Feeling very sad over my entire experince, Mount Kisco, NY

I have 2 children and after having my children my...

I have 2 children and after having my children my body didn't end up very well. I ended up with extra skin on my stomach. Having this extra skin made finding clothes very hard for me. I have slender legs and I had a belly flap. Well if the pants fit my legs well the pants would be to tight for my belly flap. I tried wearing spanx and even a corset. From time to time I would end up with a rash on my stomach. It was either have clothes swim on me or deal with a rash from time to time. Sometimes people would ask me if I was pregnant. I could go on about the after effects to my body after having my children.

I have painful bottoming out on my right breast and I have snoopy on my left breast. I have to uneven breasts. From the start I always horrible sysmptoms on my right breast and I made her aware of what I was feeling. She would always tell me that it was normal. One day I was in such pain that I went on google and typed in my symptoms and I discovered I had bottoming out. There is no way my Dr. didn't know that I bottomed out. All I did as type my syptoms on google and I got a correct diagnosis.

On my next follow up visit I told her that my right breast had bottomed out and she told me that I didn't and she went as far at to tell me that the pain and smptoms that I had were normal. I had to go and PAY another Dr just to hear what I already knew and what she was denying.She wanted to take no responsibilty and went as far as get angry and mistreat me.

I had a tummy tuck done. My stomach still protrudes and I still can't wear certain clothes. Before surgery and she told me my entire stomach would be lipoed.After surgery I could see something wasn't right and I asked her if she lipoed my entire stomach and she said yes. She even told me to massage my stomach in the shower to help the swelling go down. She never lipoed my entire stomach. Later I found out that she couldn't have because if she did she would compromise the needed blood supply during surgery. She lied. I still can't believe that she told me to massage an area of my body that she KNEW she never lipoed.

I had my flanks lipoed and it wasn't done evenly on both sides. When I had my flanks lipoed she went in through my back and the 2 incision sites on my back are not even. How does a cometic surgeon make to uneven incisions on a persons back I ask myself. The only conclusion I have is that there wasn't any attention made when she made the incisions on my back.

Everything I had done by her did not turn out well. My right breast becomes so painful somedays that I feel like ripping it out of my body. My left breast is a hard ball. My breasts are not even. My bottoming out can get worse as time goes on. I would NEVER EVER recommend this doctor to anyone. You might think these are allegations from an unhappy patient and that she has her side. NO...I recorded her starting from my second follow up visit. She didn't want to help me, she was neglectful, rude, she acted irresponsibly as a medical doctor.

My experience has been so detrimental to me and my life. As I stated she did not want to help me so I asked for my money back so I could get fixed and not have to live like this she refused. I am doing everything to get the word out on this doctor. I have plans to start a website.

If you or anyone you know wants to speak to me feel free to email me. I don't want anyone to go through what I have been through. From what I am finding out this is a BIG problem in cosmetic surgery,doctors not taking responsibilty for there patients.

I'm so sorry this happened to you! Please keep fighting to avenge and fix this. Stay strong and may everything work itself out. Good luck, we will support you.
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what is the doctor name?
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Have you used her?
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Have to rewrite what I originally wrote..Sorry to...

Have to rewrite what I originally wrote..Sorry to all for that... would rewrite today..but feeling depressed over the entire thing...not functioning well...I still haven't had any revision work.. I don't know which doctor to trust... I am afraid to trust any doctor..I have to very soon..the pain in my right breast is getting worse.. Both my breasts don't feel right to me.. not just the right.. But I have more pain on my right breast... :( ... If anyone has had revision work in the NY area by a doctor and the operation was a success.. and the doctor is honest and not just out for a profit..please let me know.. I also need my tummy tuck redone.. my belly button is not centered on my stomach...so please.. if anyone has had revision work in the NY area and it was a success..please let me know..
Hoping things are getting better for you! Remember where here for you if you need!!
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I am so sorry....I can't imagine your pain and disappointment. Is this doctor Board Certified? I agree with some of the others...I would sue her butt off and make her pay for everything including my attorney.....Were all on your side and truly understand...Your in my prayers
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I'm sorry you've had such an unhappy result with your mommy makeover. As the other ladies have said, we are here to listen and help where we can. 

Here's a RealSelf member who was happy with her MM in New York. Perhaps you could send her a PM to connect and ask more questions.

Hang in there. We're all rooting for you.

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I would first like to thank and apologize to...

I would first like to thank and apologize to everyone who took the time out of there day to write to me. I am sorry that I have not written back. There are so many times that I have a hard time coping with this topic and I try to push it out of my mind. I am trying very hard to have a better outlook on things. I still don't look in the mirror when I am getting dressed. I still don't want to look. On the positive side. I don't think of myself as disfigured anymore. yes, my breasts are uneven and have different shapes and my belly button is not centered on my body but I will not use that word to describe myself any longer. I saw pictures of people who were severely burned on there body. Yes, my body looks odd and when I watch tv and see on the internet the media describing some celebrities who had cosmetic surgery as bad, botched and plastic surgery disasters and I saw some of the pictures and they weren't even that bad. For instance Tara Reid"s breast. She had some healing issues around her areola.It really didn't look bad. If the media calls that botched and bad. I wonder what they would say if she had her belly button not centered on her body like mine is or breasts like mine. I saw those pictures of those burn victims and no my body is not right. But I will not use that word to describe my body any longer. I am not disfigured, those poor, poor, poor people are :( although I am sure that there are people out there who would describe me as that... I am proud and happy that I won't and refuse use that word to describe myself... I am glad that I had this realization about myself and my body.Like I said I still refuse to look at myself in the mirror.I don't want to look. I am still feeling depressed over my experience. I don't regret having surgery. I would do it again minus the breast implants. I just would have picked a different doctor. The reason I wouldn't do my breasts again is because for instance I have snoopy dog deformity on my left breast and bottoming out on my right. I was told by a doctor that I needed more then just breast implants but I would have needed a lift as well. If I knew that I would have not had touched my breasts. I did ask my surgeon and she told me that I did not need it. So, now to properly fix myself I need a lift :( so I have to have a procedure done that I would never have had done to begin with not happy about that.


:) :) :) :) :) :) :) :) I am NOT disfigured!!!!!! :) :) :) :) :) :) :) :) :)
Thank you so, so very much for taking the time out of your day to write me kind words of encouragement. :) they are much needed...
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Good for you for keeping your chin up. I hope in time you can either get a revision or find even more peace with your body.

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:) thank you... you guys are the best on here.
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I want to say that I think this website is...

I want to say that I think this website is wonderful and much needed. I think that we as patients need to get more reviews out there about our doctors in order to help other patients. I think it is sad that I can find more reviews on a foundation, hair dye or a flat iron I am considering buying then a doctor that I am considering using for my body. We as patients should get more information out there about the doctors that we have used in order for us to have a better idea of which doctors are giving their patients their very best before a procedure, during a procedure and after a procedure. We want to know which doctors have the highest rate for patient procedure satisfaction. I know that not every single patient from every doctor will write a review but if a majority did we certainly would have a better idea. If there are doctors out there not doing was is right and in the best interest of their patients then we as patients should be informed. I think it is so sad that people can take the time out of there day to write about something like a face cream but not a doctor whether its good or bad. I love this website and I will be encouraging people to use it.
I am feeling a bit down. I was on the website TMZ and there was a picture of Nicki Minaj and she was in a bathing suit and she had some cellulite, well someone wrote a comment that she looked deformed. I thought if someone thinks she looks deformed I can only think of what they would say about me. I am still looking at doctors. I am just so scared. I wish I could go back in time. I wish I knew then what I know now. I would have never used my doctor. I cry myself to sleep at night thinking about my experience and I am not just taking about my surgical results. I wonder sometimes that I had three surgical procedures with her and all three need a revision and I think why couldn't at least one come out to where I didn't need a revision. :(

Thank you for your kind words about this site. That is why we are here: we are passionate about informing patients and potential patients. :0)

Don't listen to the jerks who say things about women's bodies. Nicki Minaj, first of all, is laughing all the way to the bank. Also, I heard a quote yesterday that 90% of all women have cellulite. I know it's tough, but men and even other women have such unrealistic expectations of women's bodies nowadays. It's truly frightening.

Hang in there! Virtual hugs!

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Haven't been on in a while..Still in the same...

Haven't been on in a while..Still in the same position...Have been looking online at doctors. I am so scared to trust anyone.. I am afraid of history repeating itself... I get so stressed when I have to address this topic..I haven't been eating, lost weight and I haven't been sleeping...and not eating or sleeping is taking toll on me, physically and mentally...I am mentally drained... I want to thank eveyone has ever taken the time to write to me :) thank you... I love this wesite...it really helps to conect people...Thank you realself...someone on here had a tummy tuck by my doctor... I would like so much to see her pictures..I asked her to share pictures..nothing yet...she was happy with her tummy tuck work...I think there are some people on here who might find it interesting as well... to see my results and hers...from the same doctor... one who was happy with her out come and one who is not... I think to myself she is lucky...lucky to have had a good experience and be happy with her results... I just hope so so so much that when I do have my revision work done.. I will be pleased...I hope I end up with a caring and talented doctor who will be able to fix me... and not just take my money.... Hope what I have written makes sence...mentally tired...my thoughts are every where.. I try to think positive about everything..I tell myself...ok your results aren't great...but they are not the worst...it could have ended up worse...I am trying so hard...
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I find it hard to believe that you were not happy with Dr. DeChiara. Everything you said contradicts what I have experienced. I have had a tummy tuck and lipo. She was the kindest doctor I have ever been to. The night before my tummy tuck she called just to see how I was feeling. I was blown away. I had my lipo done 5 days ago. She gave me her home number and her cell number. Because I was going on a trip she called me yesterday just to see how I was doing. No doctor has ever done that. I am so sorry you had such a bad experience. Hope you are doing better now.
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