2 more consults complete.....I think I found the one

And thank YOU for starting your story here. We're so happy to have you!

Here's a list of doctors in Miami who perform Mommy Makeovers. I'm glad you're going on several consultations so you can find the approach you feel most comfortable with.

And I'm also glad you're doing this for you and that your husband came around and went on the first consult with you. Way to stand your ground!

Please let us know how your other consultations go.

Will you be posting your before photos? It's always fun to watch the transformation.

Welcome! I'm so happy for you that you are doing this, but sad that it is without your husband's support. Do you know why he is against this? You will definitely need help and support when you're recovering, and negative energy won't help. I agree that his going with you seems like a slight thawing, though. Looking forward to following your story :)

I feel your Pain. My hubby too didnt want me to get BA 4 years ago....But....I think I Nagged at him enough and he finally caved in ;) Now, he Loves them. I think its an insecurity thing.

I hope for the best for you. I felt the same way. Do it for you!! I did it for me and no one else. I love it and feel so much better about myself. good luck.

No before pics?

My BF was/is very supportive. In the beginning he was skeptical until he did his own research. He also attended the consultations with me and has been my support system through this recovery. I opted for saline for safety reasons, and I'm aware of the new silicone implants. Just a personal preference

I'm in the same boat my fiance doesn't want me to get a mm either. Hes all the time offering to get me a car instead. But I think he knows now that I'm not going to budge. I think of it like this if someone truly loves you they will want what makes you happy and a better person. Not try to hold you back because of their own insecurities.

Good luck on your mommy makeover cant wait to see your results!

I've consulted with Pazmino, Azurin, Bal Harbor plastic surgery, and Amunategui. To me Azurin work is the best but he doesn't do the 2 procedures together. I'm going with Amunategui, he accepts insurance and got my breast reduction approved ....check them out if your still looking

Girl, it takes time. My hubby finally came around when he saw that I was depressed about my body and my lack of spontaneity...if you know what I mean. From what I've read, silicone feels more natural, although some doctors say that saline feels just as natural if it is inserted under the muscle. Of course, they'll all be hard in the beginning until they drop and soften.

While my hubby was behind me 100% with my Mommy Makeover, there have been other things that we do not agree on and both feel very strongly about.  For those things, the calculus is always: is this worth destroying my marriage?  Am I ready to be alone with my children and my job prospects?  And these are not leading questions--for some people the answer is an emphatic no!  For some, it is an emphatic yes!  For others, it's more difficult.  And the ages of your children will also play a great part in this.

It seems like you and hubby have been together since you were 14--which is…well, it's unusual.  This may be a time to take a step back and look at the relationship as a whole.  Is it possible to seek professional counseling on this topic?  Perhaps get a referral from your family doctor for a psychologist or counselor?  They can help you look at whether the relationship is healthy overall and there is just this one issue (the mommy makeover) to figure out, or whether there are other systemic problems.

Good luck to you, and I'm glad you came back to give us an update.  I hope you'll continue to keep us posted.  

Peace.

Hello!! Sorry this journey hasn't been one for your husband to accept. In the beginning my fiancee didn't accept it either....but he generally leads toward what makes me happy. After all happiness is a major thing when relating to union. My fiancee actually ended up paying for both my procedures and is in love with my new body.I simply told him i bared two children for him as well, his body still looks good but mine had been ruined. i ask why was that fair?! And when he looked deep into the situation he felt he should pay the full amount to help restore my body. He actually now states "i'm glad we did this, i'm in love with your new body". Not only did i benefit, but so did he!

Your body look just like mine. I want to know if you got the procedures done.

Hi. I'm sorry to hear that your husband isn't on board with the idea. I too am looking into surgeons for my MM procedure and am considering Hochstein. Above all reasons for having the surgeries done, I'd have to say that my self confidence is the main reason. My husband and I have been through pretty much everything when it comes to my self issues. Although he's not one for "fake body parts," he came to terms with the idea when he realized how much better it would make our relationship because I will finally be happy with myself. For so many years, my husband and 5 children (2 adopted-but the others really did a number on my body when I developed Polyhymnia during 2 of the pregnancies) have put off cruises, beach outings and water parks due to my fear of stares and whispers by others who can be just downright cruel. My husband did have a fear of extra attention I might draw because let's face it; some men are just pigs and will stare at anything with a flat stomach and nice breasts. My husband and I decided to sit down and have a true, open conversation about any concerns, including risks, scars, and even future insecurities. Once we discussed everything, my husband realized that all his fears could be answered by each consultation and he joins me (with his own questions and concerns for each doctor). As for his concerns about jealousy, he had to take a step back and remember who I am, and that a surgery isn't going to change my morals or love for him. I know that my husbands concerns and your husbands concerns are different, but remind him that a marriage consists of a team of 2 ppl who work together to compromise and support each other in all journeys of life. When my husband decided to begin body building, I hated the idea! I can still remember the image I had of my husband being muscle bulked and veins protruding all over his body. The image down right made me sick. Lol. Now, he's still working on building his muscle mass and he looks nothing as bad as I imagined. If I had refused to allow him to accomplish what he wanted at that time due to my fears, I would have kept him from something he really wanted, and all for nothing because he looks great! My suggestion is to sit down with your husband and ask him to PLEASE take a part in this and to give his thoughts and ask the doctors about his concerns when it comes to the breast and any other issues he may have. I have learned from experience that people generally fear things that they don't know much about ( like the fear I had of my husbands body building). Taking the time together to learn about the MM procedure will help immensely. Good luck.

Sorry to hear your husband isn't being supportive. I say keep talking about it to him. You don't wanna do it if he isn't supportive because there's nothing like a couple that harmonizes together! Good luck!