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I am 37 year old , mother of 11 and 2. I had...

I am 37 year old , mother of 11 and 2. I had complicated c section 2 years ago with terrible scar in the lower abdomen. I went to my ps for scar revision. He found out I have a small umbilical hernia and abdominal muscle also separated. He suggests I should have abdominoplasty done. Finally I got the date scheduled which is the friday before thanksgiving. Because I am full time working with my own business. Choosing this time I can take off one week to recover. I am 5'6" and 136 lb. I gained 60 lb during my 2nd pregnancy and still 20lb over my pre pregnancy weight. I ll stay in hospital over night. I requested perticular anesthesiologist, circulating nurse, general surgeon who will perform ther hernia portion and of course my ps who had great reputation in the area. I am very nervous. Especially which the experience of last. C section that I almost died during c section. But I determined I need to have it done. My friend told me I look perfect in size 4 dress , nothing need to be done. But I am the one look at myself in the mirror , I hate that scar. The small porch really doesn't borther me that much. If the hernia need to be fixed, I agree with ps,s recommendation. I'll keep update.

I went to general surgeon's office today and the...

I went to general surgeon's office today and the surgical consultation for hernia repair part. Due to my terrible experience in the past during section. He asked me to get medical clearance. He said if I can't get clearence, I better live with the scar. I bet nobody wants any complications intraop.

Due the surgery date coming up, I got an...

Due the surgery date coming up, I got an appointment with internal medical doctor for medical clearance yesterday. It went well and I got the clearance letter. Finally I am good to go. Very nervous. I am counting dates.... I am coming to this forum more often and read other people, experience and tell myself, it will be ok, not big deal. I guess it's type of self directed psychotherapy... I am going to Halloween party tonight. I will be snow whites evil stepmother. It will be fun.

I went to PS office and paid balance today.I got...

I went to PS office and paid balance today.I got some post op instructions. Sort of nervous. I started to block off the calender on my office schedule. I have 10 days time to recovery before back to work. I am worried if I can make it smooth and easy as it can be. I've read some people's post op experience. I hope I can recover well... 2 more weeks to go....

Interesting enough,today I told one of my good...

Interesting enough,today I told one of my good friends that I am going to have tummy tuck. He,s like: why? I think you need to see psychiatrist, not plastic surgeon. U look normal. Then I explained to him how the scar revision end up changing decision to tt. He,s like: ps of course wants to cut u open.that's his specialty.

Anyway, it's hard for someone else to understand. No wonder most people keep quiet about their plastic surgeries. I have a coworker came in with swollen eyes after 2 weeks vocation. Apperently she had blepharoplasty. She will answer all questions: i never had anything done. Its natural. Lol How about ur guys experience? Do u tell people u had tt done? So 3 out of 3 people I told about my plan thought I am crazy even I told them I have hernia . My hb doesn't care.....

Its very complicated feeling that excitement and...

Its very complicated feeling that excitement and anxious at the same time. I think I am ready to go. I bought all the vitamins, protein powder and homopathic treatment medications and started to take following the instruction. Ps told me the surgery will schedule 5 to 6 hours. One hour for hernia repair by general surgeon, rest of the time is his surgical time. I told my friend who will be the anesthesiologist in the case: don't read magazines or play puzzle games during my surgery which I know that was her favorite activities in the or. I am very excited the day is coming.

Sorry ladies I have been quiet for the last a few...

sorry ladies I have been quiet for the last a few days. I am still in shock and adjusting all the changes. Thank you for you all encouragement. The most bizzar situation happened to me. I was fully prepared for the surgery which supposed to be tomorrow. Unfortunately, on monday, ps texted me that sorry he had to postpone the surgery because the general surgeon doesn't feel comfortable. I said omg, this is the only week I am available and I already taken the thanksgiving week off. I called him. He told me is on vocation one day after my surgery for a week. General surgeon doesn't feel comfortable if he is not around. I said I knew u on vocation when I scheduled the case. But that's the only available day I can do it. I don't care u r out later. He said the general surgeon is gonna call me. If I can persuade him. He can keep the original schedule.
Later of the day, the general surgeon called me. He,s like: this is pure elective case. How do u feel comfortable if he is not even around postoperative? Have u heard or seen flap infection, hematoma? The hernia is very small. I'll never repair it if I am you. If I am u, I would seriously reconsider ur decision for the surgery. U look good Mel. Even the scar is not bad. U don't need this...
I was in shock and still in shock..... Two surgeons and one of them chickened out. If I persist, The complications might happen. I am off tomorrow and next whole week. Its so last minute cancelations. Now my hb and my mum started to advise me: if. Dr...doesn't want to do the case if ps not around post op means it's not risk free surgery. Just forget it..
Now nobody around me support me about the surgery anymore and I started to get scared of it as well. Also it's so impossible to find another week to have it done. It sucks.....
I don't know what else to say. Good luck ladies the future tummy tuckers.
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I'm so sorry! I know how disappointed u must be. But remember all things
Happen for a reason. God is in control.
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Well Lucamel, just take a deep breath. Things happen for a reason. Only we can't see the whole picture, only pieces. One day, maybe not too far off, you will be able to look at this and go "Oh, now I see". I would just get the issues with money resolved. Give yourself some time to process it, and make a decision as to what to do when you have stepped back and are not so emotional about it all. We tend to make decisions when we are upset that we regret. Enjoy the holidays, have fun, eat and just smile@ It's all good and it will all work out I am sure!
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I have to agree with marinemom. Right now is a time for enjoying the holidays. Each holiday we enjoy is one that will never return, so let's really appreciate it and have fun. Also, sometimes it's good to 'sit' on things before making the next decision. I find that when I hold off on making a decision that is really troubling, I often come back to it with an idea I hadn't had previously.
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WOW SWEETIE I WISH I LIVED NEAR YOU TO HELP U OUT! I WOULD DEFINETLY SEE ABT YOUR MONEY LIKE MARINE MOM SAID!
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Thank you. I just have to reconsider all the decisions..
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Wow, that is really odd, I would just say it's a sign and go with it. Mabye the timing is not right? Maybe you should check with another ps, one that has partners in case you need to see someone and he isn't around? That is why I liked my practice, they have 4 ps and I feel comfortable seeing any of them if my ps can't. They share the same philosophy. What about the nurses there? Dont' they take care of the patient's calls anyway? Wow, keep us posted dear.
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Lucamel, Since HE cancelled, will you get a refund? that is just the most odd thing I have read here. Not trying to make you feel badly, but it's just unusual.
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Hi, marine mom: it is truly unbelievable . He has a nurse working for him taking calls all the time. That's why I never thought about any problems when I booked the case even though he told me he is going for vocation for a week. The hospital refunded me the facility fee. His office not yet because I haven't talked to his office manager yet. She might think I'll reschedule to next month. I have too many parties during Christmas time. I can't do it at that time. I don't think any issues for refund. Ps is very nice person.
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Lucamel, I'm sorry this happened to you. Please keep us posted on whatever you finally decide.
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Good luck for tomorrow.I can't believe u still awake. Have some rest. Tomorrow is the big day. Show me the fabulous result post op!
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I never went to any other surgeons
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Lucamel, have you had a second opinion? Did you see any surgeons before this one? What they told you sounds very odd to me!!
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I knew them for 3 years. Ps is the best in the area. He graduated from Connell . The general surgeon has some professor from Columbia university and chief of surgery depart of the hospital. He is erragont and has terrible personality. But he has very good hand and surgical skills. I can't believe he chickened out on me once he found out ps is going on vocation postoperative. He is crazy as usual....
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But did he even give you a rational reason why he chickened out? Are you diabetic? Do you have fibromyalgia? Did he elaborate? You don't have to say it on here, but he needed to have been specific as to the reason. It just sounds very bizarre, Luca. Very.
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I had major bleeding during the c section 2 years ago. I never had any bleeding problems , healthy in the past, till now. He is worried if I bleed postoperative. But I had medical clearance already. He is driving me crazy. He doesnt understand why I need this done
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Goodness, Luca. I don't know about anyone else, but I would seek a second opinion, but it's up to you. Doesn't this sound strange to you?
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Of course strange. This is the most bizzar reason to cancel a case. That's why I am still in shock. The problem is his comment sounds like I am the one crazy. I had this scheduled a month ago and he canceled it in the last week... If I decide to have this done again, I might look for another general surgeon.
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I'm sorry that this happened to you. Don't give up.
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Is the general surgeon for the hernia repair? Seems odd that they would not work this out together, my ps and my obgyn were going to work together should I have decided to get my "female" surgery done at the same time. My obgyn was excited for me having the tt, he said, "Good for you." So sorry.
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Was the csection emergency? Had you been on blood thinnners, or was there some other reason you had issues with bleeding? There seems to be some concerns they have and maybe you just need to take a few steps back and make sure everyone is on the same page. Gee, having your surgeon telling you NOT to have the surgery is really odd I think.
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The general surgeon is a crazy guy. I think I picked up wrong surgeon. I don't think he trust my ps that much. Lol. Also he is a typical man, he has no idea why we want to have this done
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C section is not emergency, just my ob doc a little bit retarded and overly confident. It's complicated to explain in detail. I don't have any other bleeding history, healthy and not on medications.
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Best of luck and prayers for you tomorrow. Our tummies look similar, but mine is worse than yours. I think you look good. Keep us posted on how you are doing. I'm sure that you're nervous, but you will look great and do well. Whenever you can, will you please let me know what this is like with a 2 year old? My surgery is in January and I'm nervous about this with a toddler. Can't wait to see your pictures! Enjoy the new beginning. :)
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O.K. Lucamel, tomorrow is our day. I wish you many blessings and good luck and I pray we both have fantastic results!
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How are you doing today? I'm sure you're just as excited and anxious as I am. Make sure you stock uo on protein bars, veggies, citrus fruits and lean meats. I've learned that these foods are an important part of the recovery process.
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