting this take control of our whole lives.
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May 29, 2014
Being miserable will not get us anywhere, I learned that. Staying positive, hopeful, and being persistent with removal process is what gets me through it all. I used to live in Montreal and know that there are the best doctors there. My husband used to train with the Olympic coach for the swim team. It seems that you have an excellent chance with the experts you have, and the treatment. Removal takes time, but it is so worth it in the end. Bonne Chance!! aloha...k
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May 29, 2014
Last night I looked at the ink in the evening sunlight and thought "whoa, this is certainly fading away". It's all perspective, and we are often our worst critic. I'm keeping on with the process and if it takes years, then it takes years. I'm doing something about it. Being miserable takes up way too much physical and mental energy, and might even inhibit the process. So I stay focused, positive and move forward. Good luck with the process and stay focus, eat healthy, and stay strong. We're all in this together, we support each other and we celebrate each other's victories. aloha...k
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May 29, 2014
You may not be able to afford laser removal now, but perhaps in the future. Removal can be done at any time, and when you're $$$ ready, you can tackle it. In the meantime, stay positive, and tackle the problems you can deal with right now. I freaked out big time when I got my ink regret, and now I wish I had just stayed calm. I spent far too much energy focusing on things that I should have spent that energy on being happy. Good luck...aloha...k
May 28, 2014
Hi mpq. As you said yourself, you're definitely a good candidate for full removal. Do you know which model q-switch laser you'll be using? I really hope you see some good fading after your first session. There's debate that some very new tattoos can be removed quicker, but I'm not sure. I began removing mine after about nine months, and it was jet black to begin with like yours. Keep us updated!
May 28, 2014
No, I don't know and forgot to ask. But will next time.
May 29, 2014
It's a Spectra Q-switched nd-YAG. Tells you anything?
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May 29, 2014
So glad you shared your journey with us and I admire your outlook on the journey. I absolutely love the quote you shared with us, I will be keeping that one!

I am curious to see if the vegan ink will respond quicker, I heard it fades faster in general as the tattoo ages so maybe....will be interesting to see. 

Look forward to your updates!
May 29, 2014
Glad you like the quote! I put it next to my computer less I forget to focus on things that matter. As for the ink, it's one of the most common ink brand. Many people must have this one without even knowing it. Also, some people asked about the age of the tattoo prior to beginning treatment... My practitioner said that it doesn't really matter as long as the tattoo is healed. The fading you get when you wait in the first year is maybe equivalent to 1 treatment... but you must wait a whole year! So maybe if you're really distressed about the ink and have the budget, it's better to start right away. She doesn't seem to think that it makes it any easier or harder to get rid of it. It's just a matter of how the tattoo was placed in the skin and how the body gets rid of the ink. And this doesn't change much whether you wait or not.