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5 weeks Post Op and Turning the Corner!

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I am a 44 year old mom of 3 kids. I nursed for 6...

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Mama Mama Mia
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I am a 44 year old mom of 3 kids. I nursed for 6 years total. I have always had issues with small breasts as a kid - and was teased, etc., etc., etc.
I loved the feeling of femininity of having full breasts - which I experienced during pregnancy and during nursing. Now that I am done having kids, I feel like I am in the prime of my life, however, my breasts are just dilapidated. I am in good physical shape, am 5'5 and weigh about 125 pounds. Finally, our kids are old enough for my husband and I to have romantic weekends, but I just don't feel much like ever taking my bra off, because it is so depressing.
I would love to feel sexy again and to enjoy myself naked.
I know I have three beautiful kids and I am feeling somewhat selfish for thinking of doing this surgery, as my husband loves me just the way I am. Is it a low self esteem thing to do this? I don't know... I do know that it really isn't that much different from anything else that I do to make myself look my best - shaving, waxing, facials, manicures, pedicures, even teeth crowns and so on. BUT, surgery seems kind of extreme. Yet, I really think I would love the results.
I am looking at so many people who are pleased with the results and the doctor I have chosen seems to be so experienced, compassionate and knowlegable. I felt comfortable right away with him and his staff.
Anyhow, I am also a Christian, so I am wondering if I am doing something that God thinks is... weird, right?
But, as I pray about it I have a peace as it being no big deal in the big scheme of things....
Anybody else feeling this way?
I have my pre-op appointment on Tuesday and my surgery date already scheduled for March 27th.. I will be making my official commitment at the pre-op appointment, since that is when payment is due....
So far I am looking at doing an internal lift as well as silicone implants, 400cc under the muscle with the incision under the breast fold.
Also - am worried somewhat about post op infection, blood clots, complications...
But, still excited about it all too... this website has been helpful to see and hear everyone's stories!

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March 9, 2013
It is not selfish. The happier and content a mother and wife is - the more her family will benefit from her and her care of them. We sometimes need a reminder to take care of ourselves FIRST. I am in the same boat as you, Sista! We are all on this journey together - i feel it is high time I did this for my own feeling of ME. We have all sacrificed for our children - don't get me wrong totally worth it! But now it's time for a little somethin somethin for me. :)
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March 9, 2013
Thank you for your reminder and encouragement. So, I figure if I gave 6 years nursing at $1,000 per year - pays for the BA, right? Ha,ha,ha! I see you are from Kenya. I work a lot in Uganda. Been back and forth about 15 times. Great weather there, and so many wonderful people. I miss it a lot. Hope your wait time passes quickly!
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March 9, 2013
I am old enough to know that it will not! LOL! Good point on the nursing years.....Well, I nursed 2 kids for a total of 3 years - At 2 grand a year - still worth it! Do you still come to Uganda? I have lived in Kenya for more than 16 years now. It is my home and I don't think I would ever want to leave.... :) But on the total positive side for you - you can have your procedure close to home. I have a couple of long flights ahead of me and will not be at home for the intense portion of the recovery process.
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March 21, 2013
Hi there, I had replied to your message a while back, but somehow my submissions that day didn't post. : ( I do still go to Uganda, in fact I may be heading back that way as early as 8 weeks post op. Hoping all will go well if I have to travel. That is a bummer that you will have to travel so much to get everything done, but there are also advantages to not being home to recover in the early stages as there are a lot of temptations to do tooo much when you are at home. There is always so much to do. Maybe you can get the rest you need by not being around too many distractions. I am envious that you are able to live in Kenya. Uganda is definitely my second home. However, my husband's work is pretty intense here in the US so it isn't really possible right now to live over there. So, needless to say, I have been doing a lot of traveling back and forth. Blessings to you and hope all goes well with everything for you!
March 22, 2013
Thank you, I wish you well and hope your healing goes well and that you will be happy. At least you are young, so I am sure you will heal well and won't have so much pain. God Bless You and keep in touch. Mary 6151
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March 10, 2013
I have felt the same way. Worrying God being disappointed in me, am I sinning, etc. etc. I started looking at it in the same way as people having braces for strictly cosmetic reasons. As long as you don't go around flaunting your new assets I think it is fine. We can dye our hair, paint our nails, pierce our ears (among other things) so we feel "improved." And we normally don't even question it. Congrats!
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March 21, 2013
Thank you Val 587. God bless you and I wish you the best!
March 10, 2013
I am 44 too. I got 170cc moderate profile one month ago. I love them. Only regret is not doing it sooner. Very natural 32c or 30d from aa. Don't feel guilty. You deserve to do something for yourself. Trust me. Breast feeding ravages my boobs! They look freat
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March 21, 2013
Hi there, I had submitted a reply to you earlier, but somehow my posts never went through! Thanks for sharing your experience! Are you feeling back to normal yet? I am worried - actually terrified of exercising too soon and having a major problem... otherwise I am not feeling too nervous.
March 28, 2013
Yes, I am now 6 weeks post op and feeling better. I know It's going to take me longer to heal due to my age of 61. I have started to exercise a bit more and my body lets me know how much I can do. Take care of yourself.If you have concerns call your doctors office and talk to a nurse or ask him questions on your followups. I called several times and they were very kind and gave me instructions on what to do. Remember, your doctor is working for you. God Bless You. Mary6151
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March 11, 2013

Thank you for sharing your story and personal feelings on RealSelf. We are similar in build and beliefs....and 7 years post op, I still don't regret my decision. I went with saline/220cc's and I feel much better about myself...and I did not start out with low self esteem. :)  Will you have someone to help you during your recovery?

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March 21, 2013
Hi BethH. Thank you for sharing. Yes, my husband will be there to help. Glad to hear that 7 years later you are still happy with your results. God bless!
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March 21, 2013
One week to go.... Paid in full (woohoo!). Now just waiting for the big day. Cleaning my house, organizing paperwork, taking vitamens... A little worried because my surgery is next week on Wednesday and my son has had a stomach flu. Trying to stay away and keep everything super clean! Also concerned because my brother, his wife and my nephew fly in from out of state and will arrive on Saturday (three days after the surgery day). Sunday is Easter and we are driving up to the mountains for a week - the guys are going skiing (obviously I am not!) I am hoping I won't be too out of it to enjoy their company. And I don't plan on openly sharing my 'boob' news with them unless it simply can't be avoided.... But, otherwise, I am looking forward to getting this over with, the anticipation (and worry) are pretty crazy right now!
March 28, 2013
Hope you are doing well. Take great care and follow your doctors instructions. Keep yourself warm. The reason I say that is because my breasts seem to be sensitive to the cold right after my surgery and even now that I am 6 weeks post op the cold temp. seems to bother me a little. Rest and pamper yourself. I will keep you in my prayers. Keep me posted. Mary6151
UPDATED FROM Mama Mama Mia
1 day pre

So, tomorrow is the big day! My house is not as...

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So, tomorrow is the big day! My house is not as clean as I would have hoped, but kids have had the stomach flu... so glad I didn't get it. I have been washing my hands and everything like crazy. I am done eating and drinking now until after the surgery. I have to be there at 9:30 am. My husband is so not thrilled, but he will come around. He is not against it, just thinks it's unnecessary and doesn't understand. But he does know that I want to do this for me so he is trying to be supportive in his own way.
I had a crazy thing happen tonight. I witnessed a three car wreck right in front of me at an intersection. I was so fortunate to be there to help a young mom who was ok, but really upset. I had some wet wipes to wipe her face as the airbag hit her pretty hard and her nose was bleeding quite a bit. She was so thankful that I was there to give her a hug and pray with her. I gave her some bottled water and just sat and talked to her. Everyone else seemed to be fine and was walking around. Her car was totaled. It just was a reminder to me that life is so short. I am feeling good about getting this done now and not waiting or wondering. Anything can happen in an instant. Why not do the things we have always wanted to do right!
I feel pretty fortunate to get this surgery tomorrow and I hope and pray that my recovery will go smoothly. I will update more tomorrow. I have been a nervous wreck all week worrying about every possible disaster that could happen. But, somehow I am feeling more at peace now. I think I will even sleep tonight....

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UPDATED FROM Mama Mama Mia
Day of treatment

Well, my surgery went well this afternoon. The...

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Well, my surgery went well this afternoon. The patch they gave me to wear the night before to combat nausea made me so dizzy and off balance, but I haven't really been nauseated. I only have to wear the patch for another day or two, so that part is good. I have been eating and drinking normally which is nice. Already had a bowel movement, so thank God for that. After I came home, i slept for a few hours which helped to get over the anesthesia. I was dillerious when I left the hospital I don't even remember coming home. I also had to keep my eyes shut as everything was spinning.
But, now the rest of my body is really fine. My boobs are SOOOO sore though. Although the Dr. said everything is ok. There is only one strange reaction I had to everything and that is that my face and torso are red and so itchy - I devoloped some kind of allergy or something. The Doctor did say this rash is somewhat common, so that eased my mind. I started to take the steroid tablets as that should help with calming down the rash. I am also taking Benedryl which should help quite a bit I think. Other than that, I have no bruising, just extreme discomfort for now. I have been able to walk around though just fine which will help combat getting any blood clots. The 'girls' are swollen right now but otherwise seem to be doing good! Oh, I forgot to say that I am also taking arnica for bruising, etc. That along with an antibiotic, a musle relaxer. The Dr. also gave me strong painkillers, but I don't want to take them as they usually make me feel sicker. I am allowed to take motrin after 48hours, which I look forward to, as that works best for me rather than the strong pain killers the Dr. prescribed. Of course Motrin doesn't remove all of the pain by any means, but it does keep the edge off and doesn't knock me out like the strong pain killers.
So, I ended up doing ultrahigh silicone implants that I think were the equivalent of 425cc's, but I don't even really know as I was so out if it after the surgery, I just left in a haze.
I anticipate that tomorrow will be rough, and then hopefully I will start to come out of it as time passes. My husband has been invaluable and is helping me endlessly. Can't wait until the 'girls' drop and the pain subsides! And am thankful it is now over, woohoo!

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March 28, 2013
Wow, your story describing your feelings were mine to a T! I too, being a Christian, struggled with feeling this is the body/boobs God gave me and I should be happy! I'm 1 year out and do not regret it for a second. I have 4 kids, 18 yr., 15 yr., 13 yr., and 11 yr. old...nursed them all. They were so understanding/supportive of my decision. Which meant the world to me. I have 397cc silicone with a small lift on lefty. Pain only for 24 hours then showered, doing arm lifts, laundry on day 2 and then shopped/out o lunch on day 3. Pain will subside the more you are active. Keep moving! Best wishes!
March 28, 2013
Thank you for your reply and I'm so happy you are doing well. I am now 6 weeks post op and feel better. I am starting to exercise a little more. You are right, I must keep moving and have a positive attitude. God Bless you. I cannot thank you enough for your reply. Mary6151
April 10, 2013
Love your post. . Very encouraging to me. . Thank you!
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March 28, 2013
I am so blessed by your review and posts, i too am a christian and was internally struggling with the whole "what does God think of me doing this" I went as far as researching well known Christian leaders online and discovered a handful that have prayed and felt Gods peace over their plans to get a procedure, most of course were facial procedures because they are on national television reaching millions. Nonetheless, I understood that God is with us and will never leave us nor forsake us and he knows what we are thinking and desiring to do. He wants us to include him in our plans through out our lives, because I finally understood that I can't hide anything from him, i decided to thank him for his immense favor over my surgery tomorrow morning and his peace came over me a few days ago. I have chosen to tell less of my christian friends for the same reason, i want Gods presence with me not others judgments or opinions. But yes, I felt the same way as you did and Im up next because God has made a way for me to go through this in financial provision, husband support, and the necessary support I've gotten from a small group on wingless angels on this site. I will be praying for your speedy and most favorable healing. Thank you again for being real on here i needed to see this so that I know I'm not alone. I declare Gods favor is all over you and by his stripes you are healed in Jesus name! Sweet dreams :)
March 28, 2013
Thank you so much for your post. I also will keep you in my prayers. You are not alone. You have made me feel so much better, I cannot thank you enough. God has helped me, I know he has because I do feel like I am healing and my mental state of mind is more at peace. Again, I thank you so very, very much for your reply and I will be praying for you as well. Keep me posted on your surgery. God Bless You. Mary6151
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April 4, 2013
Thank you for your beautiful prayers! I appreciate that so much and couldn't agree with you more. My prayers are with you too- may God be with you over the next days and weeks. Peace, healing and an extra covering if His precious love over you!
April 10, 2013
Thank you for posting this. ..I need this right now. .