So Confused! Advice? Support? Encouragement?! - Ontario, CA
I have had size 34DD breasts for as long as I can...
- 22 May 2012
I have had size 34DD breasts for as long as I can remember. I suddenly "sprouted" in grade 7, and since I first had boobs- I HATED them! I am now 22, turning 23 in November, weigh between 115-120 pounds, and am about 5'5. I have been thinking about getting a breast reduction for about 5-6 years, and because I will be getting married in 2 years, I have finally decided I want to get a reduction preferably sometime this year.
There are many reasons why I want to get a breast reduction. First and foremost, for MYSELF. I have long felt extremely self-conscious about my body, and have grown to hate my body. While the rest of my body is relatively thin, my breasts make me look much larger than I actually am. I have always struggled with clothes and bathing suit shopping, and try to hold back tears whenever I am looking for outfits to wear on a vacation, graduation, or a special event like my sisters wedding last summer. I have always worn "old lady bras" because they provide the best support; I have never felt sexy wearing lingerie and wear 2 bras every day to make my boobs look smaller in clothing. Many people don't understand how emotionally distressing it can be to feel so uncomfortable and hate your body so much. I don't want to be vain, but I am still young and want to feel good about myself! Reason #2 is for health. I have a lot of pains in my back- my upper back, lower back and my neck. I have an extremely hard time exercising, and over the past few years I have been noticing that my posture is becoming HORRIBLE and I don't want to end up a hunch back! My boobs sag almost down to my belly button when I am not wearing a bra, and I am fed up with feeling uncomfortable and miserable about my body.
While I am positive I want a reduction, I have a few concerns.. the main one being scarring & complications. Now I know... you can drive yourself CRAZY looking online at breast reduction horror stories- losing a nipple, horrid ropey scars, infections, the whole nine yards. While my boobs are large- they aren't bad looking. I really don't want to regret my decision to have a surgery because of my desire to look and feel better. I'm thinking this is something probably a lot of people go through when deciding whether to have a reduction. I KNOW I want to reduce.. but I have the nagging feeling in the pit of my stomach asking "Will I regret it!?"
I am also wondering.. where do I start!? I have done a TON of research so far on reductions, and have also talked to my family doctor about getting a reduction. She told me many people wait until after they have children, but I don't feel this is right for me, which she totally understood. She explained scars can be minimal to dark kelloid scars (depending on the person). She has also told me it can be a wise decision, especially considering my health reasons and insecurities.
She gave me a list of 3 surgeons and I have read reviews online for 2 of the 3 surgeons. Out of 5, the first doctor had a rating of 2.6 and the other surgeon had a rating of 3.6/5. I live in quite a small town (about 30 minutes from Niagara Falls, ON, about an hour and 15 minutes away from Toronto, ON). Tomorrow I am making appointments to meet with surgeons, but I feel uneasy about the ratings online. 2.6/5 to me is not good, so right off the bat I am thinking that I probably would not want to go to this surgeon. The other surgeon who got the 3.6 rating actually performed a reduction on my moms friends daughter- who had rave reviews about him- so I will definitely be meeting with him! But really, what I am wondering is HOW do you choose the right surgeon? My doctor said meeting with them to feel them out is crucial, and seeing how they answer important questions will give me a good feel of these surgeons. But I am wondering, Should I stay local and choose from the 4 doctors in the area that perform the surgery, or maybe go to a larger area, like Toronto, where there are more doctors to choose from? Decisions, Decisions!
I have an amazingly supportive family, friends, and boyfriend (who I have been with for 8 years). They all encourage me to do it, if it will make me happy and promise to be there for me 100%. All I have on my mind lately is a reduction! I want to talk to them about it- but ultimately, they cannot put themselves in my position and truly understand how life changing of a decision this is. That's why I decided to post on here.. I am desperate to hear what people in similar circumstances think and feel!
If anyone would like to respond to this post, maybe let me know what they think, their experiences, they stories.. I would really appreciate it!! Thanks so much for anyone who took the time to read this rant! I clearly have a lot on my mind!