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Day 13 why can't I see anyone I know?

Name: Day 13 why can't I see anyone I know?
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Author: DoIDontI

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Well where to start....Lets start with the...

DoIDontIDecember 22, 2012

$5,000

Well where to start....Lets start with the insensitive people that point out the nose on your face. 'Eeeee she has a big nose, have you seen her nose, she must be a witch with that nose?' - gee thanks for pointing out what I see every day in the mirror. Please don't spare my feelings I'm just the girl with the big nose. I always wish I could find some witty words to say to these people but can never manage my words past the shear terror I feel.

I've had name calling since the age of 14. I have zero confidence because of it and I've been to some terrible lows but hey I've survived and I've met a lovely man, and had a baby 9 months ago( it's a miracle I'm actually with anyone as I'm a social idiot)....anyway the crazy man asked me to marry him and I'm getting married next Sept..... I'm so nervous, anxious, stressed, not because I'm getting married but because I really don't want pictures taken. I'm dreading the profile shot, the 'looking into each other eyes' shot cos that will mean a profile Picture. Im dreading Saying the vows in front of people cos that will require a side view.

So what do I do? Then there is my baby to consider. Will she recognise me? Will she be terrified when she sees her mammy all strapped up? Will this scar her for life? ARGH there is so many questions that I can't sleep at night thinking about it. Can I be that selfish and spend all that money on myself when there is wedding stuff to pay for? ARGHHH...

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Angie_M

December 25, 2012

Welcome to RealSelf! This is not going to scar your baby for life. Not at all. She won't even remember it. If you have no self confidence because of your nose then by all means do something about it. I have never once regretted getting my rhinoplasty in my twenties. It's been really, really liberating.

The key is to choose the best doctor you can for the job. Here's what some surgeons say about choosing the right rhinoplasty surgeon for you.

Please keep us posted! And congrats on your upcoming wedding.

UPDATED FROM DoIDontI

9 days pre

Well I've done it, I've booked a date for surgery....

DoIDontIJanuary 15, 2013

Well I've done it, I've booked a date for surgery. 24/01 ARGH! Its so surreal!!!! I met with a consultant on Monday and he told me everything I needed to know. I have to say all the doubt I had,has just fluttered away.

The only concern I have is my 10month daughter being terrified when she sees me with my cast over my nose. The consultant advised that he might not need to break my nose so I might not get the massive black eyes I was sure I would get. That's one less thing to scare my daughter at least.

Now how on earth do I tell my parents I'm getting it done...........I just don't know how to go about it....if anyone has any thoughts please share them with me cos I'm at a loss. Ha

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gift2myself

January 16, 2013

Good luck to you! I have no advice at all, I'm afraid, but some other folks on realself have infants and they've just had surgery, so you'll probably hear from them. I am happy for you though, that you're doing it now. Once the baby is toddling all over the place I think the recovery phase would be more difficult. Better to do it now while she's an infant.

DoIDontI

January 16, 2013

Awww thank you. Well the doc told me to make a splint out of plasters and wear that in front of my daughter to see how she would react. I'm going to do that the weekend. See might just think that mammas being silly haha! Thanks again for the support, it's all just surreal ha

wing13

January 16, 2013

Which UK surgeon are you having your operation with? Jawad?

DoIDontI

January 16, 2013

Hiya, Decided to go with Mr Erdmann. Had a good feeling about him, when I met him. Are you thinking about surgery?

wing13

January 16, 2013

Yes. I will have a consult with Jawad next week.

DoIDontI

January 17, 2013

Good luck with everything yeay!

Milsy85

January 26, 2013

Is that muhammad jawad??

wing13

January 26, 2013

yes. Have you met with him?

UPDATED FROM DoIDontI

3 days pre

3 more sleeps till the big day. I'm so nervous,...

DoIDontIJanuary 21, 2013

3 more sleeps till the big day. I'm so nervous, and I hate to admit it a bit scared! Been reading other people's recovery story's and its just dawned on me that I'm going to have to look after my 10 month daughter!! Im not going to be able to just lie and recover. Am I going to be able to do it? I'm actually freaking out a bit...well freaking out more than the thought of scaring her. I'm probably been so irrational, but I can't help it.

A massive ARGHHHH but also a massive YEAY!

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gift2myself

January 21, 2013

You and your baby will be fine! Good luck and keep us posted!

DoIDontI

January 22, 2013

Thank you for the support. Eeeee two more sleeps ha

Newnose4me

January 21, 2013

This will be life changing for you and you are going to look gorgeous! I sweated for months about telling my parents and left it until 10 days beforehand. I kept details to a minimum and concentrated on improving breathing. They have been amazing and supported me so much post surgery & were invaluable. I hope telling them goes well & you get some help with your baby so you can rest, as it is very important. She may need to hang out in bed with you. Take care & keep us updated.

DoIDontI

January 22, 2013

Awww Thankyou for your kind words. It really means a lot. I've told my parents, they are ok about it.... Well apart from giving me a lecture about the dangers of it haha! Not the kind of info you want to hear a couple of days before the big day. Haha but I feel better about it. Thankyou again :-)

Newnose4me

January 23, 2013

Oh well done on telling your parents....that is a big step. Keep your eyes in the prize....it will be worth it!! All the best, and do stay in touch :)

lisa S.

January 22, 2013

I think it is a good decision, your child will just understand boo-boo on your nose and that's it. It will be fine, I have 4 children and I've gone through this surgery as well as unplanned surgeries, ...elbow which was a painful surgery way more in comparison and they all did fine. Just be excited and happy for your child and yourself because if you are like me I love pictures of my children and I would also like to be a part of them and now with having this done, I won't cringe at the thought of being in one!! You will be fine and do great! You are much younger than me, I'm now jealous I waited so long! Take care~

DoIDontI

January 22, 2013

Thankyou for the reassurance,it's nice to hear from someone that has children. Your right about the picture thing, I have to take like a million pictures before I'm satisfied with one - by the time I'm done my baby is bored and that cute picture moment has gone haha! Hopefully I'll be more confident going places as well. Eeee it feels like a new start if that makes sense :-)

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