Im 57 years old and I didnt hate my face which...
Im 57 years old and I didnt hate my face which made this decision especially difficult. I should say I didnt hate my face in the mirror! When I hated it was in photos that I didnt take myself, in the angle that I didnt choose. If it was a pic I didnt take I found that person to be someone I didnt know! My lower face was fat!! No matter how much I would diet and although I was not any heavier than I was in my youth I still had what appeared to be a FAT FACE! I saw a few surgeons. One that I visited 2 years ago who said I "was not ready for a lift" 2 years later he said "you're ready now!" I figured that meant it was time , however, I didnt much care for him and went to the doctor who had been doing my dermal fillers for more than 6 years. He always did a great job on my lips, never making them too big or weird and I came to trust his conservative approach. One month ago he did a fraxel laser and though it is still red, the crepey skin around my eyes is gone!
I hounded him with questions and he was always patient and thorough! I felt like he understood my desires. I showed him a pic of just 4 years ago ( before menopause kicked in) and that was all I wanted. Yesterday was the big day! The staff seemed a bit rushed. I felt like that anyway. That was disappointing. A few hours later I was awake and they raved about how quick it went. That didnt exactly ease my mind! The said I looked 25 again...I didnt want to look 25 but I accepted that they were just being nice! Then I asked for a mirror hoping I would see it before the bulk of swelling set in. I was shocked to see ET in the mirror! I looked very pulled! like that windswept look that we always fear! I told them so and I think I hurt their feelings, however, I expected them to say "well you are already swollen and once it goes down you will look great" Instead they said "no you dont you look great!" I didnt and still dont know how to take this! Is this the way Im supposed to look? My eyes look slanted! I am REALLY swollen today and I expect that! I expected to look in the mirror today and hate myself but what about yesterday? What about 4 hours after the surgery? Was that swelling I saw or is that what I will look like in 2 weeks? 3 weeks or 6 months? I keep reassuring myself that none NONE of his pictures of previous clients looked even the least bit unnatural. On the contrary they looked like very little was done which is what I wanted!
Im scared to death that he pulled me too much! Has anyone else felt this way? At this point I wish I didnt do it! All the pain and agony and worry is not worth it! I am seeing them today to have the drains removed. I will ask him if I was truly swollen when I saw myself the first time and report back to you then!
Post op march 27
Drains removed and reassurance that I was not overly pulled. I am much more swollen and I expected that. Still I wondered why the nurse was in the room with us with a very concerned look on her face! Haha! I guess we can be overly sensitive to anything that seems out of the ordinary!
Stayed home all day and napped a lot which is very unlike me. Well, Im not sleeping well at night so I guess it just makes sense to make up for it during the day. Swollen and painful around the stitches. I looked like an alien still!
4 hours Post F/L surgery
Evening of the surgery. I hate the drains so I took a pill and went to sleep. I just want it over! I feel pulled too tight!
Day 2 post op
My doctor says he put just a "little' bit of fat down the troughs of my eyes and around my chin but that has really swollen up today!
Day 4 post op
I really dont have much bruising. A little on the sides of my face and down my neck. I had a lot of kale smoothies weeks before...maybe that helped?
Sick and tired of hanging around the house. Trying on some disguises!
I got tickets to the baseball game tomorrow! I called the nurse and she said go for it so I trying some looks. Can I get away with it???
6 days post op
Out with SOME stitches. I thought I would have them all out but he said only the ones that could possibly leave permanent spots. So most are still in. Thats ok...they dont really bother me and what he took out hurt! He said the staples are what bother people the most and I agree, that is what causes the most discomfort, right in the back of the head! Still cant chew...Im looking quite slender, an unexpected perk since I was worried I'd gain weight from sitting around and not exercising! There is now considerable bruising on my neck and jowls...so there go my bragging rights!
6 days post op
Off to the baseball game. I got the ok but now that its over I wish I didnt! It seemed a bit too much for me!
Take me out to the ballgame????
Well other than the pain in my left temple when I chew or even yawn I feel just great! I even went to the baseball game yesterday. It was a mile walk there and a mile back plus all the stairs and walking around the ballpark and even though Im showing no ill signs of pushing myself I still think that was way over the top, a four hour game and my team lost anyway :( Since I can't eat anything more than soup and yogurt I had nothing to eat there, coupled with all the walking I am now down to my lowest weight in a long time! The swelling goes down everyday ever so slightly! I hope I can keep the weight down long enough to enjoy both my new face AND new figure!
1 full week post op
I think I am finally less swollen than the moments right after the surgery when they handed me the mirror! My eyes are my own eyes again! I dont look as wide in the temples (like ET :D)) My jawline is still very swollen which Im disappointed about as I would like to see a smooth jaw esp since that heaviness was what bothered me most before surgery. But I know it will subside. Thats probably the area that got beat up the most. A bit of bruising. My temple doesnt hurt as much anymore and more stitches out tomorrow!
2 weeks post op
I have to keep reminding myself I just had surgery a few weeks ago! I feel pretty normal now unless I feel the sides of my numb and hard face. I took a chance to venture to MX for a little R and R and "little" was what I got! Because we had a boat delivered from San Diego I have been on the run since I got here. Walking back and forth the the marina office, searching for banks and services, shopping for needed supplies for the boat. Walking stairs constant movement. Yes Ive been worried Im pushing myself too soon. I have literally been on a chaise lounge 30 minutes in these past 3 days! The good news is my face shows no signs of stress as a result of it all. I still have the pain in my left temple if I chew ANYTHING that has texture at all! That has been rough as the food here is fabulous..oh well, frijoles and rice always work! Im overdue now for my final stitch removal. I hope I am not asking for trouble there! Aside from a few tiny bruises on my neck and jaw it would be tough for a beholder to know I had anything done so I feel confident going anywhere now, even among those who know me. As I said, still numbness, still some swelling but not too visible to an untrained eye. All is pretty good overall and I like what I see. Honestly the redness which continues from the laser more than 6 weeks ago is what bothers me more than anything from the surgery! Anyone having laser??? Prepare for the stubborn redness! It takes a long, long time to subside!
3 weeks and 4 days later
I am visiting my 2 daughters ages 22 and 25. I did tell them I was going to do a F/L N/L but did not say when so when they saw me they were still not sure. When I asked what they thought ,,they both said they thought I looked better but weren't sure why.. but as they continued to study my face they both agreed I look great! I showed them a before shot to remind them and they really thought the improvement was amazing! And so here is my wrap up...
I am very happy with my outcome. I do not look done. I have several opinions now to back that up! My neck is not as tight as I would have thought BUT my daughters agree it looks age appropriate and that anything tighter would have looked odd. So props to my PS for that intuition also! I did not do my eyes and I DO NOT regret it. I dont have a problem with my hooded eyes. Its a family trait and I did not want to look like a different person. I DID, however, do the fractional laser around my eyes and that really improved the texture of the eyelid skin which is just what they needed. Perhaps in 6 months I will laser again to tighten them further.
The SMAS method is just amazing! I love having cheeks again! My jowls are tighter and though still swollen, do not make my face look fat when I smile for the camera!
I would lend this advice to anyone reading who is considering cosmetic surgery....think about the eye surgery carefully. Dont just go ahead with it because "oh well, I will be out anyway" Or "its just costs a little more "...etc... As I read many reviews on this site it seems the post eye surgery is what gets most people down. I personally just think its overkill! Do you really hate your eyes? If so then consider it but dont be talked into it just because of convenience sake!
My only complaint is that I still have residual pain in my left temple when I chew. That has me a little concerned as it has been almost a month and I have been only eating soft foods and still cant have a full on yawn without pain.
However....All in all ...Im happy and I would recommend my surgeon 100%.
I will gladly private message anyone with photos if requested. I just dont want anyone I know to run across my photos on the internet. No one would guess what I had done and I would like to keep it that way!
Bio-identical hormone replacement therapy
Ok so face is looking great! I look younger and so it was now time to FEEL as good as I look so I decided to seek out a natural minded doctor to help with the menopause symptoms. She prescribed BHRT creams...So I have been on this cream for 2 weeks, a mix of estrogen and progesterone and some testosterone. So in just 2 weeks I have gained 5 pounds and I'm bleeding...this did not seem like a good idea at all...now I don't want to go out at all because I feel fat!!! Only positive is that I no longer have the hot flashes but its not worth it! I'd rather be hot than fat! So thats my update....Its the height of summer fun and swimsuits and Im a chubba and I'm MAD!!!! Anyone have experience with this stuff???