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So, long story short..I'm 28 years old with a...
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So, long story short..I'm 28 years old with a beautiful 9 yr old daughter, Madison. I'm in debate about having a tummy tuck and breast implants, went to the consultation but now just waiting on my settlement from a car accident I was in 2 years ago... I'm also having some difficult decisions to make as to what surgery I should do and how it will affect my daughter.
My daughter was born with a physical disability called arthrogryposis..I tell her everyday how beautiful she is and I wouldn't change her for nothing so for me to get a tummy tuck or breast implants has me worried that she might think if her mommy isn't happy with the way she looks and is getting surgery to fix herself then how do I look.
I want this more than anything but if it causes my daughter to think she isn't perfect the way she is then I'll pass..her happiness comes first no matter what..my x mother n law says for me to go for it and don't think Madison will think that way but its hard for me to be so selfish and so worried over the way my body looks when she is going through much worse...idk :(
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January 18, 2012
Cyndi I couldnt agree more with MaumeeMG. With my life trial and tribulations I have realized that if "I" am not happy with myself, I can't make anyone else happy.
Happy healing MaumeeMG!
Happy healing MaumeeMG!
January 19, 2012
I have a daughter too and struggled with the decision to get a tummy tuck. I knew I would never be happy with myself if I did not do it. Getting dressed everyday depressed me. When I decided to finally do it and tell my daughter. She was upset and even angry. I explained to her that my body and had been damanged and stretched so much it was uncomfortable. I also said I didnt want to change the way I looked I just wanted to look "normal". The way I was supposed to look.
I think your daughter will understand and it will make you a much a happier person with yourself making you a much better mom!
Good Luck
I think your daughter will understand and it will make you a much a happier person with yourself making you a much better mom!
Good Luck
January 19, 2012
Let me add I am now 4 days post op and my daughter ( she is 11) couldn't have been more supporative or helpful. She has been getting me anything I need. Helping out around the house and even getting herseld up for school. She saw my tummy yesterday and said it looked really good. Better then before.
February 9, 2012
Hey Gia good to hear you have a great little girl helping you out! All the best on your recovery.
January 20, 2012
Feeling good. Extremely swollen and freaking out about that but pain wise very good.
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OK so I talked to my daughter and she gave me the...
OK so I talked to my daughter and she gave me the clear to go with the surgeries lol...here's my story..I'll try and make it quick and simple lol...got pregnant @ 18, had my beautiful daughter @ 19...Madison was born with arthrogryposis..where all her joints were locked and she didn't developed muscle...she has had 3 surgeries on her feet to correct her clubfoot and 3 surgeries on her right arm so that she can bend it..with that being said she is awesome..very independent and lets nothing stop her...she amazes me everyday..so any who u can imagine how much time I spend with being a mommy :-) I have wanted this surgery for awhile now..considering I was so young when I had my daughter and never got to enjoy my pre baby body...2 years ago I got in a car accident..need up with 2 broken vertebras, 6 broken ribs and a broken back..my case just did settle and I should be receiving the settlement money in 2 weeks..so with Madison going on a toy shopping spree..I'm going on a surgery spree lol....I'm calling tomorrow to have a consultation with a surgeon in Durham I'm actually read about here on real self...I'll update y'all tomorrow with when my consultation will be :-) oh I want a full tt and breast implants and lip to the love handles BC they are what makes me look ridiculous in shirts :-) btw I'm adding a pic of my daughter BC she is my inspiration...I'll add my before pics by tomorrow :-)
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January 23, 2012
Thank y'all so much for your comments...they made me tear up...I'm about to update my page but want y'all to b the first to hear...I talked to my daughter...if this doesn't get to your heart, I don't know what will..I tell my daughter everything so, I felt the need to explain and ask what she thought....the words from my daughter "mommy, you had the doctors do surgery on my feet so I could walk, I had surgies on my arm so I can bend it like everyone else, right? So u should have surgery so u can have a tummy like u want :,-) I know this site is for me..and for my journey and my before and after pics which I plan on uploading asap but I'm also posting a pic of my daughter BC without her I would have prob made a huge mistake and not go through it..thanks so much for yalls support...I'm updating now so u can know my story :-)
January 23, 2012
Btw I'm so glad y'all r doing good and def keep me updated on ur progress..it def helps to hear others stories :-)
January 23, 2012
Cyndi - what a doll of a baby girl you have over there. Pretty AND smart - the whole package! Truer words were never spoken: you deserve it! And I'm glad for you that you are coming around. :-) Thank you for the pic of your daughter - she is beautiful! Like her momma. :-)
January 23, 2012
Awwww thank u sooo much...that means alot...how r u feeling? Oh n I wanted to ask..in all full tt, do they cut all the skin from your bb down r does it depend on how much skin u have?
January 23, 2012
You're welcome. :) In all full tt they procedure does cut skin from bb down but as you said it depends on the patient. You'll find out in your consultation if you have enough skin. Take a look at my pics, there are a couple of me with markings my PS did just before surgery. The oval that includes my bb was all cut off.
I struggled with the vanity question about my decision to have plastic surgery, but in the end I recognized that if I did not do it, it would affect my long term happiness and self confidence. I also realized - though it may sound cold or harsh to say - that it was my choice to improve my body (and body image), that I had the ABILITY to change it, and that if I didn't make that choice, it wouldn't change the fact that I WANTED to improve it and I wouldn't feel "better" for having taken the less vain road. Does that make sense? I guess what I mean is, even if people don't have the option to do it, they wish they could and many WOULD in our situation. In other words, don't beat yourself up about the fact that you want to do this for you. On a much larger scale, it is no different than wearing makeup, having our hair done, wearing nice clothes, and all the other bazillion things we do to look "good."
I am now 8 days post-op and am happy with my decision to do it. I did NOT let my younger daughter know that I was having plastic surgery. I think she is much too young to understand the reasons involved. In my case, I had a small umbilical hernia that needed repaired so that was my "cover story." From the many reviews I've read on realself, it is a common one. Perhaps you may "need" a similar procedure. ;-)
In the end you have to do what is right for YOU, and make the decision that you will be able to happily live with for the rest of your life. Regret isn't only limited to things you've done...it lingers over things you've relinquished, too.
Best of luck on your decision, Cyndi. Feel free to ask me any questions you have!